Curfew Advice

I'm old school, no matter what. They have a shorter time under the wings of the parents, then on their as adults. Likewise, I told my children I am also held responsible for their actions until then, so I have to set rules. As they go on their own, they will be held responsible for their own actions and will have the rules of the laws to follow.

17yrs and until they graduated from High School. School night curfew is 10pm. Rest is important for the next day, both for the teen and the adult.

Weekends, (Good kid and priorities done) As long as I know his contacts. Who, What, Where, When and trust ... It's good to go. We have always made good efforts to invite his friends over to meet them (non-threatening/non-lecturing). When friends of your children get to know the parents, and there becomes a rapport. There also becomes a concience of us.

So, you work hard ... you can play hard ... within limits.

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what my mom does with my 16 year old lil sister is shes aloud to stay out till 10 pm durring the week and fri and sat shes aloud to be out till 12. she doesnt have a job like he does but that works good for her.

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i think 10pm-12am is reasonable. i would consider later for special things like an amusement park outing or something.

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On a school night I think even 10pm is too late. I would say 9pm, unless it is a football game, or a school function or something special. Also..depending on where she lives, cities and towns usually have curfews for underage kids, so that is something to look into. Weekends...I think 12pm or 1pm is plenty late.

I don't have teens, but I remember my curfew being set dependent on what my activity was...during the week, if I had work (retail job-work until 10pm) and was scheduled to work it was home by 10:30pm. If I had plans with friends, like dinner or hang out with the girls it was 10pm and not later.

On the weekends, it was always a 12am and no later unless I was going some place Disneyland, Magic Mountain or Universal Studios...but, then again my Mom always had to have names and phone numbers of all the the friends' parents and so forth.

Didn't really have much room for error...LOL...but, I still got to have fun.

I think it's about mutual respect, as a kid I respected my parents boundaries and if I broke the rules, there were consequences. For example, late home past curfew and lost something important...my biggest memory was losing car privelages for being twenty minutes late, once I turned 17 and got my license. Since, your nephew sounds responsbile and respectful, this should be a good way to maintain that relationship with his Mom.

Okay, I'm done rambling...
Hope that helps!