C- Section Terror

Hey L.. My name is M. and I just registered today. I had a C-section when I had my twins in October of last year. I had them when I was in the military so civilian doctors may do some things different but they will give you an epideral. Then they will cover you up and put a shield so that you can't see what they are doing. They will also hook you up to a machine if you have trouble breathing. I got sick when they hooked me up to it so I didn't have that done. Both my babies were breech. I was up and moving within 3 days. Just be patient and know remember you are doing it for a good cause.
M.

L., my name is B.. I had an emergency c-section with my first child. I was scared to but it was alright. It will take some getting use to, especially with standing up, but you will manage. If you have any other questions please email me.

B.

I was 27 when I first had my first son and I didn't take any birth classes because I thought I could handle anything. Well, I was not prepaired for them to tell me at the last min they were going to have to do a C-Section. I was a single parent with no family around to help. But since the dark ages of c-section they have come a long way. I have had 2 more kids that way and even with spinal tap on my last one, because I knew he was going to be my last one I wanted to witness it. I know you will do great because modern medicine is great and don't be afraid to let the doctors know about any little thing that makes you question if you should be feeling any certain way that does not feel right to you. Listen to you instinct, 9 times out of 10 it is right. After all you are a new mom. Good luck K.

Has your Dr. discussed having a manual version to try and turn the baby? When are you due? I would be leary of any doc who doesn't offer all alteratives prior to just jumping into a C-section. Personally, I think the C-section rate is out of control. But, that is just my opinion. Clearly there are circumstances when it can not be avoided. My daughter turned breech in between my 32 and 34 week check up. To top that off, we were moving (military) at my 35th week and I was to be seen at a new facility. I also have low platelets with both my pregnancies! So, not the best time to be changing docs, but I had no choice. At 37 weeks I went in to attempt the manual version because I was strongly opposed to having a C-section. It was a success and literally only took about 30 seconds for the procedure. Of course we had to stay afterwards to monitor the baby for 2 hours, but that was it. For the version you can not eat after midnight the previous night, (in case there is an emergency during the process and they have to do an emergency c-section). They give you a little shot of terbutaline which relaxes your uterine muscles, but makes your heart beat really fast, you get flushed, and I felt slightly nauseous. That wears off in about 45 minutes though. They had me in a regular labor and delivery room next to the OR, just in case. They had the ultrasound machine there to get a good look at the baby. Then two docs greased up my belly and began pressing/pulling really h*** o* my belly until she flipped right around. They had offered an epidural or spinal, if I desired. They said that sometimes that improves chances of success because you can't feel them on your belly, so you are REALLY relaxed. I chose the least invasive method with the terbutaline though. I am an RN, so I prefer the easiest way! I know what goes on in hospitals! It was an uncomfortable process, but it literally only took about 30seconds. I think I held my breath the whole time! I would do it again in a heartbeat. At 40 weeks and 2 days I went into labor and delivered an 8lb 6oz baby girl in 18 minutes! We arrived to triage at 408pm and she was born at 426pm! So, obviously there were no drugs involved! A much better labor than the induction I had with my first child, and a much quicker recovery as well! I do wish you luck. With all of the women who opt for a C-section these days, it can't be that bad! Take care and congratulations.

Hi Im new here and this is my first response. I know its a little scary thinking about having a c-section but it will be ok. I have 3 kids. My first one I had vaginally and I couldnt sit for about 2 or 3 weeks from the episiotomy. My other 2 were c-sections and I healed better and faster with them. Just try to have someone who can come help for a couple of days when you get home until you get use to getting up and down and moving around. You will be in the hospital for a couple of days at least. If you plan to breast feed it will cramp you a little bit while the baby is nursing but it really just feels like period cramps nothing thats too hard to cope with. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Who knows the baby may just be being stubborn and turn at the last minute. I hope everything turns out alright for you.

I would look into turning the baby. By contacting a chiropractor who can do the Webster technique and contacting an acupucturist who can use moxibostion which is suppose to have an 80% success way of turning the baby. If you try everything to turn the baby, and the baby doesn't turn then you will not have regrets if the c-sec is necessary. Sometimes babies have to spend some time in the NICU because they have trouble breathing since they did not get the stimulation needed by labor contractions. Good Luck.

Looks like everyone gave you some really good information. I had c-sections with both of my children. The only advice I have is to make sure you buy a Boppy. You can find them just about anywhere. Also when they let you get up and walk, make sure you do. Walk as much as possible. You are going to have pain but the more you walk the less pain you will have. While you are walking just keep taking deep breaths. Also take heed the information everyone has given you because I was reading them and it is some really good information.

Hi L.!

I just wanted to let you know about my experience with a c-section. I had two of them in 2 years my kids are 2 and 1. It was not a bad experience for me. Just make sure you give youself plenty of recovery time (whichever birth you do have). You should not have to worry about standing up, it actually will make you feel better to get up move. I did have help with both my children the first few weeks. Its always nice to have the extra hands to help out so you can rest. I wish you a happy, healthy delivery!

I haven't read all of the replies.... but I am going to give you my experience.

I had to have an emergency c-section with my second child who is now 7 1/2. I had spinal headaches because of the spinal. This is a rare thing, but let them know if it happens. After a blood patch you will recover within 5 minutes. I was not able to lift my head up for more than a few seconds without getting a severe headache. they didn't listen to me because I have sinus problems and they blamed it on that. It was when I couldn't stand up to take a shower that they finally believed me.

Otherwise the other painful aspects are the pain, that is alleviated by the support wrap. I hated the effect of the anesthia. I could not stop shaking from the after effects of waiting for it to wear off. I was able to walk around after a while (especially after getting the blood patch). I was in the hospital for 3 days because of the spinal headaches. Then you just have to be careful about what you lift and how hot your shower is. I made the mistake of getting the water too hot after about a week of being home and lost a lot of blood and passed out. I woke up in the ER and was told that my muscles relaxed too much with the hot water. So lukewarm showers should be taken for a while. the other thing of course, as someone else said, is passing gas and hving a bowel movement. It will be painful the first few times. The whole area there is sore. Don't push yourself.

C-section's ar enot easy, and you will be sore for a while, but it isn't something that you can't pass. You need to find your limits, don't stay on your feet to long. the best thing... just sit in a recliner with your baby beside you in a basinet, only getting up when you have to.

I am happy to say that I had my third child naturally. Purely natural, no drugs at all, and it was the best birth experience out of my three deliveries. The greatest joy is just seeing your child for the first time, and that in itself takes away some of the pain. When you can see all ten toes, ten fingers, eyes, and all the happiness it will bring your. If you are able to breastfeed, do it. It will help your recovery immensely. My child delivered by c-sectin had othe rcomplications, the reason she was an emergency c-section, but she is soing great. I am sure you will have no problems and will recover well. A tleast yours is planned and I will keep you in my thoughts that hopefully your little one will turn around. Do a search online to find out ways you can help the baby turn. there is a massage you can do and some other things... just laying differently can help sometimes. If I can find any of this info for you I will post it soon.

Good luck, and don't worry. Yes I talked about some bad stuff that can happen, but everyone experiences things differently. Just think positive and look forward to holding your baby that day.

C.

I had 2 C-sections 10 1/2 months apart. The best suggestion I can give you is to get up and walk as soon as the doctor allows it. With my 1st one I was up 3 hours after my 1st son was born and did very well. The 2nd one was a little harder because I had my tubes tied as well. Like I said get up and get moving as soon as you can.
N.

I had a c-sec 3 months ago, first baby. I was in a panic as well. I have no tolerence for pain and was scared to death....if I can do it and tell you it's not so bad..trust me it is not. The worst pain I had was the i.v. after that you do not feel anything. The epi does not hurt at all, you don't feel anything b/c they numb your back first. The surgery you don't feel anything exept pure joy when you hear your baby cry for the first time. :) When they are pushing the baby to take him out you will feel alot of pressure. I felt like I could not breath from them pressing to take the baby. This did not last long...just expect to feel pressure and some discomfort but no pain. After they take the baby and they get ready to move you they will turn you on your side and you feel like you are going to fall off the bed but you are not. That was the only freaky thing that happened but in talking to people apparently this happens to everyone b/c even the nurse told me right before..you are going to feel like you are going to fall off the table..she pulled me on my side I screamed but nothing happened so keep that in mind it's a perception thing. Afterwards is when you will need help. Walk and keep walking as soon as you can. I could not pass gas from surgery and that hurt. They gave me a supository (sp?)and that really helped. You will need help taking a shower so have your honey or someone you feel comfortable with help you with that. Ask for a support belt...this is really helpful. It keeps everything snug and provides alot of support which helps with pain. They sell them at babysrus. I got one at the hospital but I did have to ask for it and because I was in pain. They are about 6 inches wide and wrap around your abdomen. I used this for about 2 months day and night, especially at night after about a month. You will appreciate all the help you can get for about 2 weeks. Best of luck and May God Bless you. You are going to have a baby!!!!!!

I've had two c-sections, so I know what you will be going through. There are two main points to recovering quickly after this surgery: 1. Walk. Moving around as soon as you can after the c-section helps many things. You may need a bit of support with a binding(ask your nurse at the hospital) or a pillow pushed against your tummy the first couple times around the halls. Walking around at the hospital is the best time to try your limits. If you get too tired or sore, the nursery staff is happy to help with your little one, and you have all the pain relief you need at your disposal. 2. Pain Control. Stay ahead of your pain. Don't try to be tough. You just had a major surgery, and now you have a little person to take care of! Take your medicines on a schedule to keep pain at bay. It really speeds your recovery.

Also, all of the other new mom advise helps. Rest when the baby is and let the house work go for a few days. You want the time and enery you put in to go towards yourself and the new baby until you are getting around better.

I wish you lots of luck! Congrats in advance on you new little person in the family. ~Kat

i understand where your coming from, i had a c- section too, but it wasn't even planned. dont be afraid, it looks bad on baby story, but you dont feel a thing. It will be a whole bunch of lights and drs, but just remember that after all that, your beautiful baby is coming ( without the hump on its head from squeezing through the birth canal). The best thing to do is while your in the hospital, make sure you walk. You may not feel like it, but it helps with the stiffness. Do what you can, and remember, WHEN THAT BABY SLEEPS. YOU SLEEP. Good luck, and you will be fine.

Don't worry. Everything will turn out fine. In Oct. of 2006 I was set up for a c-section as well and I did not take that new easy. I did not want to have the c-section. However, I had to because my baby was breeched and there was no way he was going to turn. I had even scheduled for the doctor to try to turn the baby the right way. However, I was advised against it by family members. So, I did not do it. Having a c-section just takes a little longer to be healed. But, overall, it is fine. Don't base you mind so much on it. Just think of that beautiful baby you will be holding after it's all over. Sure, you will be sore and you will hurt. However, the fact that you will finally get to see that baby is worth every bit of pain. At least for me it was.

Hello, My name is D. and I'm a mother to two children, both were born threw C-Section, I can agree with you that it is a terrifing thought but at the end of everything it'll be fine! I had my baby girl this past jan. and at the time my husband had a 12hour shift job so it was as if i was alone & to make matters alittle worse it was during the night. That part of it wasn't any fun, but i managed and got through it. The good thing is that your going threw it and it's a little bit planned like you at least have the thought that you may be having to go that route, with my son it was an emergancy c-section and that was really really scary because it was a one min to the next decision & my first child. So at least you have that. You will need some help getting up and around but as long as you remember not to rush yourself for anything. It'll be nerve racking when the baby is screaming but take things slow, she will be fine! Well I wish you luck! and congrats!!!

Hi L.-
I had my son by c-section in February. I really did not want one, but I developed pre-eclampsia, so I had to have him that day. I really don't want to scare you, but it really is not fun at all. It was the most painful thing that I have been through. Although since you are having the section, you get to stay in the hospital for 4 nights instead of 2. I would really recommend doing that, since those days are the worst. You just have to move very slowly and getting out of bed takes a while. My husband and I were in the same situation where he had just started a new job, so once I came home, he went back to work.
But, you will be able to walk and take care of your baby. You will just have to move VERY slowly, but you will be fine. You won't be able to drive for the first few weeks-my doctor said that I could drive when I felt that I could slam on my brakes! I started walking the first week that I was home and was running 5 weeks after. It is very tender for a while, but you will get better!!
I hope that this does not scare you too badly, you will be fine though!! Congrats on your baby girl!!

Sincerely,
A. A.

I had 4 chldren, the 1st was a c-sect and tech has come a long way. My 2nd was natural, my 3rd was a c-sect, and my 4th was natural. With natural or c-sect your going to be sore. I found my body healed at about the same rate with either one. I'll keep you prayer. Everything will be fine.

Hi L..
Don't worry! It will be ok. Having a c-section is scarey but it doesn't last long. The pain afterwards is not fun but you will be able to get up and around, just not like normal. I was up the next morning to see my son since he was under a bubble tent and they couldn't bring him to me. And then he was sent to NICU so I had to go see him whenever I could so again, I was up and down constantly. Although my husband was there, he couldn't do much and I had to get myself down to NICU constantly for over a week until we got to take him home. Once we were home, I was pretty much "it" since my husband works full time and i survived pretty well. I would suggest making it as comfortable as possible at home prior to your child coming home. Having a cradle with wheels would be great so you wouldn't have to carry your child as much at first and have him/her near you where ever you are in your house.
Well, hope it all goes great. Let us know!
D.

Don't be scared, because it's not that bad. Mine was at 6 in the evening, and I was up walking the next day. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, but it is bearable. To me the worst thing was middle of the night feedings. I would definately recommend a bedside bassinet. When you finally get to lay down and sleep, waking up in the middle of the night might be the most painful part. They say the football hold is best for breastfeeding after c-section, but I don't know. My daughter wouldn't breastfeed. And car rides aren't any fun either. Make sure whoever drives you around doesn't drive like a madman. I will tell you this, and they will tell you this too. As soon as you feel comfortable to get out of bed at the hospital, do it. It will speed your recovery tremendously, as well as help prevent blood clots and body swelling that happen when you don't get up and circulate your blood. Just take it easy. The doc will tell you no driving, walking stairs, or sex for 4-6 weeks. Let someone else help you with the laundry and stuff, or wash it all up before you go to hospital. Take every chance you get for a nap. =) This may all sound terrible, but it will be ok. I was just trying to be honest.

I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I had to have an unexpected C-Section as well, so I understand. To be honest, the C-Section itself wasn't as big a deal as I thought it would be - my nerves seemed to get the better of me more than the procedure did. My biggest let-down was not being able to spend as much time with my baby right after delivery as I would have liked, as a result of hospital regulations regarding C-S deliveries. As far as afterwards, there was definately pain, but nothing that was incapacitating - just make sure that when you are cleared to walk, you stand up straight - leaning over is more comfortable, but will KILL your back later. (Don't worry...you'll be able to walk. Just not run!) When you get home, I found that it was just easier to have the baby in the bed with you, and I spent most of my time there (my husband had to go back to work early, too.) Ask your doctor about pain relievers you can take that won't interfere with your ability to take care of your baby (such as making you sleepy all the time.) That's about all I can think of...good luck to you, and congratulations!!

Wow, same experience. I was 24 with a healthy pregnancy and then on a routine check up in my 37th week I was told that my daughter was complete breech. I went back my 38th hoping that she turned (I did some crazy old wives tricks to get her to turn) but she didn't. So my doctor scheduled me for an external cephalic version that was unsuccessful. I too was hoping for a natural delivery.

Now, I don't want to scare you. That is not my purpose for this response. I just want you to be aware of what I didn't know about. I am not trying to tell you what to do. Do what you think is right for you and your baby. When I read your question, it reminded me too much of what I went through and I would have wanted to know the consequences before hand.

1) I would not attempt an external version if I would have known the actual pain involved. It was probably worse than natural labor and I have a very high tolerance for pain. The doctor, his nurse, and an ultrasound tech was basically on top of me for 30 minutes trying to turn my daughter around inside of me. My abdomen stayed bruised for several days and the success rate is very low. You also have a chance of other things that could go wrong.

2) If your water breaks, hurry to the hospital. You have a higher chance of cord prolapse which is dangerous. I went into labor the day before my due date and my bag of waters broke in the hospital. Thankfully, they were prepping me for my c-section when it happened.

3) Make sure that they do an ultrasound before they prep you for c-section. Your baby can turn on it's own any time between now and Tuesday. My doctor didn't schedule me for a section because I wanted to go full term just in case she would turn. There is always a chance.

4) Your other concern is about getting around after. Don't worry, before your discharge the hospital will make you get up on your own. I highly recommend it.

5) Report any leg pain (post c-section) to your doctor immediately. Just trust me on this. I won't go into detail because I feel my experience was a freak accident and everyone's birth is special and different. But do take this very seriously.

You should also know that because you have a c-section doesn't mean that you're a wimp or that you took the easy way out. This is something you will have to do if your baby stays breech. I had tons of people telling me that I could have had her the natural way and that I just wimped out of the pain. I even had someone tell me, "Rachel on Friends had a natural birth and her baby was breech!" Hello, that is TV and this is real life. The truth is no doctor will deliver a first baby vaginally if it's breech.

It was really hard for me to deal with it. I had pictured my husband helping me push and breathe. I wanted to see the look on his face as he cut the cord. But it was what I needed to do because the only important thing was that I had my baby and she was healthy.

Hi, First of all, congratulations!! I had my first baby 41/2 months ago through a c-section, and I prefer a c-sec over a natural. I was up and walking, slowly and tediously, but walking the next day. They kept me in the hospital(routinely) for four days, and by the time I left the hospital, I was walking and carrying my son just fine. THey gave me vicadin for the pain, but i think I took three total out of the whole bottle. Once I got home, the pain went away realyl quick, because you have no choice but to have to get over it and take care of your baby. The hospital is what killed me because I had to stay in bed most of the time b/c there was nothing to do so I didn't get to wok my muscles, but once I got up and moved around at home, I healed up real quick. I actually started doing sit ups about 6 weeks after my pregnancy. SO it's not as bad as everyone says. i think that it depends alot on the woman herself and pain tolerance, because to me it wasn't bad at all. It beats having to be stretched out and feel that kind of pain.(in my opinion)Sorry that this is so long, but i hope it gives you some kind of comfort and help to ease your fears. Good luck!!!

I don't when you are due, but my second baby was thought to be breech during my third trimester, I think it was (it was 5 years ago) and my OB wanted to try to turn her, or encourage her to. So before the procedure she did an ultrasound and she wasn't real sure what position my baby was in, and then she walked out for something, a while later she came back, felt again, and said, hey, I think she turned! They did another ultrasound and indeed she had flipped. Maybe the details aren't exact, but the point is, I was soooo relieved to not have to go through that turning procedure. And then I had a natural, normal birth right at her due date.
So if I were you, even though you are scheduled for a C-section, I would ask for one last ultrasound to make sure of th baby's position. Maybe they do that anyway, I have never had a C-section.
Best wishes.

L.,
7 years ago my son was born and I had to also have a c-section because he was breech. We found out 2 weeks before he was due. I was scared because it never occured to me that he might be born that way.Everything turmed out fine but I will be honest with you, it is a long recovery. I was in the hospital for five days and when I went home it wasn't so bad because I got to sleep and rest while the baby slept but it was har to move around the first few weeks. All I can tell you is to have someone help you out the first day or so when you are home because you won't be able to walk around so much.
It will be fine L., at least you don't have to feel contractions...those are the worst...I also have a 6 year old daughter which I had natrual.
Good luck!

L.

I just had my second C-section on the 20th of March. It's not as bad as you think. It sould be a little easier for you. I have a 2 yr old to chase around and take care of an infant. My only advice is take all the help you can get, and make sure you take care of yourself.

I had a C-Section at the last minute, I also was hoping for a natural birth.
To be honest, the recovery is the worst part. For me, the surgery was not a big deal, I still got an epidural which is wonderful, and the c-section itself is so fast. I was nervous about it once I found out I was having one, but it was over in no time.
As far as when you come home, yes it is hard to get around. I couldn't stand up straight for 2 months! I wish I had made myself walk more as soon as I could get up, even starting in the hospital. I only got up to use the restroom, and i regret it. My bedroom and shower is on the second floor, I would go up for a shower and by the time I was all done, I was pooped.
My family helped out a ton, which was great. My mom was with me most of the time. If someone can stay with you a while, that would be ideal.
Don't freak out, it is not that bad. One thing to remember after the surgery, find out ways to NOT use your stomach muscles. It is hard, since most movements use them, but you will be ok. I also had a friend who had a C-section and her recovery was no big deal she says.
Sorry for the book!

You'll be fine! I have had five abdominal surgery to correct various female organ problems since the c-section birth of my son six and a half years ago. I was able to hold the baby, breastfeed, and walk, slow and painfully, with the baby. My advice is use the oral meds they give you. I know some people shun meds and don't want to use them but they help make recovery quicker and make it easier for you to function normally. Staying in pain will prolong your recovery. ALso don't do too much!! Even if you feel great take it easy. You just gave birth, if the baby rests you rest!!

L.,
I am a 27 year old single mom of two boys. I have had both of my boys by c-section. The oldest was an emergency c-section due to a car accident, but the youngest had to be c-section since my doctor would not let me do the natural birth since I have already had my first by c-section. Me personally I would now chose to have a c-section rather than natural birth for many reasons. I know that everyone is different when it comes to pain, but the c-section is not as bad as what a lot of people have said. I was single when I had both of my boys so I have never had the help of anyone when we went from the hospital. So the best advice I can give you is to let the nurses at the hospital and the nursery do as much as possible so you can get some rest after the birth. The most pain that I had (which yes it got VERY bad) after the birth was the gas build up that I had from them opening me up. So, do whatever you can to help that before it even starts! Other than that I was back to work in 3 weeks after my second son! So, hopefully you will not be in to much pain and everything will go smoothly! But, if you do end up having to do a c-section then try not to be so terrified! Everyone is going to tell you different things since everyone is different on how they handle them...but you will find your own way on how to handle the situation during the birth and afterwards! Good Luck and Congrats!!!!

Girl, I feel your pain. But Really though...you will be fine. I had my heart set on natural too but after going all day in labor to find out that night that my baby had no choice but to come out by c-section---I was so freaked out that I couldn't stop shaking. I have never been that scared before. Looking back 9 months later...my next children will be delivered by c-section.
The week after delivery hurts...there is no way around that but that is what drugs are for. Yes, you might need some help getting around for a couple of weeks.
I am a total baby when it comes to pain but I was surprised at how well I made it through the whole ordeal.
The only regret I have about the entire ordeal is that my epidural wasn't totally working (only my right side was totally numb) so I had to have a spinal right before the c-section. With both of those and the fentinol I had for contractions that day...I slept through the entire delivery. I remember the doctor asking if I could hear my baby crying and my husband said I raised my head for 2 seconds and was out again. I regret not getting to hear the first cry....
Everything else is managable.
You will be sore from the c-section but walking does help you get better faster (I thought everyone was nuts for making me walk). The sooner you can get out of your hospital bed and walking the halls the sooner you get to eat and go home.
If I can help with anymore question, email me.

Hi L.,
My husband and I just had our son in June. I thought like you that I was going to have a natural child birth. I had an emergency c-section. So I had no time to prepare, we went to my doctors appt and bam,,my blood pressure was really high and they sent us directly to the hospital. So here we are, Im 38 weeks pregnant and Im on my way to hospital to get cut open. Id heard all the horror stories about c-sections and I was hysterical! Well needless to say all the bad news and scary info was wrong! The IV process was uncomfortabe but manageable, the catheder(I think its mispelled) was kind of painful but not something that made me want to scream, but it is uncomfortable. The spinal or epidural was not at all the horror people make it out to be, it wasnt bad at all. It feels like a sting, if you have ever had your tooth pulled the needle sting in the gums feels like that, but in your back. I did get nauseted from the drugs they give you, that was the hard part throwin up and not being able to feel your lower body. They give you medicine immediately though to stop the nausea. I had little tremors from the meds as well, they say its a common side effect though. It like shaking in your arm area it last about thirty minutes. Its not bad though. When they take the baby out you will be so in awe of that you will not notice the tugging and pulling of sewing you back up. Recovery is the hard part, because you know that everyone is getting to look at your baby and your laying there while nurses stare at you to make sure your alright. They will give you meds every couple of hours, if you feel pain you will call the nurse and they bring you your pain meds. Start walking as soon as you can, so that the muscles dont tighten up. They removed my catheder the second day so I had to get up to go to the bathroom. My husband helped me walk around and I took trips daily to the nursery to see our son! It took me about three weeks to not have to bad of pain in my lower belly. I stopped taking the pain meds when I left the hospital I was there for three days. So dont listen to the bad stories and believe in you. You can conquer the c-section!!!

P.S. You will need help though, my mom came and stayed with us for two weeks and my husband was there with me for one more after that. I was ready to have mommy and baby time after that though. So about three weeks of help would be good. Oh yea and get a Boppy Pillow for holding and feedings,,it a MUST HAVE AFTER A C-SECTION!

I had an emergency c-section due to pre-eclampsia. The day after delivery I was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. I'm a single mom and after the first week I was left to care for newborn twins by myself. After the 3rd day the c-section was a non-event - I needed no meds. You have been blessed with giving life - don't sweat the small stuff.

Hello! I had to have a C-Section 3 months ago. They lost the babies hearbeat after the epidural. They were great with me in the hospital. They got me up a few hours after the birth to get my legs working etc. I had minor pain during this time. They will also give you pain meds at the hospital and for home. I really dod not take them much after I got home. I did great at home I was mostly alone during the day with my baby so my boyfriend could work. I did great. I think moving around helped alot I did take it easy also in spurts. I was worried about the same thing. I hope you do ok. Good Luck! W.

HI L.,
I HAVE HAD 3 C-SECTIONS IN THE PAST 4 YEARS. THERE IS NOTHING TO IT. THE ONLY THING YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER IS THE MORE YOU MOVE THE EASIER IT IS. TRY REALLY HARD TO GET UP(STANDING) AS SOON AS THEY LET YOU. IT WILL TAKE TIME GO SLOWLY WHILE STANDING. ROTATE THE SIDE THAT YOU ARE LAYING ON AND KEEP ALOT OF PILLOWS UNDER YOUR LEGS, BACK, AND BELLY. TRY TO SIT IN A CHAIR TO EAT AND ONLY GET IN THE BED TO SLEEP OR NURSE(IF YOU BREASTFEED). THIS WILL EASE THE MUSCLE BACK INTO WANTING TO WORK.IF YOU NEED ANYTHING ELSE PLEASE LET ME KNOW. CONGRATS!!

I have had 2 c-sections. The first was an emergency section because i pushed for 2.5 hours and no baby! I cracked my tailbone while pushing, it made it very hard to function at first. When I had my second one, it was gravy! I went in, they done the epidural, I layed down, with my husband at my head, the doctor talked me through every step of whathe was doing. Before I knew it, I had my baby! He didnt have a conehead from the birth canal, he didn't exhausted from going through all of that pushing, he was very happy from the get-go. If I had a choice, I would do the c-section all over again a million times before I would give vaginal birth. With my first son, I slept in a recliner, it made it so easy for me to get up and down and quickly as possible. Being I had a cracked tail bone, I couldnt move very fast, but with the second son, it was very smoothe. I had barely any pain at all! Really! It was nothing! I am a baby when it comes to pain, I dont like taking pain medication. The first baby I got some Dorvocet, strong enough for the pain but not too strong to where I couldn't function. With the second, if I had ANY discomfort, I took tylenol. It was truly great! God thing about a c-section is you get to stay in the hospital for about 2-3 days. I know you wana be home with the baby BUT you get helped completely for that whole period and you dont have to worry about what not to do. You will be guided through everything. Being a first time mom is hard. So with professional help and some instinct, you can do it! You will be a great mom! Good Luck and let me know how it goes!

Hi L.,
Please call me and I can help you with your options that may help turn your baby here in Austin. I am a local Doula and I own Austin's only group doula practice. I can also help you in your process with getting ok with a c-section should it become necessary.
There is an interesting web site that may help you called http://www.breechbabies.com/
I haven't read the site extensively but another local doula recently mentioned it on another list that I am on.

The first thing I would try would be chiropratic (Not all Chiropractors are good at this since it is a very subtle non-invasive technique) and the I would probably see an acupuncturist as well. I have great practictioners to recomend.

Please do call me since your time window is short-
I want to help you if I can.

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Hi L.,
Don't panic. I was in the same spot. I won't lie and say a C-section was the best time I ever had, but it wasn't that bad either. You will be able to stand up, in fact you should after your catheter is out while you're still in the hospital. Standing and walking, while not comfortable, are the best way to get going again and work out soreness and stiffness. By day 8, I was doing just fine - so fine in fact that I drove a car off and on for 25 hours evacutating before hurricane Rita. Another friend who had a C-section said day 8 was the magic day for her too. We weren't weight lifting or running marathons, but we were mobile and not in too much pain.

Tell your doctor that you're scared and you'd like to walk through what to expect with the surgery and the healing. He/she should understand. If they give a " you'll be fine" line, tell them you need more detail.

You WILL need help with the baby because it will be hard for you to move around a whole lot. You'll be able to stand, but you won't want to for very long, and you won't need to pick up anything heavier than the baby for awhile, but really, you won't be totallly incapacitated for very long.

Let me know if you have any other specific questions. I'm happy to answer them, but I don't want to overwhelm you.

Take care,
L.

I have had 2 c- sections you dont really feel anything during the procedure except alot of pulling. The pain after is very hurtful. Take all of the help that u can get from anyone. Dont over do yourself once you get home. It will take you about 3 weeks before you kind of start feeling back to yourself. You will need help getting up out of bed you will be very sore. Good luck just think of the beautiful thing that comes at the end of all of this pain

Having sugery is always scarier than just doing something that is supposed to be natural, but a c-section is nothing to be worried about. I myself had a c-section, due to complications with my labor. The doctors and nurses were really supportive and I didn't even know that I needed a c-section until two hours before my son was born. Just make sure that you don't eat anything before you go in because they don't want all that waste in your stomach while their "delivering" the baby. Make sure that you eat ice chips because you will be hungry and thirsty at the same time. I wasn't that thrilled about not giving birth to my child and just having the doctor take him out, but I don't think I would have changed anything. I was asleep during the surgery and that was my choice because I could not watch them open me, but other moms I have talked to said that they would do the c-section again as opposed to natural birth. You will hurt afterwards and it's hard to laugh or cough, but after a week and a half I was back to normal, besides the bleeding for 6 weeks, which is normal after any delivery, natural or c-section. Good Luck!!

Hi L.,

My first child was breech--she was like that the last 6 months of the pregnancy. My doctor kept expecting her to turn but she didn't. He scheduled my delivery about 2 weeks before my due date b/c he could tell she was getting very big and if she had two more weeks to grow--no way would she turn around.
He did a procedure on me--I don't know if I'm pronouncing it right--it sounded like "aversion"--I don't remember exactly--that was 4 1/2 years ago.

Anyway--he used an ultra sound machine so he could see her--he grasped my belly from the outside and actually turned her around. For me it took only a few minutes--but the nurses talked like I was an unusual case. They kept expecting me to ask for drugs--I was hooked up to an IV just in case. For me, the only uncomfortable part was his fingernails--I remember wishing he had filed them a little smoother! However, I got the impression that for some women it could be more painful. I was able to have her naturally--she was 9 pound 5 ounces and the doctor had to use a "vacumn" to help get her out. I was unable to have an epidural b/c my platelet count was too low and I couldn't walk for about 2 weeks afterwards--I remember thinking maybe C-section would have been the way to go. :)

It's worth asking your doctor about--it may not be too late to turn your baby around "manually." I was given a choice of a C-section or this procedure. Of course, if the procedure had not worked, I would have had no choice but to have a C-section--which is another reason my doctor wanted to schedule it and not wait until I went into labor.

I have so many friends who had C-sections and they all recovered differently. I am sure you will get good advice from Mom's who had the C-section. The end result will be the same--you will have a beautiful baby. For me, the discomfort I experienced was just a mild nuisance--you deal with it b/c you have to, but in the meantime you are on cloud 900 taking care of your new baby.

One thing I did was to keep a diaper changing station and a clean change of clothes downstairs as well as upstairs in the nursery. It was hard for me to go up and down stairs in the beginning--so having the supplies I needed downstairs was helpful. We had one of those pop up play pens that had a little bassinet that fit over the top. It had places for me to store all my diaper changing stuff.

Do you have a group of friends who can bring you meals those first few weeks? When I had my first child my Mom came from Florida and stayed for 2 weeks. When I had my son, both my Mom and mother-in-law had passed away and now I had a 2 1/2 year old also. At that time I was a member of a Sunday school group and people I didn't even know signed up to bring me meals. (It was a large group) When the care coordinator first approached me--I felt weird accepting help--however I ended up having 9 meals delivered to my family over a 3 week period and that was a HUGE help!! If people ask you what they can do--don't be afraid to tell them!! If they are sincere in wanting to help you, they won't mind!

I will be thinking about you--let me know how you are doing if you get a chance.

S.

L.:
Everyone is different, but here is my story.
I was planning a natural delivery but couldn't dialate past 8 cm. so I had to have a C-section after 22 hours of labor. I was not prepared for the C-section and had only imagined a vaginal birth. Once I learned that I would have a C-section, my biggest worries were pain and being able to hold and see my baby right away.
My biggest suggestion to you would be to learn as much as you can about the process. Ask you doctor whether you will have an epidural or a spinal. Find out about how "out of it" you will be. Ask about the pressure that they put on your stomach to get the baby out. Ask about every step of the process...can the father be there, can he videotape, etc. Then ask about recovery...the staples and bandages, when they come out, how long are you not allowed to get up, what is healing like, etc.
I healed MUCH quicker than I ever expected. Having never had a vaginal birth, I have to admit that I was pretty happy to have stitches on my stomach than from an episiotomy. The incision is uncomfortable but the hospital should give you good medication for the pain. I was not hindered at all with breastfeeding or holding my baby. My husband and the nurses helped in diapering and caring for the baby so that I did not have to get out of bed. I went home after 5 days although I could have gone home sooner and was walking around and caring for myself and my beby very successfully. The doc told me to lift nothing heavier than the baby so having help around the house was very important. I was taking walks with my baby in a stroller a week later, and by my 6 week appt., my doc said that I was 100% back to normal.
The most shocking parts to me was the amount of pressure they put on my stomach to get the baby out (he has a big head) and the amount of swelling I had from the waist down after the surgery. I was HUGE and couldn't wear any of my own clothes for at least a week.
Again, research and learn so you won't be surprised and continue to ask questions while you are going through it. To me, it seemd much less traumatic to me and my baby.
Good Luck and best wishes,
S.

L.,
I had an emergency c-section with my daughter last year. You will need some help the first few weeks. I could walk and insisted on doing alot of the things for her myself and ended up ripping one of the stitches out and it got infected. So if you can let someone help you take care of her and rest as much as you can. After the first 6 weeks it all got alot easier.
A.

Hi L.,
I have just briefly read over most of the other responses and I have to say that I am terrified! I cannot believe how willingly women are accepting c-sections. Shame on your doctor of not giving you alturnatives! I think I read one response that said the doctor had tried to move the and performed an ultrasound prio to c-section and all was ok- no c-section needed. Talk to your doctor about trying to move the baby. There are also exercises that you can do at home to try and get the baby to move. One of them is to get on your hands and knees in the fetal postition with your butt in the air. Then move your hips up and down and swing them back and forth. I have seen this work in the past, the baby doesn't like to be in that postition and will move. I understand that sometimes there are no alturnitives to c-section but more and more c-section is becomeing way too common in this area.
What right do I have to give you this advice? I am a mother of two. Both of my babies where born COMPLETELY natural. I am sure that c-sections are not all that bad but I cannot imagine that they give you the impowerment that having a natural birth gives you. There is nothing greater that knowing that you brought a child into this world without the intervention of medication or doctors, this is the true power of a woman.

Hi L.,

Don't worry I went through the same thing. I have 2 kids and they were both c-sections. To me it was great! Yes it hurt a little but nothing that you can't handle. I didn't have any help after I was back from the hospital and I was fine. I guess it depends on your body, mine healed fast. Afer I had my first son, I though to myself, If I have another one I want to have a c-section. And that's what happened. Good Luck!

L.,
I just wanted to tell you that both of my children we C-sections, my daughter the oldest was an emergency c-section and I had no idea what to expect. My son was a planned C-section due to the risks and possible complications of natural birth after a c-section. My husband had jsut started a new job and wasn't going to be able to help me much at all either but his work according ot th efamily and medical leave act gave him the first 2 weeks to help me as it is hard. I can tell you anything you want to know and also help with any advice you may want or questions you may have. Feel free to email me and I will tell you as much as you want to know!! It's scary but it isn't as bad as you think....I know I was terrified, but in the end it was so easy and not an issue for me.
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Malinda

L.,
Don't be scared!! Just because you had your mind set on something else.
My daughter (5yrs old) was a C-section because she was breech. They attempted to 'turn' her because I really wanted her natural. Don't do that!!! It hurt really bad and I was so scared seeing 3 people pushing on my belly. I vowed that I would never ever do that again. Besides, not only was she breech but the reason for it was that the cord was wrapped around her neck twice (which was discovered during delivery).
My son was a natural birth (3 yrs old) and if I had to do it again I would have a scheduled C-section, because the recovery was a lot less pain.
Point is... don't worry! You will do great!! Just focus on having your baby.. the recovery will be second in your found motherhood. It is amazing the strength you gain when you have someone else who matters more than anything (even your own pain). Your husband will pitch in, especially after he sees you in this heroic role. Just a hint.. have him bring the baby to you in the middle of the night. Let him change diapers and take up the slack until you are recovered.
Good luck

L.,
I know what you are going thru. Both of my kids have been by c-section. The first one I was scared to death b/c I didn't know what to expect either. The surgery itself is pretty easy. After the surgery they are going to have you up and walking the next day and yes it is going to hurt, but try to work thru the pain. The more you walk the faster you will recover. You will need to advoid stairs for the first week out of the hospital. Just take your time and enjoy your baby.

K.

I have had two c-sections, the first after 22 hours of labor and the second was scheduled. My advise is the more you move the better the recovery. With my first child I did not want to get up because it hurt and it hurt bad, however the nurse was right walking and getting all those muscles working again really helped. It took me about 30 hours to walk after my first c-section with my second I was up in about 12. I don't recommend walking the hospital but maybe get up and walk to a chair and sit up for a while. Also take a shower as soon as you are able to, you will feel so much better. Good luck and don't worry about the pain the love you have for your baby with make it worth it.

I had two, the first one was unplanned. It's not as bad as you think. You can be and about within 48 hours. As a matter of fact, the hospital makes you walk around the second day after the surgery before they send you home. Nothing to worry about.

Hi, L.-
My daughter was born via planned c-section three years ago. I was miserable during the last few weeks of my pregnancy and just wanted her OUT-- so I was lucky enough to have a doctor who scheduled an elective c-section. I was actually terrified of natural labor and delivery- so it worked out well.
We arrived at the hospital on Friday morning at about 5:30 am. The nurses prepped me for surgery and explained everything that would happen. They shave the area where the incision would be-- BRING YOUR OWN RAZOR!! They have those cheapo pink razors that cause ingrown hairs-- that was the worst part of my c-section experience. If possible, treat yourself to a bikini wax the day before!
At 7:15, they wheeled me into the operating room and my epidural was administered. The doctor helped me to lay back down and then explained what the surgery was going to feel like. I was nervous that the epidural would not work, so I kept asking how they KNEW-- and my doctor informed me that he had made the incision about 30 seconds prior, so he was pretty sure I would feel anything. After a minute or two, they said I would feel pressure-- as if an elephant was sitting on my chest. It was not that bad. I felt SOME pressure and lost my breath for a second, but it quickly passed. At 7:41, my daughter was born. I was able to hug and kiss her while I was being stitched up. I spent the next 45 minutes in recovery , where I was given warm blankets and drifted in and out of sleep. After that, I was wheeled to see the baby and headed to my room.
A short while later, the epidural began to wear off and I was given a mild painkiller-- the catheter was removed and I was able to walk around the room in less than 2 hours. I made it down the hall later that evening.
All in all, my c-section was a wonderful experience. My abs were sore for a few days-- but the pain was not even half as bad as when my milk came in a few days later.
talk to your doctor about what to expect. Ask if you can bring in a cd of your favorite songs to listen to during surgery-- they played Enya during mone-- so it was incredibly relaxing. Good luck with everything!!!

I've had 3 c-sections, so I know recovery can be alot slower than a natural birth. Take all the help you can get and sleep when the baby sleeps. If you decide to have more children, ask to have the epidural before they insert the catheter. Makes a world of difference! I had that done on my third c-section and wished I had done it all 3 times. Congrats on the new baby!

It is scary but it's not as bad as it seems. There will be discomfort after but mine wasn't that bad. I didn't even use most of my painkillers. It hurt when I laughed though. But really the pain doesn't last long and you really have other things on your mind with the baby anyway. You will be able to move around but you'll need to take it easy for at least the first week or so. Congratulations!

Maybe you want to think about accupunture and talk with them about turning your baby. Do a google search under accupunture and breech, you will find many articles. This is not a common practice in the US but it is in other cultures. When faced with a procedure such as this, think outside the box. Good luck.

I have a 10-month-old son and I ended up having to have a c-section because I wouldn't dialate. I had my heart set on a natural birth with the breast feeding right in the room and all that good stuff, but it obviously didn't happen. At first I was nervous because I am 20 and I didn't want to walk around looking like I had a 40 year olds body after having just one kid. In the end....I wouldn't have had it any other way, I hardly had any pain what-so-ever. The most I had was itching from the adhesive on the plastic they use to keep you clean, and they can give you something for that. And since you have it scheduled and not and emergency, you can still have your husband in the room while you are having it done. I liked it because it gave him a chance to bond with our son and me a chance to rest after being in labor for 20 hours. And as far as going home...they will keep you in the hospital a day onger because of the major surgery, and once you go home, might I suggest a bed you can roll off of instead of having to set up to go get the baby...makes it alot easier. I healed faster from my c-section than my friends did from their natural births because I didn't have to worry about tearing or anything loke that. Just make sure you take it easy and nap whenever the baby naps...don't feel guilty for sleeping so much...you just went through major surgery and started a new job that will last you for the rest of your life.....everything will be just perfect.....God Bless

I can just hear the fear and concern in your posting. I had major surgery during my last pregnancy at 6 months and then after as well, I'm talking directly after. Now I know that is not the same as a C-section but i had the same type of incision and stitching and I know you will get alot of responses from moms who've had them. But with advanced medical techniques they have now-you should be able to function moderately with some help with in a couple of weeks, although it will take longer to get back to your normal self-just don't over do it and your body will let you know how far you can push it but don't be scared you'll be ok. I hope you get some helpfull advice from other moms....mine was more to help quiet your fears a little.

Good luck and congratulations!!

Hi L., did your doctor recommend and attempt an external version? ACOG recommends this procedure to turn the baby, but there are criteria to be met. There must be adequate amount of fluid around the baby, the feet cannot be presenting first, and the placents should be to the top or back of the uterus.

How close are you to your due date? Interesting that this situation has just been discovered, but that happends sometimes. Plus, the baby may have just flipped into breech position.

Having a c/s is very common in these days. I find it unusual you cannot find someone who recently gave birth this way and could give you info. While normal vaginal birth is always safer and probably more satisfying to moms who plan it, the safety of your baby is a hugh concern too.

good luck, and try for the version ASAP. If your doctor doesn't do versions, I can recommend one who does. Kathy ###-###-####

Hi there!

I know you'll get lots of different opinions about c-sections, because, just like vaginal births, there are good and bad experiences, but I hope I can help you feel a little better. I have had two c-sections---one after 22 hours of labor and not much cervical dilation, and one planned. This last section was in June. Both of my experiences were wonderful! Of course, I was nervous the first time (and exhausted!), but it was SO much better than I had imagined. There is pain involved, but both times I was able to be up and walking within a few hours. I took pain medication for about a week with each section, and then I never needed anything more than Tylenol. My babies were healthy and happy (and their heads were nice and round--not cone shaped!). Try your best to enjoy the experience, despite being nervous, and don't hesitate to ask questions. You really won't feel anything but tugging or pressure during the surgery.
Keep the ultimate goal in mind, and enlist as much help as you can after you get home.

I was able to start exercising again two weeks after each c-section, and by then I felt almost oompletely normal. Noone WANTS to have a c-section, but it's really not bad !

Take care!

My sister-in-law had a c-section with her twins. She carried a pillow with her hugged to her incision for about a week after and that made her feel more comfortable. If it makes you feel any better about not having a "natural" birth. My son was born vaginally, but his head was not tucked like most babies. He was litterally born face first. His head was tilted back so that he was looking at the doctor as he was born. The result was a 3rd degree episiotomy that was very painful and took a very long time to heal. Defintily not the romantic birth I had envisioned. Remember, It doesn't matter how the baby comes into the world just that he or she comes safe and healthy.

If I were you I would call a chiropractor and a midwife today. The midwife has ways to help the baby turn that they could inform you of and the chiropractor can adjust you and hopefully that will make the baby turn. You don't have to settle for a CSection. There's lots of natural ways to help your baby turn and you just need to do some research online and in person. I'll be praying for you. I know the threat of csection is scary but it's not something you have to agree too.

I had a c-section with my twins who were both breech. After having a vaginal delivery with my first son which resulted in a 4th degree tear, the c-section was a breeze. You don't have to go through labor, you don't have to worry about the baby being under too much stress. I was in less pain from the c-section afterwards. I had them on a friday and came home on Monday. I had no problem caring for the babies, my older son, or climbing the stairs in my house. Maybe I was just lucky, but I preferred the c-section to the vaginal delivery.

Don't worry everything will be fine!! Put your trust in God... He will intervene... and guide the doctor's hand... You will be fine.. Keep your eyes on the cross.. and know that God will bring you through this.. and you your baby will be fine...

L.,
I know what you're feeling. I had my son by c-section after 13 hours of labor. I tried to do it as natural as I could. At 12.5 hours I asked for the epidural without knowing that in half an hour they would do surgery. He was just too big.
I had felt like a failure. I had planned on natural childbirth, but after taking a few minutes to think about what was best, I realized that having a healthy baby overrules all my other options.
I saw my son for about 30 seconds after he was born and they wisked him away. I hadn't seen my boy and I want you to know, 3 hours after surgery, I got up out of that bed, walked very slowly down the hall to the nursery and went to see him. *still didn't get to for another 3 hours*.
You can do what you set your mind to. Take your pain medication, don't lift anything more than the baby, and let others help you around the house, otherwise, let it go for a little bit. Besides, my son started out as breech and flipped when I got on the x-ray table. You never know, he may turn for you and things can still be like you dreamed they'd be.
Good luck. Once you get through this, you'll be totally focused on your baby and everything else won't matter in the least.

Hi L.....I have 3 sons. My 1st and 3rd were both c-sections because they were breached. The other was a vbac. There are pluses and minuses to both ways of delivering. Whatever concerns you have, talk to your doctor so that she or he can ease your mind. Have they attempted to help the baby turn? My sister in law is due the week after you, her baby was breached just until the other day. They had tried to turn the baby, but to no avail. Then the baby turned on his/her own. Try to not to get to worked up about a c-section, it is not as awful as you fear it is. Please remember that is most important to have a healthy baby. Good luck to you and let us know what heppened!

Don't worry yourself to much about them. I've had two. One of my twins were breech and they also came two months early. For my first c-section my doctor did not tell me the importance of turning and moving around. I was in pain so kinda just laid in one spot. After the meds wore off I was in a lot of pain. I didn't want to get up and hardly could. The pain I expericened I thought was normal. But after my second child the nurse said every 30 minutes I must change sides and try to walk. Of course this is after the meds wear off. After the first day I was able to take a shower and walk around. I surprised myself by all the movement I could do. Also, they will give you pain medicine to take at home. If it says every four hours, make sure you take it every four hours. Don't wait for the pain to start because them it will seem like forever for it to go away. Just remember you have a false feeling. Just because you feel fine doesn't mean you can bring in the groceries. If at all possible relax in bed and have Dad bring you the baby when he/she is ready to eat. One last thing breast feeding helps you get back to your normal self quicker. So, good luck and I hope you get this in time. Take care.

I understand your concern, I didn't intend to have my daughter via C-section, but due to a concern in her health, we chose the c section. The bad: coughing will hurt for a few days. rolling over will hurt for a few days. Getting out of bed takes a little more coordination. The good: no unprepared tears, stretching, and knowing your child will not have to be in labor for numerous hours. Hints: 1) enjoy the morphine pump. 2) if you're feeling any pain at all let the nurse know asap (My 1st morphine pump wasn't working properly and I didn't what to whine about it so I sucked it up until the pain really hit in. The nurses were great, I got 4 pain shots in 30 sec but it could have been avoided if I wasn't afraid to ask) 3) I found using a cold pack on my sutures really helped the feel of the cut. 4) drink lots of water before the procedure, when you're on IV they always worry about the amount of fluids in your body.

First of all, my baby was breech, and he ended up turning. There's still hope! Even though my baby turned I still had to have a c-section. It was my 1st surgery...never even had a cavity. They really are not that bad!! I promise! Take as much pain medication as they will give you. I stayed on meds for about 2 weeks. Don't lift anything heavy for a while, and stay away from housecleaning and other strenuous activities. You'll be fine!!

I am 10 years older than you, but I have had 2 C-sections.
My boys are 3 years old and 11 months old.

It can be a bit scarey to go through....make sure your husband is there for emotional support!

Also, MAKE SURE you get help at home at least for the 1st week. You are going to be sore and not allowed to lift anything!!! My Mom came and stayed with us each time and helped out with all of the cleaning, cooking and lots of the baby care.

The more rest you get, the faster your body will heal and the faster you will be able to get back on your feet.

Good luck and try to keep awake during the c-section, it is so nice to hear the 1st cry and give him/her 1st kiss!!!

Lilly
Trust me. There is nothing to worry about. In July 2005 I had to have an emergency c-section due to some major problems 5 weeks early. Lets just say if I hadn't had one the baby and I would have died.
Putting aside all of my worries/pain due to the pregency problems the c-section was NOT a problem at all. As a matter of fact I will opt to have another c-section with my next cild.
Because your's is planned it will be a breeze. Just remember to take advantage of the nurse while you are in the hospital. They are there to help you.

Good Luck
J.
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I had two c-sections and I LOVE LOVE it...i was scared the first time but the 2nd time was too easy, i was up the next day walking around no problem.
You cant even tell i had a c-section the scar is GONE!!!!!
I had to best doctor in Houston....the one thing that i wasnt mainly worried about was the scar and it was so low and a perfect cut....You will be fine!!!!

I had a C-Section and it's not as bad as it sounds. As a matter of fact when I have another baby I want a C-Section. I have a friend who had both and she is pregnant again and is scheduling a C-Section because it was so much easier and less painful.

Sounds like you've gotten alot of great advice and what to expect. I've had 2 c-sections, first and emergency and second was decided after laboring for 10 hours with no progress. All I can say is make sure you get a spinal. It is supposed to have morphine in it for after surgery relief and it was incredible! You will still need some help in and out of bed the first day or two but recovery should be pretty quick once you get to walking. It is important to not push yourself too hard and don't do more than you should so you don't have excess scarring inside or out. God bless and congratulations!

I had a c-section for my 3rd child. 9 weeks of preterm labor and 36 hours of labor I had no choice. Mine was not a good experience. How every the recovery was awesome!!! Just hold a pillow tight on your stomache the first few days afterwards as you are moving about. And Get up and moving as soon as they let you. My soon was in the NICU and I would have hubby push the empty wheel chair with us, in case I needed it for the way back. But keep moving that will help. And never try and get into bed by climbing onto the bed on all-fours. Was not a pleasant experience trying to figure out how to sit from that postion. My mom still laughs about that one 3 yrs later.

I had an emergency c-section when I had my baby. I was single and living alone at the time and had to have my mom come stay with me for a few days. I was set on having a natural birth also, and had some mixed feelings about the c-section afterword, so don't be surprised if you have some issues after surgery. Just remember to take it easy for the first couple weeks. My baby was in the hospital for 3 weeks so I luckily I had that time to recover. Just remember to take it easy as much as possible for a couple weeks and you should be fine.

I had one and it wasn't awful like they say it is. i do think i have a high pain tollerance, but I was walking that night and cleaning the house within a week. Don't be scared, pain is temporary and housework can wait. just enjoy the new baby.

Hello. I had a c-section with my daughter Abbigail done on 10-09-06. A week later now and I am doing better. The hardest things about my recovery have been my son who is 16 months and 23lbs. I try to limit picking him up but I am still his mommy. When he makes me laugh it hurts the worst. Tomorrow will be my first full day at home alone with my kids. I will let you know how it goes.
During the surgery my best advice would be to relax as much as possible. Deep long breaths. I don't want to scare you but I am not going to lie. I was scared and it was the strangest experience of my life thus far. If you would like to talk to me on a more personal level message me and we will get in touch. I will share all of my experience with you.
When you get home you will be really tired for quit a while. Between my new sleep pattern for feedings, my body healing, and the pain medication it is a lot.
I hope the best for you and extend my offer again. If you have any questions or concerns please don't hesitate to ask.

L., you will need some help for at least a couple of weeks. if you don't have family that could come, check at the hospital with the social worker and she should have a sitters list so you can have someone come to take care of you and the baby. God bless and congratulations!

Honestly its really not that bad. Ive had 2 sections and will be having my final one in Feb of 2007 and usually they have you up and walking within a couple hrs of surgery which really helps. With my first one I didnt get up for almost 2 days after because of all the complications and it was an emergency one but the second was FANTASTIC and i was up within a couple hrs home the second day after it and i was up and going full force within a week! You will be a little sore i wont lie BUT for the most part its not any worse than hurting down below. This last time my husband and i resumed our sex life within a week and a half after the baby was born so seriously its not that bad just make sure you get a spinal block i had an epidural the first time and it didnt work the second i had a spinal and it was GREAT!!! Hopefully the baby will turn and you wont even have to go thru it but if you do dont stress it will be a breeze!

My second child was born by c-section (and to be honest I prefer it that way). You get a little more recovery time in the hospital and at least you can sit on your behind (I had a natural birth the first time and the pain was worse). Every person is different, I know, but if you keep a positive, open mind about it, you will do just fine. The operating room can be a bit intimidating but what hospital isn't. Good Luck on the birth of your baby.

well, it seems like you got a lot of good advice, but i just wanted to reiterate what others have told you about not worrying. of course, i realize that this is easier said than done when it's your first time.

i have had two c-sections with my boys, i was 28 with the first and almost 31 with this last one. the first one was an emergency and the last was scheduled. both were WONDERFUL! i have absolutely no regrets whatsoever. i have two very healthy boys and i recovered beautifully from both. your doctor will give you pain killers to get you thru the first couple of weeks and then after that i took motrin whenever i felt uncomfortable from the pain. and i took care of both of my children on my own. i didn't carry heavy stuff for a while but i NEVER had a problem caring for my babies at all. the meds will also not interfere with nursing either. actually, the more i was up and about the better i felt. i would highly suggest that you not lay around too much because you will heal slower. the nurses will make you stand up by the second day and don't think that you can't. the first time you try to stand erect will be painful but just do it very slowly. after that the more you get up and walk the faster you will heal i gurantee it! i was walking the halls or my room the whole time at the hospital by the first day holding my baby. i had my babies in my room within an hour after they were born.

one thing that i would like to suggest, though, is you ask your doctor if they can drop the drape for you to see your baby getting pulled out when he/she is being born. that is the one bad thing when you have a c-section, you don't get to see them being born. i asked my doc with my second c-section and it was awesome to see my son being born. just a suggestion since i don't think most people think it can be done.

the best thing to do is talk to your doctor about any fears. they are the MOST important person and you really need to trust him/her and put your full faith in them. i have that kind of a doctor so even when i had to have an emergency c-section the first time, i wasn't scared. i was just relieved that i was going to finally see my baby.

good luck.

I know it sounds scary but honestly I would do it again. I have 2 boys. The first was 11 lbs and 4oz and I had him naturally. The second was 10 lbs 5 oz I had the second by way of c-section. I noticed that I healed alot faster and I can barley recognize the scar. My husband went back to work the next day and i was doing just fine. I always imagined the perfect pregnancy and the perfect birth by doing it naturally. My kids were huge when they were born and I would prefer a c-section over natural anyday...no worries!

Best Wishes,
R.

babies come out the way they want and the way God intends. As long as they are safe and healthy, that's ALL that matters. I had two emergency C-sections. The first was scary, after I had been laboring, blah, blah blah... Don't let anyone tell you it doesn't hurt. It was incredibly uncomfortable, and the recovery was horrible. But that's why they give you pain killers, and it gets better. Going from laying down to standing, getting out of the bed, anything using your abs,...YUK! But it gets better. And the 2nd c-section recovery was much easier. Don't be afraid to tell the drs and nurses if you are hurting -- this day and age we should not have to suffer when there are drugs available to aleve the pain. And its ok to use them and nurse. Everything will be fine. Face it -- child birth is not fun, and no one gets a medal for doing it the "right way." But you do win the love and affection of that precious new life, and the pain is worth it (almost!!! ha!ha!). Good luck. (And bonus -- no episiotomy!!!)

Hi L.. I have gone through 2 c-sections myself. My first one was when I was 19 with a girl and my second 5 months ago with a boy. To be honest, my first one was a little more painful than my second. I don't know if it had to do with the age (19 with first, 27 with second) or with the hospital procedures or what. The thing is that with my first, I don't remember being treated so great than with my second one (2 different hospitals). But I think if I had asked for medication relief and so forth, it probably wouldn't have been as painful. Anyway, I was surprised and very happy with the way my second went. I really didn't feel that much pain. I got a spinal shot with both. It does hurt, but the nurses were very kind and helpful. It doesn't take very long before you feel completely numb from the neck down. I was awake throughout the whole delivery. The only thing I felt was the pressure from when they were taking them out. My son was bigger than my daughter, so there was a little more pressure. I think my second seemed to be more easy because I was always asking why, what, what if, how...and the nurses were very supportive. They checked in on me all day and night while I was recovering, helped with the baby, and so forth. The minute I felt any pain, I would just ask for medication and they gave it to me. I was in there for 3 days. By the second day, I was up and walking. I did take baby steps, but it helps to try to walk as soon as possible so you can feel better faster. That's the uh-oh I had with my first. I din't try, I was too scared I guess, so I really made it more difficult for myself. So I learned and did way better with my second. After I got home, my husband was at work, so I was able to take care of my son with very little problems. Because of the soreness from it, I did still walk slower than usual for the first week, but I did get prescription medication and took it any time I felt any pain. The other thing I'm not sure anyone else has mentioned is that with a c-section, you have to have a bowel movement before you are able to go home from the hospital. It did take me a while for that to happen with both kids, so don't get discouraged okay. I asked, why can't I have a bowel movement?! It was frustrating, but it's just that the medication is still in your system and takes a while to wear off. Oh, and while it helps to walk around, it also helps to rest. Not sure with your situation, but with me, I didn't have family close by to help, so it was only me, my son and daughter, and husband. While in the hospital, I always wanted my son in the room with me. The nurses would ask if I wanted them to take him to the nursery so I could rest. I only said yes a couple of times, but they were a really big help. I didn't realize how tired I was. I was able to sleep for a good 3 or 4 hours straight. So that really helps. Although you want to be with your newborn 24/7, take advantage of the nurses helping out because it makes a difference. Don't ignore your own body, because you do need the rest. It helped once I got home. I didn't feel as tired....Sorry if this was so long. Since my youngest is only 5 months old, the delivery is still fresh in my mind. Just like the others said, don't be afraid to ask the doctors and nurses any questions, whether you think they are dumb or not. That's what they are there for. If my experience with my first had come as easy as my second, it probably would have gone just as easy. Meaning, I asked questions, I asked for pain medication, I asked for help, etc. So do that okay. Try to make your first experience a happy memorable one, not a painful one. I hope I helped at least a little. Good luck with everything and congratulation to you and your husband. If you ever need to talk, I'm here. I stay at home with my son, only work 3 days out of the week, so I'm here okay. Congrats again and good luck. I'll pray that everything works great for both of you!!

I also had a c-section because my baby was breech...Don't worry, everything will be fine! I was up and running, doing laundry, going to the grocery store five days after surgery. I didn't breastfeed and I still reovered very quickly.
The surgery itself isn't scary at all and it is fast.
After surgery you will have pain, so ask the nurse for meds whenever you need them. Try to move around as soon as possible, as has been suggested by others. Moving around will shorten your recovery time. Also, when you do stuff and it hurts, apply pressure to the incision (with your hand(s)), which really helps a lot. And don't feel bad about taking a nap or taking it easy for a while. Everyone is different and you should make sure you get the rest you need so you can be there for your baby.
My husband returned to work after two weeks and I have no family and only a few friends in town...I was able to manage everything even though I had a c-section.
However, if you intend to breastfeed, it will be difficult because babies delivered by surgery tend to have difficulties with latching on....so if you want to breastfeed, relax, and give it some time. GOOD LUCK!

BTW: You could ask the doctor to try a version...that is when he tries to turn the baby from the outside...there is a 50/50 chance that baby will turn...I had it done, but it didn't work. But, you could give it a try! It is a bit uncomofortable, but it isn't too bad.

Hi L.,
I am also in Marrero! I have had two c-sections. First of all, take a deep breath, it is going to be OK! What to expect:The day of...when you arrive at the hospital they will moniter you and the baby until the OR is ready. Don't worry somethimes this can take awhile, if other moms need an emergancy c-section, you get bumped. When they take you in, they have you sit on the OR table and they will probably give you a spinal. A spinal is the same stuff as an epidural, just one dose instead of a constant stream. This is the worst part. Once the spinal takes effect, your toes go numb, and from here it goes pretty quick. They prep you area and then the doctor is ready! In about 20 minutes you will get to meet your baby! They clean him off first and then they show him to you. Give him a kiss....then they have to take him away for a little while, while you go to recovery. I am not sure where you are delivering, but East Jefferson's policy is they moniter the baby for 2 hours, to make sure he can regulate his temp and breath OK. By that time you are still in recovery or on your way to a room. You will probably be in the hospital for at least 3 nights...again depending on your doctor and hospitals policies. Utilize the nursery!!! They are there for a reason, you need your rest!!! The first night you will still be in bed, so unless you significant other is staying with you, you are going to have to send the baby to the nursery anyway. The second day they are going to want you to get up and at least use the bathroom. By the third day they want you walking. As long as you take the pain medications, you should be fine. You may want to have some extra help the first day or two home. Don't worry you will be up and feeling better in no time at all!!!
Good luck!
S.

Dear L.,

I noticed that Julie gave you the encouragement that I was going to give : ) So, I'll just add a bit to it... If you choose to try acupuncture, there's a great clinic here in Houston at the acupuncture college, so visits are only $30, and every 4th one is free, I believe. The care is excellent because it is 4th year students working under professors. Highly recommended! It's pretty near Beltway 8 & Westheimer - ###-###-####. This would be a very relaxing treatment - nothing to be scared of!

I hope you have a wonderful birth experience, either way!

Blessings,
R.

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Hey L.,

Don't worry about it...you will be fine. I have had three C-sections and it seems scary. You are normally prepared in an individual room. When the anesteologist is ready, you will be brought into the OR. He/she will then have you lean over where they will give you several local shots (just one quick pain) in your spine area. After you are completely numb, they will begin to place the spinal block (you don't feel a thing, sometimes a little tingle but no pain is felt). After you are numb they will lay you flat where they will begin to place a curtain up and put the dye on your tummy. The nurses will place a catheter in your urethia ( you will be numb so no pain). Then your doctor will test you to make sure you are completely numb. The procedure will start and the doctor should keep you informed of everything from there on out, your vitals will be monitored through the whole procedure. Right about the time they are getting ready to preform the first incision is when your spouse will be brought in. After your C Section you will be taken to a recovery room for a couple of hours. Your vitals and incision will be monitored. Once you are stable you will be moved to a room and normally your baby will be brought in for the third time. Your baby will have to go get several tests too so he/she may not be with you all the time at that point but I would recommend having daddy stay with the baby. Once you are moved to a room you will be giving medication as you need. IMPORTANT, even if you feel fine pain wise, I would suggest that you keep taking the pain meds every 4 hours. Sometimes you don't have a lot of pain, but then all of sudden it get's intense and if you have the meds in your system you will be fine, if not then you have to wait for the meds to kick in. Normally at the beginning of your second day they want you to get moving around (prevent blood clots). They may take you off your IV around day 2-3, most doc give you antiobotics to prevent any staph infection. The morning of your second day will be uncomfortable and may hurt but take your time moving around and once you get moving the pain will decrease. You should start feeling a lot better in 1 1/2 weeks to 2 weeks. If you have people to help you, use them, don't over due it. GOOODDD LUCK and congratulations on the new baby!!!! God bless.