T.L. asks from Elyria, OH on December 02, 2006
Depression - Elyria,OH
hi im having a promblem i have been wanting another baby for about a year now and im very depressed because i got my tubes tied not wanting anymore babies at the time but now i have been wanting another one has anyone ever felt that way before if so what did you do i need some advice thanks
S.P. answers from Cleveland on December 06, 2006
Hi T.! I too had my tubes tied in March and I do quite often have those same feelings. I have 3 children and loved being pregnant w/each and every one of them. My youngest is 9 mos. right now and I'm already thinking where is the time going? I know deep down in my heart we couldn't afford another child and that I did the right thing but you're right, it is hard. When I start feeling that way I just try telling myself everything I just told you and in time it passes. I don't know if you can ever get over the finality in knowing you can't ever have another baby but I think you just need to deal w/it.
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N.G. answers from Cleveland on December 02, 2006
Never been in this situation, although: I know you can have a reversal done if you truely want to have another child. So, ask yourself seriously do I want another child or is it because I can't have another one that I want one... Whatever: the answer good luck with your decision.
T.B. answers from Columbus on December 11, 2006
Hi im 27 years old and had my tubes tied in july of 04 there are some days i wish i didnt go through with it. but then i remember how lucky i am for the three i have. sometimes the depression of it all gets me down as well. and i just take a little time and reflect all things i have. but i also know that there are several children that need adopting as well. so when the time is right if it comes to really wanting another i will adopt. i get really depressed about that during the holidays as well. so dont let it get you down. just be thankful for what you have.. and what you can have later in life with your beautiful children,..
K.N. answers from Cleveland on December 05, 2006
I am 25 and had my tubes tied after my daughter was born when i was 21. boy oh boy have tehre beent imes in the last 4 years when i have wanted another child, fortunatly i can't do that. as nice as it is to have a baby around the financial stress of raising three not tl mention the fact that i am engaged to and living with a man who has two of his own, is more than i think i could handle. where as he would love to have a baby that was ours i get by rmembering that we have 5 wonderful kids and a very full houe not to mention tight budget as it is. think this through very carefully, yo're probally in the same boat as me where all your friends are having kids and so on and it makes you want another but make sure that you are really truely redy for the task and not just missing the tiny new baby concept because this one would grow up as well. also with a reversal there are numerous complications that you should think about first. another option is fostercare or adoption, it might take care of that desire to have more little ppl around and you'd be doing a child a reat favor by giving them a nice home. if the depression is bad talk to a doctor and they can give you oteh pointers as to how to cpe with this and you may always want more kids god knows i still do, i babysit though and that has actually helped i get the best of all worlds lots of hugs and fun and i get to send them home. LoL. good luck and take care.
N.K. answers from Canton on December 05, 2006
I have my tubes tied. I had my tubes tied in June and I am realizing that maybe it was a mistake because I too now want another child. I have 2 children my daughter is 2 and my son is 9 months. I know that you can have your tubes untied but it cost like 10,000 dollars to have them untied and if you do get them untied I heard that you have a really hard time having children after untieing them. I know someone personally my aunt who had her tubes untied and she has been trying to have another child and she keeps on having miscarriages. I'm not trying to discourage you at all but I am trying to inform you of what could happen. Have you ever thought of adoption?
M.S. answers from Toledo on December 05, 2006
I've never had my tubes tied but the relationship I am in now, my fiancee does not want anymore kids. Ours combined is 7 together. I have been through depression wanting another child, but in the best interest I am not going too. Medicines help but other resources can help like talking to other people in your situation.
M.W. answers from Cincinnati on December 05, 2006
Talk to your doctor. You may be able to get a reversal.