P.W. asks from Drexel Hill, PA on January 08, 2008
Considering Becoming SAHM Instead of Working Mom
Has anyone gone from working full time to a SAHM? I am trying to decide if I can handle it. I would eventually like to do a little work from hime just to supplement but my concerns lie with entertaining my almost 3yo son. He is in daycare/preschool now so he is constantly on the go. My daughter is in 1st grade.
So What Happened?™
Well, no decisions have been made but will be in late January or early February. Thank you all for the advise. I will check out the library and since my son is in pre-school at day care, I will look to enroll him part time closer to home in September. Again thank you for the ideas and support.
S.W. answers from Harrisburg on January 09, 2008
almost 6 years ago i went from working 40 hours per week to being a SAHM - and i haven't regretted a day of it yet!!!
as far as entertaining him - well if you can get him enrolled in a preschool (not a daycare) that is educational like 2-3 1/2 days per week that is good - for both of you really.
also ( i have a 3.5 year old son so i can speak from experience) your son would enjoy the following things: uno - great for teaching colors/numbers; puzzles - dollar store has them and you can find them at the salvation army, yard sales or walmart; coloring;
also - most local libraries have SEVERAL FREE programs that you can take your kids too - and network - find other SAHMs to havce playdates with - and although there is a yearly fee its nominal but MOPS have programs ALL over the place.
I don't know where you live - but i live in Mechanicsburg and i would love to meet you and help you through the adjustment - feel free to email me: ____@____.com
L.T. answers from Pittsburgh on January 09, 2008
I used to work part-time when my oldest was born, but my husband and I soon decided I would stay at home as long as we could afford to do so.
A year ago my son be came ill. His medical treatments lower his immune system so we are choosing not to put either of our children in daycare/preschool until he is more stable. I was concerned about how this would affect him intellectually, but testing through Early Intervention revealed that he is right on track for his age. We don't do anything special or particularly structured. I have 2 books that are calendar-type books for kids/toddlers. Each gives a daily activity to try - art activities, simple science experiments, subjects to research. I think the Mommy and Me website has a similar feature. I use them for inspiration and tailor the activity to be age appropriate if necessary. I then find other activities to build on the concept such as reading a book on the topic or finding pics on the internet to color. Toys like playdoh and building blocks keep my kids busy. They also enjoy matching games, Go Fish, jigsaw puzzles, and simple crafts (paints, stickers, glue, paper, crayons). They recently have gotten more interested in cleaning and doing things I do so I enlist their help with housework (sorting and putting away toys, dusting) and preparing for meals (filling cereal bowls, folding napkins from paper towels, mixing tossed salad). What I am trying to say is that I don't think you have to do anything ultra-creative. Variety is important and exposure to new things is important. That is where the books help me out - I tend to get in a rut.
Joining a mom's club would give you playdate and "field trip" opportunities. Libraries and community centers offer many free or low cost activities, story time, etc.
Hope this is helpful to you. Good luck with your decision.
S.W. answers from Scranton on January 14, 2008
Hi there, Here's some ideas, if you go to the dollar store, you can find a couple of cheap things that will entertain them for a little while at least. I am always there and I look around and you be surprise by what you can find. (I found these rocket ballons, the kids just love them) If you pull out a new item every week,(again dollar store) once in awhile toys r us.
Are you looking for a little work on the side to supplement your income? have you thought about doing something like Lia Sophia(It's light and easy to carry(I do partylite and tupperware too , they can get heavy). You can do like 1 party a week(in the evening and that way your husband can have alone time with the kids and bond with them) You could even do like 1 party every other week or weekends only. That's the beauty of doing home parties or book parties is you can make your own schedule. Hope this helps, S.
L.B. answers from Philadelphia on January 08, 2008
I have gone from working full time to being a SAHM but my situation was different from yours. I have a 16 year old daughter and had a newborn 9 months ago from my second marriage. I was never home with my daughter except for some summer layoff situations and she was always in daycare.
My advice to you is to keep your son in daycare part time if you can afford it. He will crave the regimen and scheduled activities that the daycare provides to him daily. If you can join a mom's group or befriend some neighbors with children to schedule activities/play dates that would be great. The local public libraries have lots of free programs that are usually 1 or 2 days a week for an hour or so each. It's a great place to meet other SAH Mom's too.
If I could do it all over again, I do wonder how my daughter would have turned out now if she was home with me versus the daycares/after school programs. I do remember thinking when she was little (under 6), saying that I didn't think I could have ever taught her all that she learned there.
If you go into it with eyes wide open, with lots of activites and a daily schedule planned for your son, you should be ok to start but I do know that it is easier working full time than it is being home with children 24/7.
P.F. answers from Lancaster on January 25, 2008
If you decide to become a SAHM it will take time to adjust! But you will enjoy being home with them.What kind of work at home are you interested in? I currently am an Independent Avon Rep and I love it!! I am also seriously considering getting involved with a company called Lia Sophia. Avon only cost $10 to get started! And Lia Sophia works a little different in getting started. I actually never heard of this company, until it was posted on the cafemom site, which I am a member of, but want to try something new and refreshing. Both of these businesses offer the flexibility that us moms need these days and the unlimited income that we want and/or need as well. If you would like more information about the Lia Sopia opportunity let me know and I will get in touch with the girl that I talked to. I would love to have you on my team either with Avon or Lia Sophia. Just let me know if you have any questions. With Avon you can check out my personal website and see if this may be something you might want to try! And if you have any questions please feel free to contact me via email or by phone, which is listed on my website. www.youravon.com/donaldfunk Hope to hear from you soon! Thanks, Pam
K.M. answers from Philadelphia on January 08, 2008
If you do decide to stay at home, check out www.momsclub.org There is a chapter in Drexel Hill and would allow for good support and MOMS Nights and Days out for you as well as great playgroups, etc for yourt children. Also, the YMCA has many great programs for kids and child watch while you work out in the gym, etc.
J.B. answers from Philadelphia on November 17, 2008
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C.B. answers from Pittsburgh on January 09, 2008
If you feel in your heart that you are needed more at home with your children, you need to step out in faith and stay home. There are plenty of places now that offer at-home work if you have a PC available should you feel the need to work who have flexible schedules for women in your situation. You only have a couple of years before all of the kids will be in school.