I hear ya! My daughter did not start teething until she was 11 mo. That is the same time that she got sick for the first time. She is now 14 mo and we are working on her third ear infection. She is also working on more teeth. I don't have any suggestions for the pain, but I have found that when she starts drooling a lot I keep an eye out for the infection. If you catch it early enough there is not as much pain and her ears will clear up after a few doses of antibiotics. My pediatrician said there is not much you can do to prevent the ear infections besides keeping her away from others that are sick. Hope this helps.