Do You Think This Is Weird?

Updated on May 09, 2013
S.R. asks from Kansas City, MO
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ok, so i have been married for almost 7 years and have a beautiful wedding ring that i absolutely love! (and a wonderful husband to go with it) well, i have been on this kick to purchase several "costume jewelry" wedding sets. I pay no more than $70.00 for them. they are CZ rings and look real. I now have two fake wedding sets and i love that in the morning i can chose which set to wear depending on what mood i am in. i always wear my wedding ring to work and i feel like i am just being creative. no one has an issue with it except one person that i work with. she says that i am being insecure about my real wedding ring. i dont feel that i am. when i asked several other people i found that two other women do the same thing. one gal has her deceased mothers wedding set that she wears on occasion and then her normal wedding set and then a very small band with diamonds wedding ring. is this wrong? i talked to my DH before i purchased the rings and he just laughed at me and said 'whatever you want babe"
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thank you for your responses! i was feeling kinda insecure in the beginning. oh and the only reason i discussed at work was because i came to work not wearing my original wedding set and she asked when i got that ring... so i kinda explained what i ws doing. that is when i got the weird looks and lots of questions. thanks everyone. happy friday!

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

Ya know, I never thought of doing that. But I think it's kinda cool actually. People need to lighten up.

:)

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S.L.

answers from Boca Raton on

I don't even wear my wedding ring set many times, and I absolutely love them, its just that when I am fixing things, or doing yard work, sometimes I would rather not worry about them. I take them off to do something, and then I leave them off lots of times for weeks. I am not wearing them now, as a matter of fact. No one has ever noticed or said anything. Do whatever you want!

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J.C.

answers from Anchorage on

I have not worn my wedding ring in almost 10 years. I have a couple of fake ones I wear on that finger from time to time. To me the ring is just a ring, the commitment I made is in my heart.

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R.M.

answers from Washington DC on

I think it's weird to pass judgement on someone else's jewelry habits.

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H.W.

answers from Portland on

I think your husband is right: do what you like. Personally, I think your coworker needs to learn an old lesson: mind your own business.

Seriously, if someone was trying to analyze why I was wearing costume jewelry (umm... obviously for fun!) I would have laughed right in her face... not a pretty "ha-ha" laugh but the guffaw of incredulity.... because who the heck says what she said?!

Enjoy your bling!

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C.V.

answers from Columbia on

I think SHE has an odd need to control other people. Why on earth would she care if someone else likes to switch their jewelry?

I wouldn't worry about it one bit. Continue to do what you like. You're only insecure if you feel the need to justify your actions to this person.

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

I can't even imagine anyone noticing my ring changed unless it was some stupidly large center stone. Strange that they were discussing it at all.

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H.L.

answers from Houston on

I think, "Whatever you want, Babe."

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X.O.

answers from Chicago on

My style when I got engaged 12 years ago is VERY different than my style today. So, when my fingers swelled during pregnancy and I couldn't wear my wedding rings anymore, I bought a CZ bridal set from Nordstrom Rack to get me through the time until my fingers went back to normal size. I chose something that reflects my current tastes, which is more modern than my 20 year old self liked.

I still wear the CZ rings on occassion. I just like change. I change my hair style or color every year or so too.

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P.G.

answers from Dallas on

You're fine. She's weird.

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H.M.

answers from Dallas on

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks!!! If you and your husband have no problem with it that's there problem!!!

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L.R.

answers from Washington DC on

Honey, go for it! If your husband is OK with it -- if he isn't feeling hurt that you're not wearing his one and only ring that he gave you -- and you enjoy it, then do what you like, when you like!

My brother has a jewelry company. At one point he himself had three different wedding bands he would change around to wear (regular gold, white gold, rose gold). A guy can do it too! He has mentioned to me that he knows of women who have more than one wedding band, or who swap around a weddiing band, engagement ring, and one or more anniversary rings or eternity rings. Of course, being a jeweler, he hopes everyone does this with his fabulously expensive jewelry! But as his more bargain-oriented sister, I say, you go with those CZs and just enjoy. Jewelry is supposed to please you, the wearer.

Sounds to me like you and your husband have a good, humorous and supportive relationship where he's not intimidated by the idea of merely wearing a different ring.

At this moment, my engagement and wedding rings are hanging out in my room because I've got housework to do....

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M.E.

answers from Tampa on

I think you can do what you want. You don't need to discuss this with people at work either.

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P.W.

answers from Dallas on

each to his own. it may be weird to your co-worker, but obviously it isn't to you. I say don't worry about it and enjoy your styling!

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

I agree with your husband.
And I wouldn't spend two seconds worrying about the opinions of a coworker!

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B..

answers from Dallas on

Not weird. Whatever floats your boat, ya know?

I doubt people can't tell they aren't real, though. Even high quality cz don't look like the real thing if you look at them for a bit. (Not that it matters in any way, I'm just bored and talking ;)

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

of course it's not 'wrong.'
it IS unusual.
nothing wrong with that. if your dh is cool with it, and you enjoy it, what's the prob?
khairete
S.

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L.B.

answers from Boston on

The coworker that said you are being insecure about your real wedding ring is ridiculous. Who cares what she thinks. The stone fell out of my wedding ring years ago and we haven't had the money to replace it, so I have not worn a wedding band or ring in a few years. I have worn a CZ on occasion but just more comfortable with a naked finger - Only once has someone said something to me and that was a single coworker who I said that I better get a ring on my finger or the guys would think that I am available - I can careless what she thinks - I don't act available so it is not a problem - my husband doesn't wear a ring either, his got crushed and we just never replaced it. I do not feel threatened in anyway - I know my husband is an honest and ethical person who I can trust and he trust me. So, anyway I am blabbing on and on about everything except your question. No it is not weird - do what you want!

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M.D.

answers from Washington DC on

I have my original wedding band in my armoire. I wear my original engagement ring with two anniversary bands on a daily basis. I like bling!

The anniversary bands were my 7th year gift...we will hit 9 this year and 10 next year. When we were in St. Thomas this past January, my husband wanted to get a new set for me when we renew our vows at our 10th anniversary (we just did the courthouse thing in 2004, so we want to go to a church and have our families there). So I will have two actual wedding sets.

The one I wear now is yellow gold. The one I'll get in about 18 months is white gold. If anyone were to judge what *I* wear, I would laugh at them.

Oh, also if I want to go "smaller," I will just wear my original wedding band and not the three that I normally wear (they are sodered together).

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P.K.

answers from New York on

Whatever works for you. As for me my wedding g band was only off once. Kept in on thru many many surgeries. It was just taped. However when my kidney was removed, it had to come off. It was only off for the six hour surgery. My husband came into recovery to put it back on. For us that works. He has never had his off either. After 38 years, I really would be afraid to take off. I do, however, wer my Moms diamond wedding band when we go out. We all like different things. Who cares what others think. Have a great weekend.

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B..

answers from Dallas on

Push back. Ignore it. Wear what you want.

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L.P.

answers from Boca Raton on

i don't wear my engagement nor my wedding ring. i don't like jewelry, so let my husband choose them, which he did, and his taste sucks more than mine. he doesn't wear his either. we are just not into jewelry, so if anyone wonders why, i could care less. so no i don't find your thing weird at all.

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J.E.

answers from Minneapolis on

You're married regardless of what ring (if any) you're wearing. When you're engaged, the ring is a symbol of that promise and you can remove it and end the realtionship. After you're married, you can take the ring off but you're still married.
Wear what you like - styles, tastes and moods change. Your husband doesn't have a problem with it so go with what you feel like at the moment. It's not disrespectful of your love or commitment in the least. Bling it up!

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E.X.

answers from Kalamazoo on

Anyone passing judgement on your rings is likely envious. Smile as wide and bright as the bling on your finger and have a great day!

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answers from Miami on

I'm not sure if you are asking if it's weird to want to wear several wedding ring sets, or if it's weird for someone you work with to notice and have a comment about it.

I've never heard of anyone doing what you do, wearing fake wedding sets. I know people who wear costume jewelry on their other fingers.

I guess I wonder why you bothered to pay to have an expensive set... but to each her own.

It's not your co-worker's business. If she keeps it, just say to her "Whatever" and ignore her. If you don't have anything else to say, she'll finally stop talking about it.

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S.A.

answers from Kansas City on

Interested to see what all have to say, but it comes down to this: If you and your husband are ok with it, then, that's all that matters. Some ladies think I'm "weird" because I take my rings off for dishes, bed, shower, etc....
My husband does, too for certain things, too. And if you wear your ring 24/7 good for you. I just can't. We're all different so do what works for you and your life.

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