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Do You Have "Play Clothes" for Your Kids?

My 7-year old stepdaughter is very hard on her clothes and shoes (like most kids her age are) and when I met her, every single shirt and pair of pants had stains or rips/tears on them! If we wanted to go somewhere nice I had to bring her in ratty-tatty clothes.

I decided to make some of her outfits "play clothes" where she could go out, run around, be a kid and not worry about her clothes. I designated some new outfits as "nice clothes" so if we go somewhere she looks nice. As her wardrobe gets replaced, the "nice clothes" become "play clothes" (if they get stained or get holes) and we buy her new nice clothes. (Also I've learned to buy dark colors for shorts!)

Her dad, mom, grandma—everyone else thinks I'm nuts! Evidently it doesn't bother them when she's walking around with red Kool-Aid and orange Cheeto stains on a white tee shirt. I know kids can get dirty in the span of a day, but I hate stains or ratty clothing.

Does anyone else do the Play Clothes thing? Am I nuts?

What can I do next?

So What Happened?™

Thanks for your advice, I'm glad I'm not nuts!

This weekend we took her to a Church event and I had her dressed in her nicer clothes (she was going to be playing in the kids' room so she didn't need a dress). She got so many compliments she was beaming! I don't care if the family thinks I'm nuts. I know I'm not, and I'm glad she looks nice when we go in public!

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I have 4 kids & all of them know which are play clothes & which are NOT play clothes. My 3 1/2 yr old girl always wants to wear her nice clothes so I have decided to take her nice clothes out of her room & put them in an undisclosed location. Now if we go out somewhere where she has to look decent (no stains) I can pull out her nice clothes & dont have to worry. She is not happy about this but I told her she is not listening to me so that was my only choice. Maybe I am nuts but I dont like my kids to look ratty either.

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We don't have play clothes, per se. But my kids know which outfits they can run around outside and get dirty in and which outfits are for school or nicer events.

I agree that you're NOT nuts. But maybe these other people just don't hold very high expectations for your stepdaughter. I have seen countless people that think kids are "just supposed to be kids" - messy, impolite and ill-mannered. They treat their kids like adorable little idiots.

I will say, similar to some of the other postings, I am more careful to have "nice" clothes, for church, dinners out and other family events. My girls are taught to take EXTRA good care of these clothes...in the hamper or on the hanger, no exceptions. The same goes for their "good" shoes...they do not go outside for playtime. They are to be kept clean to go with out special clothes.

I do have "play clothes". Most of our clothes are what I would call "everyday" clothes. The ones with stains, small tears, etc. have been taken out and put in a downstairs cabinet...these I mostly use for when my kids are going to get messy (mud, sand & water table, etc.) I will put these "play clothes" on them OR if they get what they are wearing dirty, I put them in these "play clothes" as their second set of clothes for the day. Usually these go on late in the day when the kids are still 1/2 dirty so they can continue playing while I'm making dinner. I can't see putting "clean, everyday" clothes on 1/2 dirty kids while they're still busy playing. With that said, everyone in our family has "gardening shoes" that we keep on hand in the garage for those days where we're planting or working outside and need gym shoes for slopping around in.

I think you're right on track. Maybe if you change what you say to your family, don't focus on the "play clothes" but instead focus on keeping some "fancy/special" clothes. That way it's just a few outfits and 1 pair of shoes that you're keeping sacred instead of focusing on keeping the majority of her clothes unstained???

I hope this helps!

Sara

i have play clothes for my 6 year old he has school clothes and play clothes i dont think your nuts kids should have nice clothes for school and other clothes for after school it would drive me crazy to see my son walking around with stains on all of his clothes. i mean you dont want her to be playing in white clothes and playing in the mud and sliding across the grass and getting stains well at lest i dont think i would but no your not nuts and i think all kids should have play clothes

good luck

I am totally with you on this. I have always had disignated play clothes for my two girls. Kids are so hard on their clothes that I don't want the nicer items destroyed with dirt and spills. This way I don't stress about it and the kids can play as hard as they want. I think people should have some pride in the way their kids look when in public and at events. But when it's play time no one needs to worry about it. All the moms I know have this same philosophy.

I ABSOLUTELY DO!!! I learned my lesson the hard way and now we have a drwer for outside, painting, etc and the closet clothes are for school, and going places. You are definitely NOT nuts!

you are not nuts! someone who doesn't designate certain clothes as good or play clothes is the nutty one! my kids are 20 and 14 and still have good clothes and play/workout clothes! so do my husband and myself!

i'd say we have "nice clothes" and then the rest. and then maybe mud clothes for real bad days. life's too short to worry about a stain or 2. since as the day goes on, stains happen. so, unless you change clothes 3-4x a day it does happen.

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Hey.... I don't blame you one bit!!!! Why would you want your daughter/stepdaughter to look ratty all the time? Especially if she is that hard on clothes. As she gets a little older, she'll lighten up a bit but... I think you have to designate some outfits as nicer, school wear. At my son's school, even if it is designerwear, they don't want holes in the knees - and some people pay big bucks for holey jeans!

And... better yet, by designating some as "play clothes" you are actually letting her PLAY, which, so many kids have so many activities booked, afterschool, these days, it's wonderful that she gets to run, jump, climb and be a kid!!!!

Kudos to you!

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