J.W. asks from Phoenix, AZ on November 18, 2009
Can I Bring My 13 Month Old to the Hospital While Giving Birth?
I am due to have my baby at the end of January. I have no family on my husbands side or mine that I would trust to watch my 13 month old while I am in labor or staying the night. I do trust my 16 year old stepson who lives with us but think it would be too much to leave him to babysit her all night by himself. My question is: Can she come to the hospital with us during labor and delivery and would she be able to stay the night along with my husband? Otherwise I think my husband is going to have to stay home with her. Any thought or suggestions? Has anyone else been in this situation?
K.R. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
they will NOT allow children under 12 in the hospital October-March due to RSV and flu season, period. It's actually been that way for years, when I had my almost 5 year old son it was that way and when he had to be readmitted for jaundice they had to swab him for RSV first even though he'd only been home 1 day (would have had to transfer us to PCH and be put in isolation). They don't want them to bring germs in or contract something from a patient, but they are especially vigilant about it when they will be around newborns.
A.T. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
I wouldn't take the baby to the hospital, too many germs out there right now and a lot of hospitals are very restrictive w/ children. I bet the 16 year old will be fine with the baby at home, that way the baby will have as much normalcy as possible. You can keep in touch by phone...he can either call the hospital if he needs anything, or you or hubby can call home. That's what I would do. Best wishes.
T.S. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
Personally, with all of the flu bugs and RSV around right now, I would keep any child as far away from a hospital as possible. Many hospitals right now are banning children under 12 to help prevent the spread of the flu.
J.V. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
No children under 14 are allowed to visit the hospital in the winter months usually Nov- May due to RSV and Flu. However this year it was earlier due to H1N1 and an early RSV season. This is for the safety of the new babies. I know it is hard but it is in the little one best interest. My first was a January baby and she got RSV- very scary stuff. You want to keep them protected as much as possible. Congrats and good luck.
D.H. answers from Flagstaff on November 19, 2009
Don't you have a friend that can come stay the night at your house with your 16 year old and baby? Otherwise, I don't think 16 is too young to take care of the baby over night, if it is only for that situation. I mean there are plenty of 16 year old dad's out there who have to take care of their baby or babies. If he needed something, he can always call your husband to come home, or call a friend of yours to come over if need be. Good luck with the new baby =)
A. answers from Albuquerque on November 19, 2009
Just a plug for a homebirth. You can ALL be together, or at least in the same house and no one is exposed to all the scary germs people are mentioning here. You can then all go to sleep together in your own beds.
S.W. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
I think that in the past a baby would have been able to come to the hospital. But now due to the H1N1 virus, i think visitors have to be 13 or older. What about your 16 year old daughter. If not, then definitely your 16 year old son. You would be surprised what those teenagers can do when they are asked to step up to the plate because they are "needed" he is truly needed, because your husband needs to be with you. Just let him start practicing now a little here and there. Or being more involved with the 13 month old so that he will feel very comfortable for the little time you are delivering. your husband won't be away too long, just long enough to see his child being born; which is very important. :) your step son can handle it.
J.K. answers from Phoenix on November 18, 2009
I think it might be too much for you and hubby even if it is allowed. You'd have two babies to care for. Are there any friends you could trust? Do you attend a church to where you could trust someone from church? I totally understand your delema and I would feel the same way as you. I hope you find something that would work for you. Congratulations on your new addition and your precious family!
J.J. answers from Phoenix on November 19, 2009
Due to the H1N1 and RSV, she will not be allowed in with you or your husband. If your 16 year old is responsible, I would think he would be able to handle it. Otherwise, do you have a close friend or neighbor who could help out ? When my neighbor went in to deliver, her child came to stay with us for the night. It was all planned out ahead of time. You still have time to figure it out. Congrats!
A.H. answers from Santa Fe on November 18, 2009
Well Congrats!! I have had a similar situation. I went into labor all of a sudden and did not even have a babysitter lined up. As it turned out family was there for us. Now with the H1N1 and Flu season here, they will not allow your daughter or anyone who is under the age of 14 years old to visit the patients in the hospital. There are also some hospitals where they don't let children under the age 14 or children who have recently been sick even visit the patients at all. I if it is possible consult your hospital first to see what there rules are. Second, think about whether it is possible for your son to watch your daughter at the hospital. if not I think that a babysitter might be also another route. Well I hope that these suggestions work for you, and good luck.
N.O. answers from Phoenix on November 18, 2009
You will have to wait and see but I know as of now they are letting no one under the age of 12 in patient care areas (including maternity wards) of the hospital currently due to the flu frenzy and fear. I am due anytime (official due date Nov 29th) and my 3 year old daughter will not be able to visit. Check your delivery hospital website and they should have information but most say through the flu season which is November-April. I was upset but we do not have a choice.