Collecting Passed Due Child Support from a Self Employed

Yes he owes you support money for the weeks he has your son on vacation unless he has something in writing from the court telling him he doesn't have to pay for those weeks. All you're son's father is doing is providing food, entertainment, and shelter for that week. Child support money on the other hand covers clothing, shoes, medical costs, school supplies, etc.

As far as going to court to collect back child support I'd suggest doing it. If he wants to hide money then that's totally beyond your control however you owe it to your son to get the money needed to give him the things he needs.

Good luck on trying to get into you nursing program.

Dear mom,

I suggest going back to court and have the courts collect it from him, and then they pay you,

Its much simpler, you don't have to beg it from him,
negotiate, whatever

They Automatically withdraw the funds from his accounts.

they get all the hassle.

And he CANNOT have an excuse.

YES you still get paid the child support even tho he spent a week with his dad,

I still get paid and my son spends the entire summer with his dad.

You could always argue that he was making up missed visitation

Child support is for the support of the child.
it is paid to you because you are his primary care giver.

Your childs father does NOT get to change the rules whenever he feels like it.

Rent still needs to be paid, electricity, and gas all still need to be available and paid,

Instead of him looking at the week as bonus time with his son, he looks at it as YET ANOTHER way to get out of paying child support,

and bottom line this will reflect poorly on HIM,

As for you it will look like even tho he is NOT paying the support in a timely manner, you are still meeting your requirements and going above and beyond by allowing him to spend additional quality time with his son, WHICH next time you don't have to do.Especially had you known it would cause this much worry.about finances.

Any judge will see that what your asking is fair.

Don't hesitate, he is a big dumb jerk.

and before you know it your gonna be a nurse , earning good money, and won't have a worry in the world.

Trust me it gets better.

M

PS next time he says something like this let him talk to the courts, believe me they will not even listen.LOL

M

Hi C.,

Yes. He still needs to pay child support for the weeks vacation, unless there's an agreement in writing stating differently.

It's difficult, but not immpossible, to collect from self-employed. Chances are he's hiding a lot of his income.

By any chance does he have his own business, even if he's the only employee? If this is the case, you have a much better chance.

Although I've never been in this situation, I know several people who have been. Keep excellent records, when the support was due, when it was paid. Keep receipts for items you pay for that are directly for your son, such as clothing, school supplies or trips, and medical expenses.

Give your attorney a quick call.

Good luck.

C.,

As the other Moms have already stated - he is SUPPOSED to pay you support if he has him for a weekend, week, month - or whatever - until such time that there is an order for him not to -

I would DEFINITELY go through the child support court system to get him to pay directly to the state and then the state pays you. Also get it directly taken from his bank to yours - this way there is no hassle.

My kids are now almost 18 and 15 - when I went to court for their father to pay support - I was told back then that child support and visitation have NOTHING to do with each other - regardless if the non custodial parent (in your case this would be the child's father) pays support or not - that parent has a right to see his child and the child has the right to see the parent.

As I'm sure you already know this - child support is for the benefit of the child - as is visitation. Both of you brought this child into the world and BOTH of you are responsible for the care of that child.

Here's a bit of a past history that I'll share with you concerning my children - last year my daughter who was 16 at the time - went to live with her father - since he was paying support for both of my kids - he continued paying even though she was living with him - he didnt file for modification of support until she was living with him for 6 months - and since he didnt do this until that time - the monies he paid to me for both of them during that time - until the time he filed - I didn't have to pay back! (dumbass he is!! LOL)...anyway.. I now pay support to him for her and he pays support to me for our son (who lives with me)....

I'm telling you this to show and prove to you that the court system CAN work -

Good luck to you...!!