My daughter went through (and still does) a very similar situation. Does she get headaches a lot?
A little background:
We started out with tutors, afterschool help, etc - you know all the stuff to try and help. We still werent' getting very far. Thought at first it was mostly because of my divorce from her dad, which I am sure played a part. After awhile she was feeling very bad about herself because she was trying so hard and then also after awhile, it was like, "why try? I am just going to do bad anyway" My heart just broke. It was a horrible thing to hear.
Anyway, I was finally referred to a neurologist specializing in children. He did a Sleep EEG and diagnosed her with Migrain Seizures. Now this is not a visible thing. She doesn't even realize she has them. It's more like instaseconds inside her head. During school times these would happen so much that she would miss important information the teacher was taling about and miss concepts.
At home it was the same thing - kinda like the 'deer in the headlights' look when I would explain somethnig to her.
After her diagnosis, she was put on medications for this and did eventually outgrow a lot of it.
This whole process took a very long time and I have to say her elementary school grades suffered. We did the IEP (individual education plans) at first and they seemed to help a little but just not enough. I did insist on getting her tested when she was in high school her freshman year because she was going to have to take all this work ahead of her and then college and to prepare her for getting a job and being on her own.
Now after the testing from the school, it was determined that she would be able to take some special education classes. Let me tell you how thrilled I was to watch her achieve good grades for a change. And start feeling good about her accomplishments. She would work hard before and get a terrible grade so now her efforts were rewarded. She still struggles terribly with tests though, but the progress I have watched over the last couple of years has been wonderful.
Her case teacher has been a tremendous help to us and we are very grateful to her. She has also mentioned how this extra help she is getting in high school will help her when she goes to college as well.
By no means is she allowed to get out of work, she just gets the extra explanations (she does require sometimes 3-4 times), longer test taking time, and sometimes takes tests in a resource room which is very quiet. On other occasions, a teacher has read the test questions out loud to her.
Well, I hope my long expanation helps you. Your daughter may not have exactly the same diagnosis, but I would insist on the having the school test her. It is your right to have this done. The school's don't like to always do this because it costs them money but your daughter has every right to an education as everyone else and just because she may not have the obvious signs of a disability, doesn't mean it's not there in some minor form.
Good Luck and I wish you and your daughter success in her education. My daughter is graduating high school this year and I can't wait for her to get that diploma! I have earned it too!!:)
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