E.P. asks from Norman, OK on November 20, 2006
Breastfed Baby Refuses to Nurse on Weekends
My daughter is almost 4 months old and goes to daycare during the week and gets 3-4 bottles a day. For the past 2 weekends she refuses to breastfeed on Saturday and Sunday during the day. She eats well when she wakes in the morning and then refuses to breastfeed the rest of the day. Any suggestions on what to do with her I have refrained from giving her a bottle because I want her to nurse while I am with her.
So What Happened?™
Well, it has been about 3 weeks now since my daughter has refused to nurse, however, we are starting very slowly to get back on track. Come to find out she does almost the same thing now at daycare. She only wants to eat ever 4 hours or so and when she does eat from her bottle she plays with it. She is gaining weight and is very healthy so the Dr. said there was nothing to worry about right now. I just want to thank you all for all your help, advice and kind words. I think both my daughter and I are going to pull through this nursing strike and turn out just fine. Thank you again.
P.B. answers from Tulsa on November 21, 2006
Hi Erica, I'm a lot older than you are...LOL. But many moons ago, my oldest daughter did the same thing to me. Basically, she's getting her tummy filled quicker drinking a bottle. It's slower to breast feed. She's voted, and it's the bottle she wants. I would pump for awhile and give her your breast milk. Don't look at this as a failure. It's not. Your baby wants her tummy filled fast. I'm a mom of six. Most of my kids wanted to drink a bottle once it was introduced to them. Good luck....it's hard when it's your first child, but you'll be fine and so will your baby!! Promise!
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A.C. answers from Oklahoma City on November 18, 2008
I am going through the exact same thing with my 2 month old baby. That's actually why I logged on to this website today - to find help with this question. I DO NOT want to stop breastfeeding my baby. My doctor and lactation consultant tell me that my baby's not wanting to breastfeed at this young age is likely not that she prefers the bottle, but that she may have an ear infection that is not bothered when she is propped up at the bottle, or that the breast may stimulate some GI issues. They told me not to plan to quit breastfeeding her because it is rare that a baby as young as ours will reject the breast - rather, they should be rejecting the bottle.
Many have told me about the whole "easier to eat from the bottle" thing, but milk is literally running out her mouth as she fusses at me. She's not working hard at the breast!
I am feeling frustrated and concerned and even a little sad. I've worked really hard to be able to nurse her to this point and don't want to give up breastfeeding if that's really not what she's demanding.
T.K. answers from Kansas City on November 21, 2006
Hmmmm, it sounds like she's developed a preference for the bottle. It actually takes less work to drink from a bottle than it does to nurse. Nursing at the breast requires more muscle action and coordination than bottle feeding. The milk just comes out of a bottle easier than the breast. That's one of the many reasons why doctor's encourage mother's to breastfeed- it's better for their facial motor development.
Honestly though, I don't know what you can do to encourage her to eat more at the breast. The truth is, she's being bottle fed most of the day, for the most part of the week,so that's what she's become accustomed to. Plus, it's easier and takes less work.
Just continue to nurse as often as she will. She may be nursing less often than you'd like, but it's better than not at all!
D.T. answers from Tulsa on November 21, 2006
I went through the same thing with DS#2. Because he would get easily frustrated with the lower flow I just gave in. I wanted that bonding but upsetting my child just to have it my way will destroyed that bond. Believe me it can happen. I was sore and handing the baby the baby off to be bottle fed was just easier while I pumped. Then he never learned that I could meet his needs either breast or bottle.
Perhaps she suffering from nipple confusion. There is something you might try, change her bottle configuration to be more like your breast. use silicone instead of lates and a wider nursing bottle with a slower or faster flow to match your own. Pop in at day care occasionally to feed her so she begins to hope to see you for that special time.
D.U. answers from Wichita on November 21, 2006
I was told that if you just don't give in then she will get hungry and will eat when she is hungry enough... I have to tell you though from my experience...routine is better...so I think that you should just give her the bottle during what would be daycare hours on the weekend... and if you do get her on the breast...things could just reverse and then she won't eat for the daycare provider..consider yourself blessed that she keeps a routine... I know that you want her to breast feed... but sometimes it is easier to keep sanity if you just do what works best for the baby..and not whats best for you... if you are pumping she is still getting what she needs...just not directly from the breast...so you are still doing things in her best interest.
P.B. answers from Peoria on November 20, 2006
Well Mom, she goes and gets bottles five days a week and then c ome the weekend, she's like what's up with this? Where is my bottle? You can't expect her to know why she can't have it. I suggest you use a breat pump, so she gets your breast milk at least, let her have it in a bottle since that is what she's use to
H.V. answers from Tulsa on November 21, 2006
there is a "bottle" called the "BreastBottle Nurser" I found mine on ebay. They are about $12 but they are great-I got mine because my daughter would NOT take a bottle at all. However, while she knew it was not mom, she still had the soft comfort and mommy milk. The "bottle" is not a hard bottle, but is basically shaped like a breast, same "type" of nipple as mom as it is all one piece. the only hard part is at the base, where you hold it. I would get one, if its in the budget,and send it to daycare and have them use it also. That may help her with transitioning back and forth...Does she nurse during the week at all? It may not be doable, but I agree with the lady that sd maybe you could break away if she is close enough and try to go nurse once during the day, if at all possible....Good luck...It is hard especially when you want to nurse and our little ones have minds of their own!
A.S. answers from Kansas City on November 21, 2006
I had the opposite problem which lead me to nursing 19 months with my last daughter. But when I had to give her a bottle, I would let the milk drip in her mouth until she took it. She hated the bottle but she would eventually take it once she got a good taste of the milk.
Also, when my milk would come down, I would have to wait a few mins until it stopped so that I wouldn't gag her. She eventually got the hang of it and would pull away on her own. Sometimes I wouldn't even realize it, and when I looked down she would be showered in milk smileing at me.
Hope this helps-A.