E.H. asks from Rancho Cucamonga, CA on April 05, 2009
Breast Feeding Mom in Need of HELP!!!!
I am in need of help! I have an 8 month old baby girl that I breastfeed, who sleeps with me everything was ok but now she is getting too big for my husbend and my bed. I am getting hadly no sleep because everytime my husben of I move, roll over, or breath to hard she want to nurse..
So I have been trying to find the best way to get way to get her in to her crib... I tried last night and she scceamed for 10 mins then made her self sick.. Since newborn I dont think she has even cried for 2 mins shes a very happy baby! So after making she self sick I went and got her mean while I did try the whole staying by the crib not picking her up but holding her hand talking to her that whole thing...
I need to get her in her own bed I am afraid I might be doing harn to her because she not sleeping like I read..
So with putting her in her crib going to make her scream? Is there anything i could do to make this anybetter on her.. Whats the best way to stop sleep nursing?
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I want to thank everyone for there advice.. I am taking everything I have read and I will come up with the best thing for my baby and I! I will let everyone know when/ if I get her in her own bed.. I will take as much advice as I can get like I said I am a first time mom and I never could get too much info! I have looked in to all book and cribs and everything anyone has advise and I have invested in almost all books and web sites! I hope all is good for all the moms and there familys that replyed for my call of help! Now I have alot of readinig to do Im hoping to have something start by the end of this week!
THANKS again to all who replyed I will post soon letting everyone know how there advise helped!
B.E. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
I don't have any real advice but I had the same problem, we bought a bigger bed and I put into practice the "push him away" idea. After he fell asleep at the breast, I'd push him away so that he couldn't smell my milk all night. It really worked. He continued and continues to wake up just once a night and now, he's sleeping all night right next to us. Sometimes he wakes up and says he wants boobie but I just hug him and turn him the other direction and he goes back to sleep. I don't have a solution for out of the bed... my son just turned 2 yesterday and I can't believe I'm still breastfeeding at night!
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S.M. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
I have a four month old and I am in the same boat.. I have had her in our bed (mostly) and I am worried about getting to your point. I must begin now on getting her in her own bed and stick with it. We both just really enjoy her in our bed and it makes it so easy to breastfeed. Good luck to you. S
M.F. answers from Reno on April 05, 2009
C.J. answers from Honolulu on April 06, 2009
I took the crib rail off of my sons bed and put it beside our bed like a co-sleeper and put him in it when he would fall asleep.. or if I woke up because he wanted to nurse I would sorta lean over but leave him in his crib.. eventually he got used to staying on his side.. and the rest is history! Good luck..
C.G. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
She needs to learn how to soothe herself- very important to her sleep! You have been her soother through breastfeeding (which is fine) for the last 8 months. The crying is protesting the change- think of it how we often protest change... sometimes we even cry (ha). Anyways, she is going to protest the change and in the end she is going to have the very important skill of being able to soothe herself to sleep and when she wakes up at night AND you and your husband and your daughter will all be getting the needed solid sleep you all need to function at your best. It really is best for all of you to do this.
Routine and consistency are key to making this go as smoothly as possible. Come up with a short and simple nighttime routine, for example: bath, pjs, 1 book, to bed (just to bed- you don't need to rock or anything- give her a hug tell her you love her and put her in her crib.) I even suggest that you may want to feed on some sort of routine so she can anticipate it as part of your daily routine- examples: before naptime, before bedtime, when she wakes up. (Keep nursing!!) Kids thrive on consistency forever- it can throw off their whole demeanor through elementary school, in reality we do too.
Bedtime?? Your daugher should be taking 2 naps a day at this point and get a total of 14-15 hours of sleep a day/night. My youngest daughter probably sleep closer to 16 hours (2- 2 hour naps, and 12 hours of sleep at night).. so it may vary a bit. My daughter takes a 9am nap, a 1:30 nap, and goes to bed at 7 and wakes up on her own between 7 and 7:30. She never cries (unless harassed by her siblings, or falls when walking or in one of her crazy attempts to climb anything and everything). She is never tired or overtired. (just trying to give you an example).
Note: It may take a couple days.
If the crying is unbearable to you, a couple things:
-distract yourself with something
-make a pact with your husband that you will let your daughter figure this out
-if it makes you feel better, check on her at decided upon intervals (don't pick her up or feed her- quickly talk to her, make sure she isn't stuck or something random, rub her back- sometimes parents find this is more upsetting), make the intervals longer between each time.
-Remember it will take a few days on average. The younger you do it the easier it will be. She may cry for a really long time... but if you go in and get her that teaches her that that is how long she needs to cry for you to come. The desired effect is that she goes to sleep on her own... after a few nights she will just do this with little or no crying (sometimes there is a couple minutes of crying as a protest- doesn't mean she isn't ready to sleep).
A post you may want to check out: http://www.lullabyluna.com/2008/12/happy-new-year.html
C., sleep consultant, sleep blog writer: www.lullabyluna.com, mother of 3
A.A. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
Here is an easy solution that will make you, your husband and your baby happy. Buy the Armsreach Original CoSleeper and get the matching canopy since your baby is already 8 months old and will be sitting up soon, if she hasn't started already. I have used this on my 10 1/2 month old son from birth and it's amazing. It is a separate mini crib that attaches to one side of your own bed at the same level as your own mattress so baby has enough room to sleep without getting rolled on and is right next to your body so you can nurse without getting up. You will also get your bed back since baby is not in your bed at all but in her own right next to you. The canopy keeps her from climbing or falling out which will happen if she can sit up. It also keeps cats out in case you have one. www.Armsreach.com is the website, I think and they also sell Original Cosleepers at Babiesrus. If you have a mattress that is high up from the ground, they also sell leg extensions on their website to raise the level of the cosleeper if you want that. I dont use those and just have my baby's cosleeper separate from my bed but right next to my side of the mattress.
B.B. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
I read most of the responses-we slept with our boy for quite awhile then put him on the crib mattress next to our bed- I would nurse him there get him to sleep then we would sleep there until he would awaken and move back to our bed. most of my friends have an additional mattress for the kid next t their bed. My son was sleeping in his own room at 1.5 years old in a twin bed-it seems like forever but I think it is a gift of security-read Dr. Sears website
M.B. answers from Los Angeles on April 06, 2009
This is definately one of the hardest transitions to make.
Where does she take her naps? If she is not in her crib, then i would start there. That's what I did. yes, she is going to cry hard, but she will eventually get used to it, just try to comfort her, but don't take her out of the crib. You can go in there for a minute and rub her back or whatever comforts her and then leave. Wait another 5 minutes or so and go in there again to comfort. Keep doing that extending the time you go in there by a minute or so. She will eventually fall asleep on her own. It may take a few weeks to work. And it will be the hardest thing that you will have to do, but, I'm telling you, it will be SO worth doing it now. After you have mastered the nap, then you can start with keeping her in her own crib.
Believe me, it will work if you are consistent and just do it. She is old enough to sleep through the night without nursing. That is just a habit that you have created, and not necessary.
You and your husband will just have to put up with the screaming for a little while but it will work. She needs to learn to put herself to sleep.
I also had problems with my little girl (now 23 months old)
with sleeping. I know your baby is still a little young, but I started my process with a STRICT routine. Same time for everything. The time you start the routine, to the bedtime. After a while, their little bodies start to get used to what to expect and everything goes a little smoother. I read the same 3 books to my daughter in the same order so that when I read the last book to her, she knows that it is time to sleep. Worked like a charm. (it took about 2 weeks)Now, I throw in different books in the middle, but, I always end with that one book.
I hope this helps you a little. But, I know that you understand that this is just something that needs to be done, and it will eventually work if you are just consistent and never give in!
Good luck to you!