A.; i understand your frustration, in fact i was my brothers baby sitter when he had his little baby daughter, while he went to work this irritated me and i thought why do you even get her and put me out , if you are not even a round, to me it did not make sense, but at the same time i love my neice, and loved caring for her, but to me at that time it felt like he was shirking his duty and is working while he has her, the reality is at this time in break up, people try to use the kids to hurt the other person, see i can make our child happy , and you cant have her, its a power play, but one that is in benefit of the child, when two people get divorced or seperated , the child usually is the one that gets hurt, the best thing you can do is to allow your daughter to be with her dad, and dont talk negative about dad or the girlfreind in front of the child, the child will see you are always negative at daddy and gymnastics or whatever, and she will eventually feel that way about you , the negative will win, however if you support her visiting her father , and helping her in transition of her changed life, it will go smoother, for her and you, so my advice is kids can handle that kind of life, and its not her fault her parents did not get along, and the best thing to do is to be civil, in all cases, its not the girlfreinds fault, that she has your daughter, its your ex's, its obvious he has made up his mind this is my weeekend and im gettting her no matter what, this is what most men do and go through, its a phase, but if you can keep it positive and nice and civil they will see that you are a nice person, and you all will be able to do this for the child involved, dont fret over what dad does, or what the girlfreind does, you should be happy she still does have a daddy, and she has someoen responsible to watch her, cause most men , dont, and tey feed them fries and mountain dew, and dont usually know how to care for their own child and its great too that he has shown responsiblity , unlike my brother who later lost his childs custody, and his meanness of doing it for the sake of being mean, separted households are not good for the child, but when its their life, make the most of it, she will have to deal with it, and her best way to get through it is to see her parents still love her and are proud of her no matter who she is with and why, so hang in there, and be happy she is with people who do care, unlike someone who dont, its hard, and its rough on you too, and continue to be the great caring mom you are, what you are feeilng is perfectly normal, figure out how to make it a positive, obviously you are a capable woman and no one likes that interference from another woman, but look at it from your daughters perspective and not yours, although you suffer, you will be fine, and she will too, continue being a great mom, D. s