C.A. asks from Lindon, UT on August 29, 2006
Can't Decide Whether or Not to Homeschool My Children
I am having such a difficult time deciding how to educate my children. I have always d public schools, and I will definitely not send my children there, but I have considered a charter school or private school. I have also thought a great deal about homeschool, but I am worried that I will not be able to do it. I have a hard enough time just keeping the house clean and keeping the kids entertained as it is. Also, my son wants to go to school and I am worried about him not getting enough social interaction if I homeschool. Did any of you go through similar dilemmas? Anybody do the homeschool thing and have advice on how to make it work? I enrolled my son in preschool and it is his second day today. I just am not sure that I did the right thing. Would he be happier with me teaching him at home? Would he learn more? I think so, but am I cut out for it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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I want to thank everyone for all their wonderful input. I was amazed to see so many responses so quickly. I really apreciate each adn every response. I am still not sure what I will do, but I feel like I have a better perspective and some things to think about that I didn't think of before. My personal feelings, with the very limited experience I have on the subject, are that I believe homeschool has the potential to be better than traditional school in several ways. My kids are very intelligent and above average in all areas, so I think that regular school may not be challenging enough for them. I know from my personal ecperiences in public school that I could have learned the same amount of material in a much shorter amount of time if I was homeschooled. I think 6 hours a day is too long for kids to be away from home. I think that the parents should be the main influence in a child's life and be the child's main teachers. Also, I am worried about my kids being taught things that don't coincide well with my personal and religious beliefs.
On the other hand, I see some potential problems and roadblocks to the homeschooling plan. I think that providing for my children's social interaction needs will be much more difficult with homeschool. Of course there are homeschool groups and extra-curricular activities they can be involved in, but it will take more effort on my part. Also, I want to have a lot of kids, atleast 5, maybe more. I think it will be very hard for me to do. Honestly it seems overwhelming and nearly impossible to me right now, and I only have two kids now. Maybe I could change my attitude and feel better about that by overcoming my personal problems with it, I don't know. I have a very difficult time keeping my house clean right now without doing any homeschool. My kids are very demanding and needy especially as babies. Also, I am prone to experiencing depression, and have been all my life. When I think about homeschooling my kids I feel ovewhelmed and depressed. I feel like maybe I just need to do whatever it takes to overcome that so I can do what is best for my kids, but I'm not really sure what is best right now.
Also, I see some really good things about sending my kids to school. For one thing, my son really wants to go to school. He has been in preschool for a week now, and he loves it. He is so excited about the whole experience of going to school, bringing a backpack, going without mom, playing on the playground, and learning new things. He is also really smart and wants to learn to read and everything else. I am personally very excited about the prospect of having some time without my kids each day to take care of other things, but I also can't help but feel guilty about that. A traditional school can offer some things I can't at homeschool, like peer interaction, the building and facilities, plus teaching subjects I don't know much about.
I am just not sure what the right thing to do is, and i guess what it really comes down to is that i am afraid of making the wrong decision and then regretting it later.
I think that the advice I got from a lot of you is exactly right. There really can be more than one right answer. I need to pray about it and think it through and wait for an answer. Meanwhile, I am going to relax and let Ammon enjoy going to preschool for now, and do some supplemental teaching at home too. Thanks so much for all your help.
C.
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K.C. answers from Las Vegas on August 29, 2006
Hi C.!
I have been debating the same thing and I finally made a decision to do the homeschool...if you want to talk, I'd love to do that!
My number is:
H: ###-###-####
C: ###-###-####
Have a great day!
K.
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S.L. answers from Billings on August 30, 2006
I have three kids 9yrs, 7yrs, 4yrs, and this is our fourth year homeschooling. We absolutely love it! A good ciriculum and asking around is the trick. It is hard at first, but you will develop your own rhythmn and get everything done when it needs to be. If you are organized, patient, and can let things go when you need to, then you will be fine. It isn't so much about where you school your kids, but what kind of involved mom will you be for them. I think there can be more than one right answer. If you are social, then they will be too and that isn't a worry for them. If you can respond to this message, I would love to tell you how I started and my favorite resources.
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K.C. answers from Las Vegas on August 29, 2006
Hi C.!
I have been debating the same thing and I finally made a decision to do the homeschool...if you want to talk, I'd love to do that!
My number is:
H: ###-###-####
C: ###-###-####
Have a great day!
K.
B.V. answers from Provo on August 29, 2006
both of my sisters homeschool but I am sending my daughter to public. Feel free to e-mail my sister and she could answer your questions on homeschooling
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K.D. answers from Salt Lake City on August 29, 2006
I'm not terribly fond of Utah public schools, although that's how I was educated and I think I got a decent education. But that was quite some time ago, and I think the schools have just gone downhill since then. Anyway, I have no interest in home schooling my kids, but am interested in other options such as private and charter schools. I'm not LDS, but I've heard there is an LDS private/charter (not sure which it is) just off 10600 south and west of I-15. That may be what will work for your family - it's smaller but your kids will still have the social interaction they need and teaches them your religious values, etc. I think it's good that you enrolled your son in preschool. You'll get a good idea of what he'll likely get out of going to an outside school.
Good luck with your decision.
A.L. answers from Provo on October 31, 2006
If I was you I would put your kid or kids in to pre school cause I was a in and out of schools and home school and it was not an easy thing to do I would of loved to just be in school with kids my own age and be socialy active then not and I know some people that do home school with there kids and there kids are not copeing with other people when they are around other people and they are shy and dont speak unless they know that person they are talking to any way I think actual school is better as being threw it my self and seeing other people go threw it to.
D.M. answers from Salt Lake City on August 30, 2006
C.,
I know how you are feelings on this...This is what a dear friend of mine told me, she has 8 children and she does homeschool. She told me to let my 'babies' go to preschool/Kindergarten, let them get the social skills they need, also by doing so the teacher(s) can help you focus on any special needs your child might need/have you aren't aware of yet. Such as speach.
Both of my kids are now in Public school and I struggle because the teachers have to focus a lot of thier attention on the non-english speaking students.
Also, my daughter (1st grade) comes home with an attitude and that is driving me nuts. I have talked to my husband about Private school but we just can't afford it right now.
My son (Kindergarten) Loves school. We'll have to see what next year brings, if he pulls the same attitude I'll have to homeschool or Private school them.
I don't know if any of this will help, but I thought I'd share my 2 cents.
D. M.
M.H. answers from Billings on August 30, 2006
Hi, i feel your fustration. Our family just went through the same thing. I also thought about home school but like you i can barley keep my daughter busy. I have to say that if you have any question about home school i would not attempt to do it myself. I was worried that i would not be able to teach her the things she need to know for her grade level. So i decided to not even go down that road and look into other options. We did private school. We did public for 2 months and i did not care for it... My daughter is so much happier and she is making diffrent friends everyday... If you have any questions let me know and i will be happy to talk to you...
M.
J. answers from Salt Lake City on August 29, 2006
I would definitely find a way to put your kids in school rather than homeschool them, especially since your son wants to go (you don't want him to resent you...). They have so much to gain from being in school--social interaction, learning to play sports on teams, learning about other cultures, etc. If you plan to have 5 kids, you will be overwhelmed with all the normal mom duties plus being a schoolteacher! You are not a "bad" person if you send them to school--most of us send our kids to public school and they turn out fine (my guess is you yourself went to a public school). I went to a public school in Utah and am forever grateful for all I learned from my teachers and friends. Don't expect too much of yourself; you need your alone time too, especially with that many kids! I have a friend who homeschooled his three kids and then put them in public school--his kids were unfortunately behind and it has taken them years to recover. As I said, you are not "bad" if you do this--you need to let your kids grow, and sometimes that means letting them "go". I'm sure you could do it if you had to, but is that really the best way to go for your kids? Only you know the answer, but I think the benefits of school outweigh any negatives.
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