Cps - San Jose,CA

Updated on November 27, 2014
A.W. asks from San Jose, CA
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I have an open cps case im doing well completed my case plan now just waiting for courts to get son but been told im getting him back but just found out im pregant and dont want to lose either of my childern my unborn and my son can cps take them are will they not do anything about this they got involved because of my ex but ive been jumping through there hoops what do i do im scared ill lose my childern and im a great mommy help please will cps take my unborn baby are just consider my on they only case or will they add new baby when born please help

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Cps said its fine that i can keep the new baby and by January i get my son and there closing my cps case so happy everything great my son was taken caz had to 30 days in jail on fines and dads was on drugs so because we separated i get my son back and they said they see no problem with me keeping this baby caz im stable and have a job home and safe environment

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

Welcome to mamapedia!!!

I'm confused. You stated CPS said you are getting your son back. Why would they take him away again if you are pregnant?

I'm sorry to be rude, but if CPS took your children? You might not be a great mommy. They don't just take kids for no reason. I'm VERY happy that you have completed classes to become a great mommy.

To the best of my knowledge, they can't take your child for no reason. If they feel you are an un-fit mother, they will take your children. Continue going to classes so you can be the best mommy.

Talk to your case worker. Tell your case worker what is going on and ask their opinion. Don't hide anything from them. Just tell them the truth.

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S.S.

answers from Atlanta on

I can't agree more with Suz T. - stop having babies until your life is straightened out. Kids don't get taken away from a "great mommy".

And another vote for you to talk to your case worker.

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T.F.

answers from Atlanta on

Let me see if I understand. You said you are getting your son back... So why would they take your unborn child if you are getting your son? I actually cannot be of any real help, legally, but thought I could at least suggest that you get an attorney or legal aid to help with any questions. Best of luck to you and your children!!!

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

It's hard to know what's going on here because you've not given a lot of info. That's okay for privacy reasons, of course. But we're going to just be guessing.

If your son was taken away, there had to be some reason. Your ex might have been a problem but CPS must have seen some evidence of a problem since you are the one who has been going through various steps. If you have completed the plan, that's great. If they have told you you are getting your son back, great. I'm sure it feels like you are jumping through their hoops but their liability is so great if they put a child back into an unsafe or neglectful situation. There have been some high profile deaths where CPS missed the signs, so it's understandable that they are hyper vigilant.

Being "a great mommy" is more than loving a child. SO you have to show you are a great mother in all the areas that they are looking at. If you are good in other areas, that may be less relevant to them. They want you to be financially stable, in a safe situation, either happily single or in a strong relationship. Depending on the circumstances of your pregnancy, CPS may or may not think this is a healthy situation. We can't tell from your post because we don't know what's on the CPS "check list" of areas where you needed to improve. Maybe everything you have done is fine, and this pregnancy won't affect that. But if you are doing things that make you appear irresponsible or are living in a substandard situation or with a man who is "questionable" regarding your son, that's another story.

I don't know what you mean when you say "my unborn baby are just consider my on they only case".

I think you need to talk to an advocate or family law attorney in your area who can look at your individual case, any documents, etc.

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K.F.

answers from New York on

A close relative of mine has an open CPS case. It has dragged on for years. This relative has had 4 babies taken from her in this process beyond the children already tied up in this process.

CPS expects you to provide a decent roof over your kids heads. A clean and neat space. You have to be in a position to provide financially for your children for their medical, emotional and physical needs. You may even be expected to do this without the aide of public assistance if you have been relying on that to support your family. They expect you to provide sufficient childcare and to know how to properly discipline your children according to their guidelines. They also want to ensure you provide proper and timely medical care to your children.

If you have all of these things in place and have completed the classes they may have insisted you attend along with any counseling they may also have required of you. It is highly likely you will get your son back but if you are in an unsafe environment and/or are unsafe according to their standards they will keep your son and take your baby once born as well.

Get a great attorney. My close relative has her issues but her lack a of great attorney isn't helping her case at all. Her kids were first placed in the system in 2008. She's been fighting for their return ever since but she also doesn't do her due diligence either.

Don't make decisions based on FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real). If ou can do the things I mentioned above then you will be fine. It may mean you may have to give up some relationships or move to a better area or make some additional compromises to get back you kid but that is what good parents do. Sacrifice.

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

Great first question. You should have stayed in school.

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R.B.

answers from San Francisco on

It's hard to know what they will do. Keep being the best mother you can, don't do whatever it is they took your son for. Take parenting classes.

When you fix the reason they took your child, and prove that you are a good parent, they will let you keep your children.

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