V.R. asks from Vancleave, MS on April 18, 2008
Days and Nights Mixed Up
Does any one have any tried and true suggestions for geting a newborn's days and nights straightened out. My 1 1/2 week old grandson is not sleeping more than an hour at night. He sleeps for several hours during the day but wakes every 1 1/2 to feed at night and stays awake for several hours at night...and is extremely fussy. At first I thought maybe he wasn't getting enough to eat (my daughter in law is breastfeeding) but that doesn't prove itself out since he is getting enough to sleep for 3-4 hours during the day. Any help would be appreciated.
M. answers from Birmingham on April 18, 2008
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I think this is pretty normal at least for the first few weeks... My son was the same way for at least 6-8 weeks and I spoke with other people whose babies did the same thing. Good luck!
M.F. answers from Lafayette on April 19, 2008
hi. when he takes naps during the day is he in his carrier or crib? my daughter (now 26) was the same way, sleep good in the daytime but at night not. i got up with her one night and put her in her carrier and she went straight back to sleep. i put the carrier and all in her bassinet and never had problems after that. hope it helps good luck and God bless
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C.G. answers from New Orleans on April 19, 2008
At less than 2 weeks you really have to follow the baby's lead. Breast is best and your daughter will produce just the right amount of milk for you grandson, so do not make her feel uncomfortable or push her toward formulas and cereals that are not good for you grandson and which will reduce her supply. The first few weeks are all about supply bringing her milk in and at the right levels. Contact the hospitals lactation consultant with any concerns you may have.
She needs to sleep when he sleeps no matter when that is. Maybe providing little stimulation or sleeping beside him to show him what it's time for would be an effective solution for the moment. She can side car her son's crib to the bed to have him near so if he does wake at night she can quickly, without much loss of sleep, feed him and ease him back to sleep.
EEK! and do NOT buy "Baby Wise" like another poster suggested. The guy who wrote it is insane. Stick with Dr. Sears.
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K.W. answers from Oklahoma City on April 19, 2008
When it's time for night time feedings and changes Do Not turn on any lights and tv or whatever. Get the baby up but do not talk to them. Have a night light near the changing table but make that the only light. As I said before do not talk to or sing to or anything to the baby. Change the baby, feed the baby then back to bed. If it is bottle fed have the bottle ready before getting the baby up so they are not going to the kitchen or whatever with lights and noise.
During the day have them out where there is noise and and such let them sleep in their car seat or bouncy seat especially for the first couple hours in the morning and afternoon-evening hours. This does not mean you should try to keep them awake it just means their is a different environment for daytime until they figure out night and day. If you try to keep the baby awake he will get over tired and then be harder to get to sleep. They can take some of their naps in their room. But if they are out with everyone for some of their sleeping time it will help them tell the difference between daytime and night time sleep.
I have raised 4 babies and NEVER walked the floors with them except for a time or two when they were sick. If they do this it really will help.
R.K. answers from Tulsa on April 21, 2008
When my daughter was a new born she was the same way. When I went to the peditrician she told me that people who try to change a babies day and night schedule before 6 weeks is just wasting their time. She said after the 1st 6 weeks you can try keeping the baby up long during the day and not sleep so much and that should help. My daughter just ended up figuring it out after about 6 weeks. Hope this helps. It will change soon. :-)
J.T. answers from Oklahoma City on April 18, 2008
Get her a copy of on becoming babywise. Also, make sure their environment for night sleeping is dark, and the day time is much lighter. Eventually it will work itself out. I used Babywise w/ my daughter and it was fantastic. Will be using it w/ my son when he's born as well.
K.D. answers from New Orleans on April 19, 2008
You might try to keep him up longer during the day - not allow him to sleep as long. Another trick I used is adding some cereal (baby cereal) to the formula. I know he's breast feeding but a bottle at night might help. My first daughter was 3 weeks old when she started sleeping 6 hours straight.
M.F. answers from Huntsville on April 19, 2008
Congratulations on becoming a grandmother and to your son and daughter in law. Perhaps baby has days and nights mixed up because of "living " in that lighted nursery at the hospital. I know its frustrating, but he will make the changes himself.
the only thing I know of, is perhaps try to keep him awake more during the day. Also, he may need supplemental feeding before he is put down for the night - my youngest (26) breastfed and still needed the bottle. Good luck and again, congratulations.
B.C. answers from Alexandria on April 19, 2008
I changed my daughters clothes. It sounds silly, but I had footed PJ's for bed time only and then made sure during the day to have socks on. I also made sure the house had LOTS of light during the day and then kept it pretty dark with just lamps on at night when my girls were awake. It is normal for them to be reversed like this so give it some time. Also, there might be something she is eating that causes an upset stomach. For my girls if I ate dairy, peanut butter, granola bars, lots of veggies, and certain spices it caused a LOT of discomfort! I would have her keep an eye out for a pattern. Usually 2 hours after she eats it the baby will get it if she is feeding every 1-2 hours like I had to.Sorry, one more thing both my girls ate alot during the night and day because they needed it. I would give the baby 3 months to get into the swing of life before you worry too much about not eating enough, and sleeping for a stretch of time.