B.S. asks from Penn Yan, NY on January 14, 2007
Cub Scouts/ Daisy Scouts
I am in my 6th year as a cub scout leader. Oour youngest boy is a "wolf" this year. I recently became a Daisy scout leader after signing our daughter up and waiting a few months to determine that the "leader" couldn't fit it into her schedule. My problem is that our meeting time is on the same night and that our times overlap. I want this to be a perfect experience for all the kids involved but don't know how to make everyone happy. My Thursday night meeting for the cubs works best for one parent and the Thursday night for the Daisys is the only night where this particular mom is off of work in the eveings. How can I make everyone happy and not feel so stressed out about it? thanks!! B.
I have heard back from some other moms also involved in scouting. This is my weekly schedule, so to speak...Monday eves are usually free except for the 1x/mo leader meeting for cub scouts, Tuesday we have dance classes for my daughter...Jazz & Ballet. We arrive at 5:15 but don't leave until almost 7:30 as we have to sit through the pre-k ballet/tap class in order for her to have both classes. Wednesday is free except for the 1x/mo district scout meeting, Thursday....cub scouts every week from 6:30-7:30. Daisy scouts runs every other week from 5:45- 6:45 as this was what worked for everyone. Last meeting I didn't get to my boys until 7:10. I am going to ask the moms to start the meeting at 5:30...15 minutes earlier and I have asked another mom to co-lead with me. We have 14 girls in our troop. This seems like a large number to me when they are so little but we have just begun meeting so I guess we will have to see how this goes. I am very stressed out about having both meetings on the same night tho'. I would like to be able to prepare for one and enjoy it instead of having to watch the clock to get out of the church, having everyone happy, the room neat, etc.
L.Q. answers from New York on January 16, 2007
I also do Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts and Church at night. I think that if you poll the mothers they wouldn't mind changing nights for Daisies. You aren't the only one who is very busy and you may find that another night may actually be better for everyone. I am in the process of changing meeting times for my girls also and the mothers have been very good about it. Be careful not to get too overwhelmed with everything like I did at first. You may be able to arrange for a ride for the other girl but it isn't your responsibility. The other moms may be willing to take turns providing a ride. It is the mother's responsibility so don't let her give you a guilt trip. You are the leader and obviously no one else wanted to devote the time to do it so they either have to help out or go with the flow. Do yourself a big favor and enlist one of the mothers as a Co-Leader to take some of the pressure off of you. I LOVE the GirlScouts and our troop has been together for 4 years now. We have grown from 8 girls to 15 now. I also had the mothers sign up as Leaders so that they can help out on trips. you can email me if you need any other help.
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D.H. answers from Albany on January 16, 2007
I'm a Brownie leader, and while I did ask everyone's input on meeting nights, I offered up the nights that were good for *me* as choices. You can't please everyone all the time, and (in my humble opinion) you need to do what is best for you, too. You are giving up *your* time, don't make yourself unhappy in the process! It's supposed to be fun for everyone, including you ;)
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L.W. answers from New York on January 15, 2007
alternate meeting nights and offer to pickup the kids.
say : cubs every 1st and 3rd thurs (parents could also make other arrangemts .
and daisy's 2nd an last thurs. The parents need to be flexible as well especially if your only tryin to accomodate one parent from each group. good luck
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A.S. answers from Hartford on January 20, 2007
I too help run a brownie meeting and can understand your fustration. We have a large group of girls in our troop, with parents who choose to be a little difficult in my opinion. I have gotten to the point of wanting to quit a couple of times. I am giving up my free time for their children. I'm sorry for complaining instead of giving advice, but I really don't understand people sometimes. We have tried before the troup started to set a good time "for everyone" just to have some girls/more like parents to choose other activites over the girls scouts and to actually tell us "call us if it's something good, then we'll go"
My solution to this was to proceed with girl scouts as normal and I'm sorry if there child will miss out. I am not going to stop everything and wait for your child. I would like your child to be included, but I don't feel I have to wait on you hand and foot. I am not going to call you to tell you if the activity is "good" enough for you either, you will come if you want and you won't come if you choose not to. It also seems to be funny that the parents only want to have their children to have the "cute/pretty" badges also and ask specifically how to only make up or get certain ones. We haven't decided on what to do about that yet. What about the girls who are always there and try their best?? I don't understand parents sometimes...what message is that sending to their child...letting them decide to only have the "good things" and not the rest that isn't up to their standards...life doesn't work that way. You either participate or you don't.