Child of Good Friend Is Not Someone I Really Want My Child to Be Around

I hate to say that she will pick up these things with any other children that she plays with. It will get ever worse as she is in school and is with more and more kids. Just stay strong and let her know that it hurts your feelings. She is just testing the waters with you right now and you have to set her straight. Don't get angry, just let her know how it makes you feel and how would she feel in the same situation. Soon she will be a young lady and you won't have any say in what she does. So get it under control now while she is young.

I know where you are coming from......one of our best friends has 2 kids. And when they come over they are total brats. They dont listen and they dont obey the rules of our house. And because of that our kids have to miss out on things because we dont want their kids doing them (when they are all here). I have talked to my friend about her kids and it seems to get me nowhere. It has come down to we dont have them over alot anymore. And when they are here we discipline the kids just as we do our own. Whether that is a time out or just correcting them. You need to decide what is best for you child and not worry about what she thinks. If they are really your friends they will understand and not be upset.

This is a tough one! First, your daughter being mean and saying those things probably gives her power--don't respond at all when she says the things you don't want her to. When our 7 year old pulls stunts like that we completely ignore what he's said and we ignore HIM--it doesn't take him very long to change his words because he so wants to be part of the family.

You might also try doing some role playing maybe with a couple of dolls--ask her how the other doll feels when such mean things are said. Words do make a difference! Good luck!

What a hard spot to be in, but the reality is your daughter has already learned the behavior so completely removing the boy from her life isn't going to help and the sad reality in todays world is is it probably would've happened anyways, so deal with it while she is still young and reseptive to her parents.Ignoring her behavior is a really good way to teach her it isn't OK to be mean let her know that that kinda talk and actions are not Ok and when she is ready to be nice you can talk later, most little ones hate this because they hate to be ignored, so don't react....
As to the little boy, when he is at your house and you hear or see something he does that isn't ok let him know that it isn't okay that you like it better when he say's "this" or "that". I don't care if the parent is sitting right next to me if a child is in my house or playing with my child I expect the same good behavior from them, but do it in a way that isn't putting the child down or the parent down, the kid really doesn't know any better so instead of looking at this as a bad thing look at as an opportunity to maybe be a good influence in his life, and he will learn what is accepatable and what isn't I have never known a child who doesn't......eventually.