S.C. asks from Fayetteville, AR on February 24, 2008
Do Young Babies Have Nightmares?
My sweet little 3-month old has started in the past week to wake up in the night just absolutely screaming. It's an urgent, desperate sounding cry, like he's terrified or in pain. Sometimes, he is still asleep during these episodes and we just have to pick him and hold him and he calms down and drifts back into a calm sleep. Other times, he actually wakes up and the only way to console him is to take him into bed with us, which I don't really like to do, but you know, when you're totally exhausted, you do what you have to for some rest. I don't really think it's pain because he calms just by being held or put it bed with us. But it's also not really that I-want-attention cry: you know, whiny, stopping occasionally to listen to whether anyone is coming or not. It's like a something-is-really-wrong cry and I hate it! Anyone have any advice?
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M.L. answers from Tulsa on February 27, 2008
It almost sounds like gas, moving into a confined area then suddenly out again when he is picked- up but I want to see the rest of the responses.
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M.B. answers from Austin on February 26, 2008
This is very normal. Both of my children did this (my 19 month old still does occasionally)a lot-- often nightly. I think it's just their brain's way of sorting the information out that they've learned. Just hug and love on him and let him know you're there.
I've read that it disappears by age 3.
This is the reason why there are a growing number of Moms who sleep with their children til then. Children are generally just restless sleepers til age about age 3.
My 4 year stopped at 2 and a half and has slept like a rock ever since. :)
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A.Y. answers from Jackson on February 25, 2008
i think it's more likely gas... babies have nothing to be scared of at this age my son didn't start to have nightmares until he was like three which is the same time that he learned that there were somethings that he needed to be afraid or weary of
G.L. answers from Tuscaloosa on February 26, 2008
Maybe, or maybe they are just scared because they are alone, brand new to the world and desperately need you reassurance, warmpth, and cuddle. I brought my daughter to be with me every now and them until she was about 8 months old and after that she didnt want to be in my bed-she wanted to be held...sooo I held her...and now at 16 months she doesnt need either. Just stages. I met her needs when she had them and they she grew to the next stage and didnt need me anymore, now she has her baby doll to help her through the night =)
A.H. answers from Tulsa on February 25, 2008
This might be night terrors. I had this when I was a baby and my parents said I would still be asleep and would keep screaming, even when they were holding me. My episodes would last anywhere from a minute or two to 20 minutes. I wouldn't be immediately comforted, the episode would pass by itself.
Also, as far as regular nightmares, I think babies can have them. My son sometimes would be sound asleep and then start crying like he was scared or sad and I would have to pick him up and hold him for him to calm down. As he got older, I found out it was the same cry he had when he was scared I would leave him, like when I went in another room and he was left by himself for a little bit. As far as advice, I don't really have much. My son quit having the bad dreams as frequently, and now it's maybe once a month. Hopefully it will pass soon. Good luck!
A.S. answers from Little Rock on February 26, 2008
It is called night terrors, all you can do is keep calm and sit with him till its over. Just tell him he's okay, Mama's here, and it will pass. The biggest thing is don't freak out, which is easy to do when you child seems in trouble like this. Just breathe and be there for him. No, they don't go away but they do lessen. My child also walked and had full conversations in her sleep, if you find this happening, just ask, "are you awake" and they will tell you, if asleep, don't wake him up, just guide him back to bed.
Hope this helps.
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C.D. answers from Baton Rouge on February 25, 2008
It is possible for babies to dream. However I would first have this precious one checked by his doctor to rule out a medical cause.
It could be some anxiety of awakening in room alone.
You might try a Cd/sound device that has soothing sounds at night.
After ruling out any physical problem.
God Bless
CD-Grandmother
J.R. answers from Fayetteville on February 25, 2008
Could be nightmares, but could be gas too! I know that gas would wake up my baby girl. I would just pick her up, and pat her back a little, and usually she would go right back to sleep.
A.P. answers from Lawton on February 26, 2008
There is the possibility of night frights. It is a real situation. My oldest son had these in his second year. He would do it at night or even during a deep daytime nap. He would "wake up" crying and sometimes whaling saying he wanted momma. When I would go up to him and say momma's here he would push me, cry harder and say no I want MY momma. It was hard for him and for me. He never remembered doing this the next day. I could always tell when he was having these because his eyes would be glassy looking. He would even do it in the car on long trips. He always screamed and said he was needing to peepee really bad. When we pulled over he didn't really need to go because he was actually awake at that time. There is really nothing we were told we could do except DO NOT WAKE HIM UP DURING THESE EPISODES!! He eventually out grew them.
K.J. answers from Stationed Overseas on February 26, 2008
I was told that babies have nightmares about things that startle them during the day (loud noises, sudden movements, etc.). I always let my babies nurse until they fell back asleep and that seemed to do the trick very quickly. Hope this helps a little!
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