G.P. asks from Fords, NJ on July 20, 2009
Brushing 1 Yr Old's Teeth
Hello moms. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make teeth brushing less stressful for both mom and baby? I "try" to brush my son's teeth every morning and at night before bedtime but some days I'm not very successful. My son kicks ands swats my hand away and cries every time. I have tried letting him watch my husband and me brush our teeth. I have tried giving him the brush to hold and brush his own teeth. He seems ok with this for a few seconds but he only bites the brush a few times before throwing it on the floor. Whenever I go to brush after him he shuts his mouth closed. My husband actually has to hold him down and pry his mouth open while I try to brush his teeth. We try to be very gentle but I'm afraid I'm hurting his gums and lips and probably not even doing a good job of cleaning his teeth. How long should I be brushing anyway? I don't want to traumatize my son and have him grow up hating to brush his teeth. I know good detnal hygiene is important but some days I just feel so bad because he cries so much. Honestly some days I just give up after the first few attempts (especially when he's very tired or feeling under the weather). I haven't taken him to the dentist yet but I'm wondering if I should. Probably just being a paranoid mom but I want to make sure he avoids the pain of cavities and gum disease in the future. Any suggestions/advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
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Thanks you for your advice ladies. I think I agree with everything that suggested I keep persisting with our teeth brushing routine. My gut tells me that just letting it go until he's older isn't the right thing to do. I know from my own experience as a kid, my parents were much more relax in this department and I really suffered for it as I got older. Last night I let my son hold his brush while I held him in one arm and brushed my own teeth with the other hand. He definitely chewed on his brush a lot longer than before and even wanted to play with my brush. He still wasn't willing to let me brush after him but at least we made some improvement. I also like the idea of singing a song while I brush his teeth. And just like the other mom's, he's always completely happy a few minutes after the whole ordeal, so I suppose he's not traumatized. Thanks again!
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N.V. answers from New York on July 27, 2009
when I started with my son, he let me do it once and then it became a struggle where he wouldn't open his mouth, swat the brush away, etc. I did not introduce the toothbrush to him for a few weeks and then when I did, I had him hold the brush and "brush" my teeth. That allowed me to then take his hand and guide the toothbrush to his mouth. For two weeks I just let him do whatever - chew it, suck on it -- then started guiding his hand to actually brush. It has taken many little steps but he now at least doesn't mind the thing in his mouth.
M.B. answers from New York on July 23, 2009
Have you tried the electric toothbrushes. My kids love them, they can easily hold them themeselves because it has a thick base and they find it tickles. And you don't have to worry about them brushing around - they do a pretty good job of simulating the desired brushing rotation. Hope that helps!
A.Z. answers from New York on July 23, 2009
Hi A. here. ihad the same problem. then one evening my husband decided to let her play with her feet in the sink while he was brushing her teeth. It did the trick!1 sometimes she still notices so we give her a cup or something else to play with in the running water and it works.Hope this helps.
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A.I. answers from Buffalo on July 21, 2009
I had the exact same issues with my son and they were solved by simply buying an electric toothbrush! I bought the cheap Diego toothbrush from Walmart (about $5) and even though he didn't know who Diego was, he loved the fact that his toothbrush turned on. I don't know why, but for some reason he never gave us any problem brushing his teeth with this toothbrush! I can't guarantee it will work, but I have heard other moms that had the same success with the electric toothbrushes, so it's worth a shot!
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A.H. answers from New York on July 21, 2009
I had the same problem with my daughter. She HATED it! But you absolutely have to keep trying. The health of baby teeth plays a key role in how the adult teeth come in. What eventually worked with my daughter was to sing a song while brushing her teeth - for some reason, she loves when I sing Jingle Bells while brushing her teeth!!, letting her choose her own toothbrush, and using "tasty" toothpaste (we use the kind made by Orajel - no fluoride, so safe for toddlers. There is one that has Thomas the Train on it, and one that has Little Bear on it). My husband brushes her teeth in the bath, and she enjoys that as well. Try to incorporate something your son loves into it (my daughter loves music, so that's why we tried that). Maybe if he loves trains you can pretend his teeth are tracks or something. Good luck. Keep trying, and don't be disappointed if it takes a while. Make sure he is not tired or wants to play (or is otherwise distracted) when you do it. Maybe try right after he eats.
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C.O. answers from New York on July 21, 2009
I will refrain from labeling myself as a "success" in teeth brushing. However a couple things helped me out when my son was about 1.
Try to do it at the same time of day or during the same part of your morning and bedtime routine.
Buy the 2 pack of toothbrushes, give him one and you keep one. I was really clear about saying "this is Johnny's toothbrush and this is Mommy's toothbrush" So he felt like he was getting his share.
I would ask him after I was done brushing his teeth, "Show Mommy how you brush your teeth"
Let him watch you brush your own teeth and explain what you do and why. Even if you think he doesn't understand, he probably does.
Make up a silly song (I sang 'brush brush brush your teeth, morning noon and night, better let your mom go first, cause she does it right!' to the tune of 'row row row your boat')
Recently we bought "thomas and Friends" training toothpaste and he loves to hold it while I brush his teeth. I mean there is just a picture of Thomas on there, it is not like it's a toy. But he insists on holding it.
And if you get it right 80% pf the time. Don't sweat the other 20%. Things have gotten alot easier for us since he was like 21 or 22 months old. Before that it was a fight every night.
Good Luck!
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N.V. answers from New York on July 27, 2009
when I started with my son, he let me do it once and then it became a struggle where he wouldn't open his mouth, swat the brush away, etc. I did not introduce the toothbrush to him for a few weeks and then when I did, I had him hold the brush and "brush" my teeth. That allowed me to then take his hand and guide the toothbrush to his mouth. For two weeks I just let him do whatever - chew it, suck on it -- then started guiding his hand to actually brush. It has taken many little steps but he now at least doesn't mind the thing in his mouth.
L.N. answers from New York on July 23, 2009
As a dental hygienist and a mother of a strong willed 26 month old where TB is a chore daily... He does it first while I brush my teeth.. then i do his.. he fights me and holds his mouth closed, but it is important to get the teeth cleaned especially before bed. I know we don't do fruit snacks in our house or juice, he does now have it at camp and the thought of it sitting on his teeth while he sleeps scares me , after seeing what I see at work.. so i do "fight" him to get the brushed and now at 26 months he is getting it better then before. its a struggle but one well worth it...
L.D. answers from New York on July 20, 2009
I give my son his own toothbrush to hold and I use the finger-type tooth brush while he chews on his toothbrush. It works most of the time.
L.R. answers from New York on July 21, 2009
Hi G.,
I see you have gotten a lot of advice, I can give you my professional advice being a Dental Hygienist and have experience in pediatric dentistry. First it is important that you brush your babies teeth even though alot of people have told you not to make a big deal, you know you are not hurting him better to hear him cry at home for brushing then in the dental chair getting cavities filled. Alot of parents are under the impression that baby teeth do not have to be filled cavities hurt the same and it will effect the permanent teeth. Advice as a mom to two kids 16 and 7 let your son brush first am and pm at pm is when you or your husband need to help it is a matter of routine your son will give up a fight but you have to take control, like anything else with raising kids you will see they will try to push your buttons. You are the parent and more or less you know better.
Hope I was helpful
L.
A.L. answers from Binghamton on July 21, 2009
I agree with Lisa S. I began talking to my dentist when my son was one - he refused to let me brush his teeth. The dentist said it was a must - something he did with his young children was to literally hold them down and brush. He said it would get easier as they learned it wasn't such a big deal. I followed his advice and would "sit" on my son with his arms tucked between my legs each morning & night. At first he screamed - I would sing silly songs about teeth and toothbrushes. After awhile he would relax and just lay on the floor ready to have his teeth brushed. Now he sits on the toilet and opens up for me! I'm doing the same thing now with my daughter. She's at the screaming phase. But like Lisa S. said the minute I'm done brushing the screaming stops and she runs off laughing. I personally think it's just a control thing in 1 & 2 year olds. I just keep telling myself I'm doing something good for my baby's future teeth! When I read the comments about setting your child up for a lifetime of hating brushing and the dentist I chuckled... that's what I thought initally as well. my son (now 3) just went to the dentist for the first time (great checkup!!) without a fuss - cleaning, x-rays, dental exam - because we brush & floss everyday. We also read books about teeth brushing and going to the dentist. I have even found my son in the bathroom brushing at random times during the day.. so obviously I haven't set him up for a lifetime of hating brushing and the dentist! Good luck :)
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