Discipline for Being Disgusting

It's a phase and she will grow out of it.
Deliberately sneezing on people is not acceptable as it has the potential for infecting them with colds. When she does that, hand her a tissue.
She farts at will? I've never known anyone who had that much control over their gas. Most people fart because they have to, not because they choose to. Offer her some Beano.
When she picks her nose and waves it at you, cover her slimy finger with a tissue.
The thrill for her is in getting a reaction from you. The more calmly you deal with it, the less fun it will be for her, and the more quickly she will become bored with it.

I'm sorry, but I guess I don't understand why you can't just tell her she isn't being ladylike and to stop it. And then she obeys you. What happens when she is disrespectful and disobedient in other areas of her life? Does she have no consequences? Why can't the same consequences be applied? In the end, she is being disobedient and rude. Why can she get away with that so easily? I am really struggling to wrap my head around this one.

My 9 yr old isn't quite THAT bad. She just thinks it's hysterically funny to pass gas in the car, where we are all trapped. It doesn't help that her older brother laughs the whole time he is freaking out saying EWWWW GROOOOOSSSSSS...

I hope and pray it is a phase that passes quickly (no pun intended).

If she wants to act like a pig,,or slob,, treat her like one. When she passes gas on purpose in front of you, let her scrub out the garbage cans and smell that for a while. I mean the big ones outside that the trucks come and empty. Not the nice clean one under the kitchen sink. And really, give her a scrub brush and a small bucket and let her crawl in it if needed. no hose and no easy job. If she wants to be discusting in other ways, be discusting right back at her in your own ways. At the next dinner time, put food on her plate, mash it up and stir it all together and let her eat it like hog slop.(no silverware either) You don't need to wash her laundry, but she doesn't get to sit on the couch or other furniture in dirty clothes. She can go to school more than one day in those same dirty clothes. I'd make sure she isn't allowed to go anywhere or have any friends over. Make it clear that she isn't acting decent so she doesn't need to have friends or fun. I would bet it won't take more than a couple days and she will be much more agreeable to being a bit more self controlled.

Is there a boy she likes? Invite him to dinner. :)

OMG, this had me laughing out loud. I didn't think little girls did stuff like this...I KNOW little boys do. I am the sister of 4 younger brothers. My poor mother would just ignore ignore ignore, and it never stopped. They are now 21-32 and it still hasn't stopped. Why is that?
I think, with your daughter you have to be pretty careful. Don't ever laugh...ever. I know for ME that would be hard. Sometimes it's funny! So, no laughing. Second, Give her a disgusted look and tell her that it's not okay and EVERY time she does it (burp, pick nose, fart) that she is going to sit in the corner for 10 minutes. She's not too old for a time out! Tell her that when she ACTS like a big girl she will be treated like one.
(I have a brother who is 24 and married with his own home. Supposedly he is mature. He would pass gas at every family function. It was disgusting. He would LITERALLY lift a leg and gleefully laugh at himself when he would do it. One day, my whole family was at our house...4 brothers, two wives, two girlfriends, my parents, and myself, husband, and two children...and my brother crop dusted my husband. Basically means he silently farted as he walked by my husband. My husband gave him the dirtiest look and got up and walked out of the room. I threatened my brother. I know, your daughter is a lot younger, so I would not suggest this at all! I told him that his farting is disgusting, no one likes it, he is TOO OLD to be doing this, and that if he did it again my husband would take him out. My hubby is a mean looking guy! He has NEVER farted again in our families presence. It's been 6 months.)
L.

Charge her! Everytime she does it, make her pay a quarter. Put it in a jar and donate it to a charity. Then make sure that you're not buying her the suff she wants anyway. Don't make a big deal, since I'm sure your reaction is her favorite part of it. Save the money and donate it. the next time she wants money say too bad, you "farted it all away."
:)

Sorry -- can't agree with the backhand across the cheek treatment. Though I DO agree it's disgusting and probably quite the rage among her friends. I agree with the calmly make her leave the room approach -- as long as there isn't a cell phone, computer, telephone or other "fun" distraction in the room. Of course, another option would be "juvenile behavior begets juvenile consequences. Have her sit or stand in the corner (sort of an old fashioned time out) for a few minutes. The quieter she is there, the quicker she comes out. The more disgusting he behavior, the longer she stays in.

I agree that it's a phase and it will pass. Still, when she was around 2, tantrums were a phase and I'm sure you didn't let those pass without some kind of discipline! No sense in making this a bigger deal than it is, but no sense in letting it go unchecked either.

Good luck -- and keep your sense of humor with this one.

While that is disgusting, especially the sneezing, back-handing your child across the face is abusive and just as disgusting. I'm honestly appalled by that answer.

You need to sit her down at a time when she is not being "disgusting" and tell her that her behavior is completely unacceptable and that she is spreading germs and sickness and it will NOT be tolerated. Make sure she knows you are serious and let her know the consequences. If she has video games, a tv, a phone, whatever is important to her, immediately take them away if she behaves this way again and keep them for at least 3 days every time. Hopefully that will get the message across.

.

Wow, how gross!

Well, my kids are a bit younger, and are at the stage where they think it is just hil-ar-i-ous to use "potty language"- you know, talking about poop and diapers and toilets etc. What is turning it around is deducting from their allowance. We have a piece of paper on the fridge with all family members' names listed, and every time the kids say a "potty word" or insult each other, we write "- 25 cents" on the list. (also for every bad word mom and dad says we have to pay them 25 cents extra allowance that week). We have only been doing this 3 weeks but it is helping a lot! Might be worth a try. Good luck!

Have you ever heard the saying, "Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child"? If you allow your child "timeouts" until she is considered grown, you are going to face a lot more challenges of her doing things that not only are disgusting but (i.e., things might get broken that's sentimental to you around the house, at school she may doing something similar to the wrong kid and get hurt physically, or most of all disrespects you when her "teenage" hormones kick in. You have to allow your child to fear you by giving her a "good whipping" and re-remind her at the same time, the things that she does are not nice and if she does it again, this is what you will do. I am sorry but you MUST let her know how serious you are or she will continue doing these things. My kids are grown now and they did crazy things similar to your daughter when they were young and now they have kids but my kids know that Mom did not PLAY! I took care of their behinds when they were bad and today, they are thanking me for it because they know now how to handle the situation. Remember, all she needs is one good spanking where she will feel the pain. Good Luck - Serious Mama L.

I was taught that bathroom humor belongs in the bathroom so instead of sending her to her room send her to the bathroom! Hand her a tissue and tell her "excuse you" sometimes I add "piggy with some oinks" which is silly but my kids get that we don't talk about poop, farts, boogers, and toilet humor belongs with the toilet paper in the bathroom.

What is also important to remember is that this is a common phase so in a while your daughter will be going "ew how gross" soon enough.

I know spanking isn't for everyone but in this case, my kid would have been spanked hard and then sent to her room. GROSS (and if my kid were acting like this that would be proving to me they aren't old enough to have a cell phone, or go to sleepovers, or anything older kids do, and her room would be emptied of all stuff too so that wasn't a fun place to be.)

One minute per year for time outs, thus a nine year old gets nine minutes in time out. Be consistent! Watch a few episodes of SuperNanny. You will quickly see what really works.

Remember: Discipline - by definition - means "to teach or train." Discipline (TEACH) her to do better. Make her realize you EXPECT her to act like a young lady.

Does she do that in public or only at home?

Maybe if you do it to her or if she gets embarrassed about it in public (as you comment loudly about it in a dense way), she will stop.
Gross.

Don't know if that is a typical 9 year old girl phase.
My daughter is 8, and doesn't do that so I don't know.

I think, it is just entertaining for her.
Who knows why.
Writing it down even 1000 times won't stop it, to me.

IF she gets embarrassed about it or her friends find out... she WILL stop.

Is she desperate for attention or something?

A lot of the answers given are good one, obviously hitting isn't. But, please, don't ever laugh at this or ignore it thinking she'll grow out of it. She's looking for attention, and thinking that she's funny and this will get her attention. If its not stopped now, it'll just get worse as she gets older. My beautiful niece did this when she was younger, and everyone laughed, thinking she was so funny. I never did but was overpowered by her loving the response she got from everyone around her. High school became difficult as she continued, friends loved it, teachers didn't. She ended up dropping out of school (teacher torment), doing drugs, depressed. Please, understand that I don't want to paint a grim picture of her future, but these habits will continue if not stopped. You don't want her doing this as a teenager and especially as an adult. Stay strong and faithful.

Yes, this is the humor of the age. For some. She's getting lots of negative attention too. But the fact of the matter is that with the nose-picking and sneezing, these are health issues. While my son is almost four (and loves to talk about poop.... ugh.That's 'potty talk' and gets him 5 minutes in his room away from the table if it happens at a mealtime, but is otherwise ignored), I have nannied girls this age.

You might have a conversation about this with her when the acting-up isn't going on. Explain that when she is picking her nose and waving it around, it's disrespectful. That sneezing on others can make them sick. And that you need to see a 100% turnaround before she can go out with friends anymore, because you don't want her to be this way in front of her friend's parents, and since she's not making good choices about this at home, then social activities are suspended. No playdates, no sleepovers, nothing. If she can't be respectful in her own home with her own family, you will not allow her out to be disrespectful to other families.

Then, pick an amount of time for her to show that she is changing this habit with everyone in the house. A week? Two weeks? Might be a good place to start.

*IF* she's a social kid, this might change pretty quickly. (Oh, and this also means no friends over to your house, either.) I'm not hot for punishments, but I also feel that this is somewhat of a logical consequence for these actions. When she does these things and you send her to her room, how long is it for, because I don't think the "1 minute per year" ratio Time Out is really appropriate for this sort of thing. If it were me, I'd be sending her to her room for a half-hour at a time. If it happens (deliberately) at dinner, then she may be excused from the table, and can finish her cold dinner (don't reheat it-- you are teaching respect) after everyone else has finished eating and left the table.

There's always one other solution, and it came from the mother of a teen. She's a very even-tempered woman, but when she'd had enough, it was enough. Her teen daughter was being rude to her, and the mom finally told her "You are going to have to stay in your room for the rest of the evening." Her daughter asked "Even eat dinner in here?" The mother, without anger, just said "Yeah. I don't really want you at the table tonight, because you have been so disrespectful to me. We'll try it again tomorrow. Maybe it will be a better day-- it's up to you." All that to say, that when we adults are calm and reasoned (because your daughter is doing it to push your buttons), I think the kids are able to 'hear' us better.

And when she gets interested in boys-- she WILL grow out of it. (I hope!:))