Daughter Won't Stop Drooling and Biting! Edited

Does she have her 2 year old molers? Mine is behaving very much the same way. He is a total pill as of late. I have been doing tylenol at nap time and motrin at bed time and other teething remedies during the day. That seems to be helping. Those molers are tough!!! I noticed the other day that the back of his mouth is really swolen around gums. Doctor confirmed on his checkup.

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Okay, it's entirely possible that she's doing everything she can to gain control of situations and not listen to you, but it's also possible that she may have some sort of a condition. I would try taking her to a doctor. While she may still be too young to be officially diagnosed, a doctor or specialist may examine her and find that she has symptoms of Asperberger's, or something else. The drooling, difficultly discplining, no eye contact, and arm flapping sounds very much like a kid that I know, and he needs all sort of special techniques. It's hard to even think that something may be wrong with our kids, but if you really are as desperate as you sound, then I would definitely try getting an expert opinion and help. Good luck.

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The spinning and flapping, lack of eye contact are a little concerning. These can be signs of autism or Asperger's syndrome. I would get her evaluated by a developmental ped ASAP.

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Hi M.,
You are so funny. It is true atleast, you would have visitation on the weekends! Or he would and you would have a break. Ha-ha! Maybe, there is some ironic truth in your words. Why don't you ask him to take the baby and allow you to spend sometime with your oldest. I wish now that I had asked more of the girls daddy when they were babies. Of course your entire mommy existence will be filled with "maybe I should have did this or that differently". It is not an easy job. I too had a biter who was strong willed. But looking back she was smarter than both of us and was manipulating every situation and I did not even realize it until she was 5 years old! I guess if a puppy can train a human in two weeks it is not such a shock that a baby can manipulate her situation too. Don't leave her alone with the baby or any other children until she learns not to bite. I lost a babysitting job because she bit the neighbors little girl until she was bruised! Boy! was her mom mad at me! And I was mad at my little girl because I really needed that job. I think she is hearing your words too. What if you try telling her that you are not going to be fooled by her anymore that you know she can understand you and no more biting! She might not respond to your words but she is not deaf, just extremely intelligent and strong willed. Just decide on a list of things you are going to try to do differently with her, both possitive and negative in response to her biting. You have a smart little girl on yours hands and you are going to have to be smarter than she is. Which should be easy for you she got her intelligence from someone.
You will get through this don't worry. K. K.

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M.,

I am sorry that you are so frustrated with your daughter right now! Leaving will only cause more damage, so please stick with it!
I would suggest adjusting her sleep schedule- she may not be getting enough sleep. Also, it sounds like she may be having reactions to foods. The preservatives, sugars and processed foods can cause so many problems with kids, and since she doesn't know how to respond to how she is feeling, she is acting out.
Can you visit a Natropath? I really believe that with some dietary and sleep changes, you will experience a whole new, pleasant kiddo! It is really worth looking in to.

Good luck! I hope that for you and your daughter (who no doubt does not like stressing you out like this!) find solutions that will bring peace and sanity into your home.
H.

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Hi M. - a couple things could be happening: have you considered that she might be getting her next set of molars? It is very painful and can account for the drooling, hands in her mouth, etc. Molars coming in can also cause headaches and earache pain. I would be grouchy too.

The other simple explanation could be the "terrible 3s" - they are way worse than "t-2". My oldest was perfect angel until his 3rd b-day and then whining and tantrums started. You would be the best judge of that.

I would recommend talking with her doctor who might be able to observe and evaluate some of these behaviors.

If you live in Colorado, there is a state Dept. of Education program called Child Find. The office you call depends on the school district you are in. Here is a link to the info page for the Colo Dept of Education and for a directory so that you can locate the appropriate office to call. They offer free testing and subsequent treatment for kids who are having development problems in speech and behavioral areas -

http://www.cde.state.co.us/early/early.htm#childfind

http://www.cde.state.co.us/cdesped/download/pdf/CF_Direct...

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I didn't have time to read responses you had already. but does she communicate? Have you considered autism. autism can be very challenging to see in girls because generally, they can talk better. Jst a random thought.

I would take her to her doctor to out rule any medical reason for her doing these things. If every thing comes up fine, I would ask the doctor for ideas on dealing with her behavior. It would at least help you to feel that you are taking positive steps to solve the behavior.

this behavior warrants a doctor's appointment- explain to the nurses what she is doing and get professional advice ASAP

First, I'm not a doctor and my advice is based on three things: biting, drooling, and lack of eye contact. These things by themselves may mean nothing but combined they sound a lot like the early signs of autism. It may be a very mild type and only your doctor can confirm but if this came out of know where (another autism sign) then I would definatley have her see a doctor.

I would seriously get her to the doctor fast and have her evaluated. Her behavior sounds like autism. Good luck.

I would take your daughter to a pediatric developmental specialist. She seems to have some possible characteristics that would fall into the autism spectrum. Some things to watch for are sudden regressions. Like unlearning something that she already knew. The hand flapping may be a self stimulating behavior that is a characteristic of aspergers syndrome. Or.... She's just really stressed and is acting out. You never know with kids. I recommend taking her to a pediatrician at least. I hope this helps. It may be a long road and I wish you much luck.