Co-sleeping.... - Burlingame,CA

Updated on February 06, 2009
D.S. asks from San Bruno, CA
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Why do moms do it? how long? what benefits are their for you? your child?

My son is 10 months old now and rarely sleeps past 12:30a before he ends up in bed with me. So I know we all have our own beliefs, but I am interested in hearing from parents, and single moms of those who do co-sleep.

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V.V.

answers from San Francisco on

Try the no cry sleep solution... I mean if you want/need to get your life back with hubby or just you. It was so nice to have our son in our bed... we co-slept since he was a newborn and for me it was easier to nurse him without having to wake up etc... but now he can't nor we can't sleep together... when he was like 8 months showed us he needed his own place to sleep trough the night, he loves his own bed... I'm so glad I've read that book... even though sometimes I bring him with us when he's theething poor baby... but then he wants to go back.

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E.B.

answers from San Francisco on

I do it like you do. My 20 month old starts off in her own room and then wakes up sometime between 11 pm and 2 am and I bring her to bed with me and my partner. We appreciate the evening privacy, but we love sleeping with our daughter. There's nothing like waking up to her sweet little "Hi" and her morning kisses.

Our daughter loves it too. She doesn't mind going to bed on her own, but she loves the closeness of spending much of the night together.

There's all sorts of more formal evidence of benefits, but you can get that from books. This is just my experience. Best of luck to you.

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K.R.

answers from Sacramento on

My son co-slept with till he was about 13 months old. I was breastfeeding him and it was more convenient for us to have him sleep with us. I also got more sleep at night. My baby was similiar to yours -- we would start him in his crib, and after a few hours he would wake up and be with us and sleep through. It was just convenience. Once he was weaned...we decided it was time for him to go to his room. We ended up doing the cry it out method, and it took a while before he would go down easily. He started off crying for 45 min ....and maybe two weeks later...he would only cry for 10 minutes tops. To this day (he's almost 17 months) he still cried when we put him down, but he settles down and he goes right to bed....

hope this helps!

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S.G.

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I am an older single mom of a 4 1/2 year old boy and I also have two older daughters who do not live with us (30 and 24). My son slept with me out of not having another room for him til just this past Thanksgiving. Sleeping together made it easier for nursing back then and since he gets asthma when he gets ill, I could be nearer to him to hear him breathe. Then things changed and he now has a room. He is so excited to have his room. We have our routine where he brushes his teeth, gets his pjs on, I read a book to him, hugs and kisses and then I leave him to sleep. Life is good.

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K.G.

answers from San Francisco on

I slept with my daughter until she was two years old. Mostly because it was the only way we could all get sleep. I work full time and was having problems getting back to sleep after soothing her to sleep several times a night after she would wake up. I LOVED co-sleeping. She was so cuddly and warm. When she turned two we moved her crib out (she did sleep in it until about 4 months of age) and put in a twin bed that was low to the ground. She decided that she wanted to sleep in her big girl bed and not in our bed anymore...boohoo. Only when she is really sick does she like to sleep in mommy and daddy's bed. Although I have to lay with her to get her to sleep. And now when she wakes in the middle of the night I just go in her rooms snuggle right up to her and we fall back to sleep. We have been doing this for 6 months now and it is fine. I treasure these snuggle sessions because I know it won't last forever.

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D.A.

answers from San Francisco on

I started bringing my son in bed w/us when I was still nursing him, b/c I was so tired from getting up at night. He's now almost 2 1/2 and goes to bed (usually!) in his room, sleeps for a few hours there, then wakes up and comes into our bed for the remainder of the night. I sometimes wish he'd sleep in his room, but we did not want him to CIO, and it IS nice having him there to snuggle with, I love that sweet time. As long as he goes to sleep FIRST in his room, we still have some time alone in the late evening!

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C.T.

answers from San Francisco on

My son is 14 months and we've been co-sleeping or partially co-sleeping since he was born. At first, it was just easier for me to breastfeed if he was already in bed with us, and I eventually learned how to feed him without even rolling over to switch sides and without even fully waking up myself. So more sleep for Mommy. He also napped in our bed (or on the couch). By the time he was about 7-8 months, he was just getting too active and too big and too likely to fall off the bed if we weren't there, so we started practicing napping in his crib and also starting the night off in his crib. We'd do our usual bedtime routine in his room, he'd go into his crib, and usually sleep there for 2-3 hours. Then he'd wake up, and I'd either bring him into bed with us or I'd join him in an extra bed we have in his room. Now, at 14 months, he'll sleep very well in his crib for at least 4-5 hours and sometimes straight through the night. If he wakes up, I bring him into bed with me. At this point, I'm pretty much sleeping every night in his room, and Daddy is sleeping alone in our room. For awhile that was fine because my husband struggles with sleep problems and this meant he was getting a better night too. But we're starting to miss each other, so we're slowly working towards getting me back in my own room and our son staying the whole night in his crib. Personally, I have loved co-sleeping. I work full-time and enjoy the extra closeness at night. I made a brief attempt at letting my son CIO when he was younger, but I couldn't stand it and decided it was just not for us. Co-sleeping and our modified arrangement has simply meant, bottom line, that all three of us have gotten enough sleep, and that's HUGE. I'd say do it as long as you want to, and if you want something to change about the way it's working for you, just work on making that change very slowly and gradually. I never thought my son would sleep in his crib ever, and now he goes to sleep in it without a peep and sometimes stays all night.

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T.J.

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We slept with our son til he was 13 months old. I found that it was easier to put him to bed if I could just leave him there after he nursed, and I loved being close to him because after I went back to work I felt like I hardly got to see him during the week. I didn't mind that he woke up during the night, because he'd just nurse himself back to sleep, and I barely woke up. It was important to me to keep up my milk supply, and I think that really helped things especially since I was pumping during the day, weekdays. There were some nights when he seemed to wake more often and not go back to sleep too easily, but those were not too often. I didn't have expectations for him to sleep through the night so I didn't freak out about it. I can't help but think it was good for him to be that close to us and not wake up crying all the time, wondering where we were because he didn't understand object permanence.

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