Okay... you know how easy you THOUGHT it was going to be?
That's how easy your husband THINKS IT IS.
I'm sure you had people tell you different, before you actually did it, but you obviously believed them as much as your husband believes you. Meaning, I'm sure you believed them to a degree, but NOT to the degree that it is actually the case.
Unless he does it himself, he's probably never going to understand. Nor help.
Back when my marriage was good, I lost it. I FINALLY got it through to my husband this way
"It's not fair that you get a 2 day weekend, and I get a 0 day weekend."
"But you're HOME."
"But HOME is my job."
So we started trading days. We EACH got a one day weekend. I got to sleep in until I woke up, and then LEFT THE HOUSE.
First Sunday: I came rushing home when he called
Second Sunday; I answered all his phonecalls (at least 3 an hour, sometimes once every 2 minutes), all begging me to come home, or wanting to know things like "Where's the laundry soap?" (really???)
Third Sunday; I shut my phone off (and came home to a very angry man... and told him I was switching my day to saturday, because if I was going to be called into work all day long, then my weekend day would be the next day)
Fourth saturday; he decided to "show me" by having the house sparkling. He was on his hands and knees in the kitchen with a screaming baby and the house a tornado crying.
Fifth saturday he STARTED to get into the swing of things.
For the next three years I NEVER HEARD HIS 8 HOUR DAY COMPARED TO MY 14 HOUR DAY EVER AGAIN.
Not until our marriage hit the rocks and he stopped watching our son and taking care of the house once a week did I become "lazy" in his mind, and the comparison of my job v your job started coming up again. Don't get me wrong... by this time he KNEW how hard my job was... but for his own reasons CHOSE to be a jerk.
ALL of the things I do for him aside from take care of our child and clean up after him, if he was a single man, he'd have to do his durn self... JUST LIKE OTHER SINGLE MEN. There is no one washing their clothes, picking up after them, buying and cooking their food. These are not tasks that don't happen without a wife. These are LIVING tasks. If someone ISN'T grateful that you're doing those things for them... BIG RED FLAG.