Daughter Has a Hairy Back....

Updated on December 04, 2011
J.F. asks from Bloomington, IN
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My 4 year old daughter has a REALLY hairy back. It is soft brown hair, but you can really see it in the bathtub with water. It is dark, thick peach fuzz all over her upper back and neck. I know it is from my side of the family. I have a brother who was growing a mustache at 12 years...like a serious one. He also has the hairest back and was known as Cave Man in school.

I'm not really all that worried about it, but I do have concerns that she'll end up having PCOS like me, that this will cause problems with possible bullying, self-esteem issues, etc. We've never said a word about it around her. She has no idea.

Have you or anyone you know have a female with a hairy back? What was done about it? and when? Did it naturally fall out and go away? She's had it since she was a baby.

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Thanks for your stories. I'd like to do as little as possible and hope we get by without ridicule, and/or it falls out or lightens up. But, I will help her manage it if need be. I see no reason to keep something that is very embarrassing if it is an EASY fix.

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

it's normal! Don't draw attention to it!

One of my daycare girls has dark hair & her daddy calls her, "Peaches".... & she loves it.

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J.W.

answers from St. Louis on

The creature laying on me is ten. I am not sure at what point she lost the hair but she did. When she was just born she almost looked like a really cute chimp. Her grandma would hold her and say when you are older we will get our mustaches waxed together. She said it in a very loving way.

She doesn't even have a fuzzy mustache or anything now. Just beautiful olive skin.

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B.B.

answers from Dallas on

Both of my girls are hairy. Mustaches, unibrows, hairy back and arms... My little sasquach babies lol. They are mixed and it's also dark brown hair. Hopefully it fill rub off, they are 3 and 4.. But I doubt it. She will be fine. Even my 4 year old has hairy legs, not serious hair, but it's dark, and there. Just address the issue if it comes up from her.

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L.G.

answers from Eugene on

My legs from the age of 12 were so hairy you could corn row them. I quit shaving when I was in my twenties. So what about hair. We all have it. What we each have is genetic in origin. Give her Karate lessons starting about now. When she's bullied she can toss them like pancakes.
My daughter knocked a couple of big guys to the ground in Jr. High
School and no one dared to mess with her again.

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A.C.

answers from Salt Lake City on

I wouldn't worry about it. My 6 year old has quite a bit of peach fuzz on her back. I had reaaallly hairy arms as a kid, and it was fairly dark. I did have a complex about it, but I bet nobody actually even noticed it, and it lightened and thinned out when I reached adulthood....of course if it doesn't, and it bothers her at that point, there is always waxing. I am not familiar with PCOS, but I think that there is a good chance her hair will lighten up and thin out when she gets older, and if not, ya know, kids can and will get picked on for ANYTHING...acne, braces, having the "wrong" bookbag... No use worrying about it now, just help her grow into a confident person

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a friend of mine was really hairy growing up and her mother started to use perosside to lighten up her hair on her upper lip and legs (she didn't want to start shaving her too soon). Legs were ok this way (well up to a certain age anyways) but upper lip just looked like a bright blond mustache! If you worry, research more gentle ways of waxing (I heard about honey or similar) so you can remove the hair gently and not ruin her skin. I would wait until it becomes a problem for her, though, she is so small now! My opinion is that there's nothing wrong in taking removing hair in young girls into consideration, that's when they start to be sensitive to how people perceive them and you don't want her to feel self conscious for something, in the end, so easy to take care of. It may sound stupid for us adults, but building confidence starts from these little "unimportant" details.Just my 2 cents.

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my best friend's friend is (was) hairy.. facial, back , etc etc.. it's been this way all her life. She also has PCOS.. as for the hair, at the age of about 35, she did laser treatments (it took several) and it's work quite nicely. They say it works best on dark hair with lighter skin, in the friend's case, she is Iranian and so far, the results have been good.. I don't know at what age they allow such things. Nowadays, they have better and better laser treatments. You can read more about it on the net. The friend is so pleased with the results. in fact, she now wears her hair shorter .. whereas before, she had it long to cover up the extra hair growth around the sides of her face.. Again, your daughter may be too young for such treatments.. but it's good to know there are things out there that can help..

I wish you all the best..

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S.C.

answers from Des Moines on

My son was born with a hairy back and ears-- he had Hobbit ears!!!! The ear hair went away but his back is still fuzzy-- he's almost 4.

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S.N.

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I started noticing dark hair (and quite a bit of it) on my daughter's legs when she was 4 (she's VERy pale so it really stood out). Over the last yer (she's 5) it has thinned and gotten lighter. We're not hairy people though ... so it may take a bit longer with your daughter.

I've always heard it goes away on the back, etc. hopefully this will happen with your daughter too.

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I was a fuzzy little girl along with my sister. I used to sneak and shave my legs at 9 years ols because "I" didn't like it. The moment it bothers her, help her out with the many hair-free or bleaching solutions available. Fortunately, the hair does fade and go away, but not soon enough...sheesh! School aged kids can be very hurtful, so if it persists and is outwardly visible, then I would do something. I know we don't want to teach our children about vanity, etc., but someone else will with the price of precious self esteem. She's sooo young, good thing you don't have to "go there" yet.
Also, I familiar with PCOS and that is a symptom, however I thought the hair growth started around puberty when hormones are surging. I think you just simply have a fuzzy one :) don't worry! X

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S.M.

answers from Columbus on

I'm so glad to see my daughter isn't the only one!!! She just turned a year old but we joke that she's part werewolf. When she was born she had tufts of hair on her shoulder blades and right above her bottom, but that has thinned out and now she just has fine, dark hair all over her back & legs. My son (almost 4 years old) is also very furry but he has very light hair so it's hardly noticeable. I like to think that if we don't make a big deal out of it, she won't care either, but I know kids can be cruel. When she is older and wants to get rid of it, I'll do whatever I have to. There are some hair cream removers for sensitive skin, and I know laser hair removal is getting more common. Let us know what you & your daughter decide on!

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