Our little granddaughter fell down the concrete steps at her moms apartment and broke off her front tooth. Our pediatric dentist did the work on it and capped it with white material. When it came out I had a very hard time telling which tooth had the cap and which was the tooth that was whole.
She went to the hospital out patient surgery center and was put under general anesthesia. She went to sleep, had the work done in just a few minutes, came out, woke up with NO side effects from the anesthesia, wanted to go to McDonalds and eat. She loved the whole thing. I would think she'd have a different idea about the whole thing if she had been awake during the procedure.
I think calling your insurance company to get a list of pediatric dentists that will take your insurance and let her be put to sleep during is the way to go. Obviously you didn't mesh with this dentist. I love our's. I will never take the kids anywhere else as long as he will take them.
An after thought, being put out with general anesthesia was much better than the gas the ENT used. Our grandson had tubes in his ears and he was very traumatized when he woke up from that but when he had some dental work done under general anesthesia he was really happy and fine, no side effects what so ever.
I would make sure to understand exactly what they will be using to put him out to do any work.
The teeth can be saved if there is enough to cap. That is the question.