I am not being critical, but I was also molested around that time and I've NEVER confessed to my parents (I'm 54) because it was my uncle and I didn't want to cause any strife in the family. He was 14, raging hormones, I was the only female around - not condoning what he did, but I forgave him YEARS ago. I've always been cautious about who my daughter has spent time alone with and she knows what happened to me. I bet your daughter knows and just doesn't want to cause tension because the person is a family member or a close personal friend who's still around. It would be my guess. If she wants to talk to a therapist, let her. If she'd be comfortable talking to your pastor, youth pastor or would rather talk to a female about it - I'd ask the councler at her school for recommendations. Our youth pastor is a female and I ask her for recommendations/advice all the time (I've got an 18 year old DD).