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Dealing with an Ectopic Pregnancy

Has any mom out there had or knows someone that had an ectopic pregnancy- abnormal pregnancy where the egg implants elsewhere besides the uterus. Sonogram after sonogram starting at 5 weeks (2/15), they could not detect where the egg was up until March 2008 when i went to the ER early in the morning complaining of sharp lower abdominal pains. I went in for a sonogram and they found the enlarged egg in the right tube. Luckily the tube did not burst and they were able to save both of my tubes. They did find a lot of endometriosis in my right tube. My OBGYN thinks this is why I had the ectopic due to blockage in the tube. However, my main concern now are how long will it be before I get pregnant again and if there are any risks. SO far my husband and I have been unsuccessful in conceiving again (2 months now). I got pregnant right away the first time around and not sure why this time around we haven't been able to. Any answers or suggestions would be great.

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My doctor is awesome. His name is Dr. Richard Robers and they specialize in things like this... Please call him. ###-###-####. Good Luck!!
Barb G.

2 suggestions: Dr. Sami David and Clear Passage Therapies.
I used the former who diagnosed and treated my endometriosis and I subsequently had my son, and the latter is a group for whom I worked who address tube problems and other fertility issues thru physical therapy. Dr. D's phone number is ###-###-#### (I think--he's on Park Ave and 87th street). You can google CPT for info and or call 1866 ###-###-####.
good luck,
A.

Hi K.,
I did know someone with pretty much the same story. She too had an ectopic pregnancy, and endometriosis. She had a hard time getting pregnant before and after all this. But, now she has a beautiful baby boy (now 11 mon.)Hope this helps. Good Luck!

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Hi! Sorry to hear about your loss. I was also diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy (less than 2 weeks ago), so I understand your concerns. My OB/GYN told me we could start trying again in 3 months, but it may take longer for me because I had to have my left tube removed. Most of the research I've done indicates a 70-80% success rate if both tubes are intact, however there is an increased risk of a second ectopic. Don't get frustrated, though...you've only been trying for 2 months! It may take a little longer. Relax and try to enjoy the process! They say that 1 in 60-100 pregnancies end up ectopic, but I've yet to hear from anyone else who has gone through this, so please keep us updated on your progress!

Hi K., I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hear ectopic pregnancy is very painful. I have not had one nor do I know anyone personally. I'm sure if you became pregnant once you can do it again. You tubes need time to heal. I will pray and I'm sure you will conceive at the right time (God's time) Think happy thoughts and make sure to make a deposit in the "baby Bank" as often as possible. I know the dad will be happy about that thought. My best, Grandma Mary

Hi K.,
I know what it's like to struggle to get pregnant. It took my husband and I close to five years to conceive, so I know how frustrating it can be. Has your OBGYN ever told you about a hysterosalpingogram? This is where they shoot dye into your fallopian tubes to check for blockages and in many cases it can actually clear out your tubes. This might help to clear you out, so that you can try again. My Doctor was getting ready to do one on me to rule out any problems in that area and he told me it helps to get women pregnant as well. Don't get frustrated, it's going to happen. If you haven't had one of these already, try asking your Doctor about it! Good Luck sweetie!

Hello ,
I also had an ectopic pregnancy but mine did burst and they were not able to save my tube. With one tube, I was able to conceive in less than9 months. Don't worry, you will be fine.

So sorry to hear about your ectopic. I also had an ectopic pregnancy - in my case they had to remove the tube. I now have a 10 month old daughter. A couple of thoughts: first make sure you are comfortable with your obgyn and that they help you feel comfortable with your questions and concerns around this. Second, I found research that says once you have one ectopic you are at risk for having another. Make sure you get a blood pregnancy test if you think you are pregnant - the urine tests sometimes don't pick up ectopic pregnancies. The ectopic operation is major surgery so make sure you give your body (and mind) time to heal. In terms of getting pregnant I agree with everyone - it's very important to relax. I used accupuncture as a fertility aide and recommend it. I also did the basal temperature charting and that helped us know the best times to have sex. Good luck!

HI K.,
I am assuming that when they removed the egg in your fallopian tube and found the endometriosis they laser cleaned you up. That should make it easier to get pregnant. Two months is not a long time to try so relax and be patient.
I have a friend who does reflexology on the nerve endings of feet and she has helped several people who were trying to get pregnant. They now all have children so you might look into having some reflexology done. It hurts a little the first time or two but can become very relaxing and beneficial.
M.

I'm sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. I just want to reassure you that two months of trying is not a long time and you should not be concerned at all at this point. After a pregnancy, even if it ends early, your body will take a long time to recover and get back to a regular menstrual cycle. Even when you period comes back, it can be irregular and you may not ovulate right away either. Give it about 6 months and your body will start to get back to a normal cycle. So right now, just concentrate on eating healthy and taking care of yourself and enjoy the "practice." Then in 6 months, if nothing happens, then you may want to go out and buy the ovulation kits, etc. Also there is this great site that will track your period for you and tell you when the best dates are for ovulation. It works best if your cycles are regular. http://www.mymonthlycycles.com
Another point I wanted to make is that having endometriosis does not mean that you will definitely have trouble conceiving. One of my close friends has had it since she was a teenager. She was always told by her doctor that she would have a difficult time conceiving. Funny enough, she got pregnant while on birth control with her first daughter, and then found out that she was pregnant with twins when her first daughter was about a year old. Talk about surprises! So it can happen and the fact that you got pregnant once before increases the odds that it will happen again.
Good Luck!

I went through this in 1990. Hurt like heck! I couldn't stand or walk the pain was so bad. I was told I could never have anymore children..haha..I had two more.

I did manage to concieve in 1992 and everything was fine.

Give your body some time to heal. Let nature take its course. Once you get busy focusing on something else...God will supply a miracle.

Nanc

A friend of ours had an ectopic pregnancy - she'd just returned from a trip to her home country, was in pain and ended up in emergency surgery to remove a tube and ovary. But she is now the mom of a 1 year old little girl so all went well.

I had an ectopic pregnancy in January of 2006. I got pregnant again in December of 2006. Keep your hopes up I hope everything works out for you

My doctor is awesome. His name is Dr. Richard Robers and they specialize in things like this... Please call him. ###-###-####. Good Luck!!
Barb G.

2 suggestions: Dr. Sami David and Clear Passage Therapies.
I used the former who diagnosed and treated my endometriosis and I subsequently had my son, and the latter is a group for whom I worked who address tube problems and other fertility issues thru physical therapy. Dr. D's phone number is ###-###-#### (I think--he's on Park Ave and 87th street). You can google CPT for info and or call 1866 ###-###-####.
good luck,
A.

Maybe you should consider speaking to a fertility expert? Can hurt to go and chat. Perhpas he/she will give you some good advice or will just tell you to keep trying - it may do nothing more than simply put your mind at ease. And a mind/body that is feeling less stress is one that will be more likely to get pregnant!

2 months is not a long time to try but I'm sure it feels like forever since you had such a loss and disappointment.

Good luck - you'll get there soon!

i am sorry for your loss.

i have no experience, but take heart in knowing there is only a 20-25% chance each month of normal, healthy couples getting pregnant when they have sex during their ovulation time. so that means if you have sex on exactly the right time, there is still a 75-80% chance you wont get pregnant that month.

i would make sure to chart temperature and use ovulation test strips(super cheap stick ones available online) to make sure your on time with when you ovulate. with the endo, i would def monitor it, and have your doctors figure out the extent and damage if any. dont let them take the approach of waiting. if after 6 months, you arent pregnant, go see a specialist. although im sure you will be fine, endo can cause irreversible damage so just stay on top of it. good luck to you.

You could try using the Clear Blue brand to help track ovulation. That's what hubby and I did and we got pregnant within three months. Its sold at the pharmacy right next to the pregnancy test. Works kind of the same way. You count 14 days after your period and then start peeing on the stick. It will turn colors when you have a hormone surge. Good luck..

Hi K., I did not ever have an ectopic pregnancy but I know someone who has. This woman had one in June 2007 and she had to have the whole tube removed. She is now pregnant again, I'm not sure how far along. My guess would be a couple months at least. This will be her 5th child. I don't know any more of the details, I haven't seen her since she had the ectopic pregnancy and just heard a couple weeks ago that she is pregnant again. I hope this info helps you out! ( : K.

Hi K.,
I did know someone with pretty much the same story. She too had an ectopic pregnancy, and endometriosis. She had a hard time getting pregnant before and after all this. But, now she has a beautiful baby boy (now 11 mon.)Hope this helps. Good Luck!

K.,

(Not knowing you this will be a guess) I would think that you are under alot of stress with this hoping that the outcome is better and worring if your baby is ok once you conceive, as i can only image how that feels. Stress can have alot to do with it if you are under stress. Maybe try relaxing and clearing your mind (which I am sure is always hard). Best of luck.
J.

K.,
I had an ectopic pregnacy and endometriosis over 15 years ago. It still feels like yesterday. Very painful I know. I had also had to miscarrigages after that. The good news was I will still able to conceive. The bad news is that I lost all trust in OBGYN'S. I made an appointment with Dr.Jabacy and Dr. Lee. I had told them my misfortunes with my pregnancys. By then I was 30 years old and gave up any hope of conceiving a child. Went through depression and panic attacks because I blamed myself for the miscarriages. Wondered what I did wrong. Dr.Jacoby and Dr.Lee in Troy they are wonderdful. What they found was that my hormores levels dropped so low it would cause miscarriages after 6 weeks. When I finally conceived they put me own estrogen and I took and baby asprin a day. I now have a healty 7 year old boy. I just want to tell you don't give up hope it will happen. I can tell you to try not to think is this it am I pregnant. It does put a strain on a marriage. The First thing you need to do is trust your doctors if you don't I suggest you go somewhere else. Second is have faith that you will some day become a mom. Beleive me from my past experience it will happen. Good luck to you.

I am so sorry that you went through this. The pain is terrible, but you are very lucky that you had surgery before your tube burst. I had an ectopic as well; and lost one tube. Please don't be concerned yet about conceiving. I conceived my daughter almost exactly a year after I had the surgery. I don't believe there are any risks associated, but I don't know that for sure. I wish you the best, hope that my experience is helpful to you. All I can suggest is to relax and enjoy this time with your husband!

Hi K.

I read your question and I can tell you that I have known other women including family who have experienced this problem and who have other childen after.
Please continue enjoying your husband, building a good relationship which will be deeply tested when children come along. God is pleased that you want to be parents. Just believe that he will make this happen if that is His will and as it looks that seems to be His will. But remember that a child of love is not the result of planned sex. Sex is really about two people reaching a point where their love is expressed in that penultimate point of intimacy. Enjoy this, even when you do get pregnant and have that child, you'll probably have to sacrifice some of that intimacy time.
God Bless.

F. G

Hi K.
I am sorry you had such a difficult time. I can give some advice on the endometrosis part, I had very severe endo. The ectopic preg., not so much. First, do you know if your doctor removed the endo. tissue when they removed the pregnancy? That is important. If not removed it will continue to grow, and possibly hinder your efforts to become pregnant. It took me seven years to concieve my first daughter. That includes the time it took to diagnose the problem. After the removal of the tissue I had to do drug therapy for six months. Again mine was severe, so you probally wouldn't need this step. My first pregnancy pretty much cleared it up. It took me seven months to conceve my second daughter. I was worried if I would be able to conceve again at all. After six months of trying, I had asked my doctor about it since I had so many problems the first time, and he said try for a year, your not concidered "troubled" until after you have tried for a year. Well the next month I was preggers! So relax a little. Just because you got preg. so fast the first time may not mean it will happen again so quickly. Also, think of all your boby has been through since the first time! I'm sure it will happen . Good luck, enjoy trying!

So glad you were able to get through the ectopic pregnancy without any complications!!! from what I understand with ectopic, you chances are shlightly higher in having another ectopic about 20%-30%, dependng on the source. There is also a small chance of infertitilty after but i think that's if there were complications and such which it does not sound like you had. i googled ectopic and did a ton of research online because a good friend of mine went through this and she also went to a very good doctor who said the same things... From my understanding it takes on average 10 months to concieve, you were lucky the first time! I got really impatient when i first starting trying and doctor said we'll talk after a year of trying. ovulation tests helped me, that way i didn't feel like i missed an opportunity:) Plus, i really liked getting a possitive result once in a while. it took about three months each time of me really trying(not just not being careful). The first was a miscarraige, then i had to wait a few months after bleeding to try, plus your body has to get back to normal. now i have a healthy one year old boy:) Good luck with everything!!! It's can be scary but enjoy the ride!

Many years ago when I went to my gyn doctor as I was late with my period. He examined me and gave me a pregnancy test which came up negitive and I was told everything was fine...he gave me a shot to bring on my period within 10 days. I never got my period, and went back to the same doctor several times as I began not feeling well...he kept telling me I was fine and to be sure sent me twice to have a sonogram...each time I was told nothing was wrong. After my last doctors appointment, I went to a beauty shop to get my hair cut...while there I doubled over in severe pain and was taken to the hospital where they did exploratory surgery and they removed one tube. What I was suffering from was a ectopic pregnancy. When I recovered from the surgery I was told I was very lucky as I had about 24hrs to live.. I recovered nicely and was sent home...Was told not to have sex until after my follow up appointment...At that time I was told I can become pregant, have babies and I went home with a new birth control method. Years later I'm happy to say I have had NO difficulties due to this...

Every one is different. Who knows, you just might be suffering from a good case of inner stress about it all. My suggestion is to return to your doctor, question Him/her about all your concerns about becoming pregnant, the risks and ask why you haven't been able to concieve during the 2 months you have been trying.

Try to relax and keep us posted here.....

My girlfriend had an ectopic pregnancy. She lost the baby in June and by September was pregnant again. She just had a beautiful little girl. You will get pregnant again. Just have fun and good luck.

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