Breast Augmentation Surgery

You may very well be married to a very hot 47 year old but he is using power and control by holding back on his vasectomy until you respond to his requests to get a breast augmentation.
You should only be considering this surgery for your OWN sake and your own self-confidence and if you feel happy the way you are, then he has to accept it.
Women are not supposed to be treated like Barbie dolls and if he wants one, tell him to go out and get one instead.
You are a human being with a real body and you deserve respect. The decision has to be yours and yours alone.

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If that is something you want to do,then have it done. Don't do it for anyone else. I think that you should be proud of who you are and be happy with what God has given you. I have worked in the medical field for years. You need to do some research,and be aware of all the side effects that this type of surgery could have on you. It is also very pricey! After you have done a thorough search, and recieved all the 411,then if you want;go ahead. make sure It is done for YOU,not your husband!

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Well I have no problem with anyone having breast augmentation, I mean the breast do take a beating with kids, nursing etc. But I have to say, with breast cancer in your family I would say it is a bad idea. I have heard a doctor say that implants do mask tumors a lot. What about a breast lift? I mean, I know they would still be the same size but maybe a boost would just make them fill out your sweaters better :) Just a thought! But seriously, really do your research considering your family history. I am not saying you will ever have a problem, it just doesn't seem like the wisest thing. Best wishes whatever you decide!

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EMBRACE YOUR BODY!! You've made it this long with what you've got, keep on working it! I have a rather large set of girls myself and they are not all they are cut out to be. The most important thing is that you have to embrace what you have and be confident and comfortable with it. Your husband has hung in there all this time, he's not going anywhere. Maybe you can spice the relationship up some other way! :) If he hasn't run out to get a vasectomy, your boobs aren't going to change his mind on that! good luck - I hope you and your hubby can learn to loves those baby B's!

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I had mine done in 04 after nursing two little girls for over a year each. They were lop-sided, one 'a' cup the other hung down to my belly button. It was seriously national-geographic- looking! I started thinking about it, we decided we were DEFINITELY done having babies, so I tried out with falsies (Victoria's Secret's sells them). Loved it so I went for the surgery- under the muscle, internal lift one one side, saline, sub-areolar, full (and even) 'c' cup (I don't plan to become an exotic dancer or body-builder, so those were my choices). I recovered really quickly and feel like I look just great still. Swimsuits, tank tops, strapless dresses are all in my repertoire now, and I feel so happy when my husband tells me I'm the hottest chick around! It's helped me waning libido even... just saying.

Try the falsies- it a good first step, then see how you're feeling about it. If the surgery gives you too much anxiety then don't do it, but if/when the want to do it outweighs the nervousness then go and find a doctor you're comfortable with. It's just a boob-job, not brain surgery, complications are rare and outcome is usually well worth it!

Best of luck!

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I am all for women doing what they feel like is best for them. Just make sure that you are doing it for YOURSELF!

It bothers me a tad that your husband is saying he'll get a vasectomy if you'll consider breast augmentation. You have already given birth to his child, that should be enough for him. Not trying to bash your man, I am sure he is awesome, and I am married to a man that just loves boobs himself (dont they all!)

Just put yourself first on this one, the surgery has a painful recovery, so make sure you really want to do it.

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You need to give that some serious thought especially with the family history of breast cancer. I am a survivor and I can tell you that my doctor told me about many women who had implants. They would have a "boob job" cancer would come under the implants and they did could not detect it until it was too late. Your husband is right... do some good research! After 25 years I am guessing he married you and not your boobs. Count your blessings instead.

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I would LOVE to be a B cup, I have DD's and no matter what I wear I look fat b/c my breast are so huge. I guess the grass is always greener. I also don’t think a B cup is small. Anyways, to your question, I would suggest that you get pads the size you are looking to be and wear them around for a week b/f you commit to something permanent. Get someone to snap some pictures of you in your cloths so you can see what you will look like from that perspective too. I always think I look different in pictures than I do in a mirror. Personally, I would be pretty upset if my husband suggested I consider a boob job. If you want one for yourself that's one thing, but your husband should not be slamming you self-esteem (even if he is a hot 47 year old). =) I hope he assured you that you’re beautiful to him no matter what, but after 25 years of marriage, I'm sure you've got what he wants.

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Do the surgery, but only if you want it. I personally have never been more than a B, even pregnant. I always wanted to be bigger but as I get older, ( I'm 51) my boobs don't sag at all, they look like 20 yrs olds and I can wear just a sport bra or nothing at all and I am really glad I didn't get the boob job when I was younger.
Just be sure that you're doing it for yourself not someone else.
Blessings,
D.

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Dear L.,

I strongly advise against this. My doctor had one done and had complications and my neighbor had the old silicone, which is leaking and will have to have them removed if she lives long enough, she is 68 has High BP, strokes and just had cartoid artery surgery. There are very high risks to your health with this type of surgery.

God made you the way you are and you are beautiful, I am small breasted as well and happy. I was able to breatfeed my baby many years ago and they fit me. I would look ridiculous with larger ones. It was bad enough when I grew during pregnancy, I was so uncomfortable. Please pray really hard on this before doing it. It could really mess you up later down the road. God Bless You.

I agree with all the ladies ahead of me that you shouldn't do this just because your husband thinks you should. He married you for who you are, not what you look like.
I have 2 sisters who have done this, and I know from listening to them, they have to go in for maintenance on their augmented breasts every 10 years. That means removing the inserts and putting in new ones.
So keep in mind that your husband's offered vasectomy is a one time deal, but yours will not be. And, like one woman said, you put yourself at risk every time you go under anesthesia.

hey L.! i think what ever makes you happy you should do! i myself have had an augmentation in the past, because like you i was really self concious about myself. i was a little scared and nervous at the same time , because my mother passed away with breast cancer many years ago, but i ended up going through with the procedure and iam very happy that i did.also its always good to to check in to the doctors in your area and maybe going on a couple of consultations to make sure which one you feel comfortable with. i say you go for it!!!!!keep me posted on the outcome!!!! and GOOD LUCK!!!!

ash

If you want the new boobs for you, then go for it! If not, then don't. My sister was a nearly B cup and had a boob job last year. She has been thrilled with the results, even more than her husband has. She when with one of the more expensive doctors and had them placed under the muscle, so that the natural boob is on top of the implant. It looks more real that way. She is a full C cup now and loves. it. I'm with the other mom that says to do research and find a good doctor. You can always just go talk to them and see what they say. I'm on the other side of things and want a boob job to fix my DD cup to a nice size C (that doesn't sag, LOL).

T.

Hi L.,

I had breast augmentation 8 yrs. ago and would do it again... If it is something you have always felt very insecure about , heck go for it........ I was always uncomfortable in bathing suits, etc. and now am very confident........ Def. research your Dr. before moving forward.........

My implants were inserted under the breast and look great..

I know lots of people who have done it, and pretty much all were happy with it. I have a friend that just got it done, and she had them go through her belly button, and she had a very quick recovery, and she loves them. what I would be most concerned with is the fact that your husband is so set on it that he is trying to bribe you, with him getting the vasectomy, just to get you to get your boobs done! You should only do it if "YOU" really want it, not any body else! You know on a rare occaision people die under anestigia (sp) and occaisionally, surgery leaves you worse than before you got the surgery. If either of those were to happen, your husband would have to live with the fact that you did it for him! Only do it for yourself! your breasts were good enough for him when he married you, they should be good enough now! I'm sure that he is not in as good a place phyisically today as the day that you married him! Also to consider , you are at higher risk for breast cancer, implants make it very hard for early detection! you have a lot to think about!Best of luck!

I can maybe offer you some advice. Before I got married and had a baby I was a D cup. I loved my breasts, they were very perky! After I had my second child and did the breast feeding thing, my breasts shrunk to a B. This of course I found out when I went to my consult for breast augmentation. I was of course astounded that I had lost that much tissue. So at the age of 24 I decided to have the surgery along with a breast lift. After the healing was done, I must say, I loved them!! They were sooo awesome! I went from a B cup to a full D cup. I didn't have to wear bras much b/c they just stood there on their own. I was told that my breasts actually have a 20 year guaranteed warranty so....eventually I will have to have them replenished. Since my surgery, I have had a 3rd child which I feel has made me want another breast lift, but my husband says I don't. Even though they still look great when I wear a bra and they flatter just about any shirt, I still would love to get them done again just to feel better about myself naked. Before I had my surgery I was told that breast augmentation is the most painful plastic surgery you can have. This, I believe is very true. I went home the same day wearing a fanny pack that had IV's connected to my breasts that pumped Morphine into them spiratically. I had to sleep on a recliner for like a week b/c it was too painful to lie flat. You can't life your arms above your head for some time so you would need help getting dressed. Also, it's a good idea to get a sports bra that zips in the front and wear that until you can get back into normal bras. One more thing, you might need help pulling your undies up after having gone to the bathroom b/c they tell you not to bend over. So many restrictions and so much pain....but I thought it was totally worth it. Good Luck!

Hello L.,

I am recently new in Mamasource and have browsed through on various occasions but have never responded. Your post caught my attention.

I am 47 years old and have always been a Full C, ever since High School. I'm 4'11 average built, in high school I weighed 97 lbs. upon graduating. After having three children I gained weight and was a good 150 lbs. About 2002, I lost 45 to 50 lbs. I lost all the fullness in my breasts and since had not been happy for quite a few years. I had contemplated the surgery, but was always scared. In meeting my current boyfriend, he supported me completely as well as my children and they are 21, 23 and 27.

In November of last year, I started researching breast augmentation, talking to as many friends that have had the surgery, what they had implanted, Silicone Vs. Saline Implants. I went through three seperate consultations and made sure to get all the information I could obtain. I finally had my surgery scheduled on May 23rd and after two months, the swelling is down and I am extremely happy. Most doctors will give free consultations, I actually am very happy with my doctor, she went through the various pros and cons of Silicone and Saline. I ended up going with Silicone Gel Implants. I have no scars under my breast for the implant as they went through the incision for my Tummy Tuck.

I can't tell you how happy I am with the outcome.

A very dear friend of mine was very pleased with my doctor and has referred her to family and friends as well. I was able to locate her through Locate a Doc at http://www.locateadoc.com/.

Do as much research as possible and if something doesn't just feel right or sound right, take more time to find a doctor that makes you feel comfortable with your decision.

Good Luck!
S.

Your husband souds a little too concerned with outside appearances, I mean blackmailing you with the vasectomy! However, if YOU want to get a boob job FOR YOURSELF. My advice, spend the extra money on a well known doctor, don't go for cheap implants because they "turned out fine" in someone you know. I have friends who have had both types, the expensive boob jobs are costly for a reason.

I have a friend that had cancer of the breast and she knew that she could have her breast cancer removed and replaced with implants. So thats what she did, and she is very happy.

Hey I had breast augmenataion over a year ago after 3 kids and breastfeeding, I was left with smaller than an a cup, I went up to a full c, and love tham, I would do it again in a heartbeat, mine are sub glandular not sub muscular and mine look very natural and was very very easy to recover from since there were no insicions in the muscle, they have a nice natural slope and noone knows unless I tell them.

I am 46 years old and 3 years ago I had my augmentation. I wish I had done it sooner. The reason I didn't though, was because I didn't want to be big boobed and have guys gawk or have them think I wanted them to gawk at me. I just wanted to look nice in my clothes. I used to say that my boobs were size, wanna-be-a-b, I was barely a b on a good day.
What really made me decide was meeting a lady in her 30's with 3 children. She was a nice, reserved lady and did not wear blouses unbuttoned to her naval showing off her boobs. But she had just recently - I thinnk about 8 months prior to my meeting her- had hers done. Then I decided that not everyone gets them done to show them off to the world!
Anyway, the first several months they felt awkward and I wondered if I did the right thing, but after they settled into place, I would do it again in a heartbeat!
Good luck.

Hi L....I'm a healthy 44 year young wife/mother and have enjoyed my wonderful full C/D breast while I was pregant and while i've been nursing. I love them and don't want to loose them. I plan research and get an augmentation as soon as I completely finish nursing. First, I'm doing it for me; second, I'll do it for my husband. In addition; all the clients and friends that have had a breast enhancment say that they would repect the procedure a million times over. I get very positive input. Hope this helps...Good luck and
God bless
A little about me: married to an awesome man of almost 7 years, 3 beautiful step-daughter (twins 13 & 20) and our son 8 1/2 months. A spa business owner where my son comes to work with me everyday!!

Hi L.,

I am a 38 yr. old mother of 2 (four including my gorgeous step-children) and had breast augmentation surgery on June 27 of this year. I can honestly say that I researched and talked to anyone that would talk to me about it for over 18 years before making the decision to move forward with the surgery. I too, was very self-conscious about my very small breast size and know that it is definitely a very personal decision and I can honestly say I am thrilled with the results. It was very difficult the first week after the surgery but each day gets better. There were lots of things that you aren't told about such as the HORRIBLE back pain from the extra weight that is immediate, the "stretched skin" feeling is pretty bad too, but now a month later I am THRILLED. I feel so much more confident being without a top in front of my husband as well as buying clothes for myself. I still have some soreness and pain from time-to-time and the sensations in my breats still haven't come back but have been told that, that takes time. My best advice is to research your doctor fully. Make certain that he is board certified; ask for references from previous patients; check him out in every way and then GO FOR IT!!! I hope this helps you at least a little! Best of Luck!

I have uneven breasts also. I was told when purchasing bras recently that it was very common. I have considered getting the implants even though my husband does not want me too. The one thing that keeps me from getting them the most is that it can be harder to detect breast cancer. I am not willing to risk my life for them.

You should never do anything to your body that you are not comfortable with. My friend had implants about along with a lift on one. I couldn't believe how long she was sore. For several months she had to sleep part of the night in a recliner. I think seeing all the pain she went through helped me decide not to.

If I ever did go through with it I would want to find a Dr. that would go through the belly button. There is one in Austin for sure that does that.

Good luck and research "problems with implants" on the internet.

K.

B isn't too bad...I am the "smallest' in my family...I have been teased all my life about it...they have been called "skeeter bites" , "apple seeds", you name it..but...I have a pretty good sense of humor and good level of self esteem. I always remind my friends and family who have such kind words that..."At least mine won't droop to my knees when I'm 60" that always shuts them up...So on the do i or don't i front...I want to look the best I can for my husband..and myself, We have talked about what each would like better about the other a lot...we are always very honest with each other about everything...it is not the top of discussion every day...just when we hear about it and it opens the discussion...if you are OK with changing your self and medically with your family history..as in BC is still detectable with implants. then go for it...No matter how many crunches I do my tummy is still flabby..I would get a tummy tuck in a minute if i could afford one...

I would do alot of research on the subject before even considering this surgery. All the couples we know of that did have the surgery done - are now divorced. Good luck.

Because you have a history of breast cancer in your family, I would not do it. Often times insurance will not cover any breast cancer care if you have had augmentation. Cancer treatments can be very expensive.
S.

Hi L.!
I've had implants and they are great. My reason for getting them was I had a mastectomy in 2005 on the right side so that breast is a total "man made" one and I then had an implant in the left breast to make it look as good as the right one!! I've had no problems with them and implants have changed so that they are not dangerous anymore.

My words of advice would be to make sure the dr is a good one. I even talked with women who he had worked on. Also make sure that he/she is board certified as a plastic surgeon and has been doing this for awhile.

Regarding breast cancer...talk to your own dr about how to check for breast cancer after implants. With your family history MAKE SURE you check monthly yourself. When I was diagnosed, I was already stage 3 (last stage being 4).

Take care and all the best to you. If you have any questions, ask away. I don't mind talking about this.
S.

If you want the change for yourself, then go for it. I would not change it just for your hubby, though. You may regret it later. I liked the suggestion by another member to pad them and see what you think after a week.

I was a AA cup for most of my life and moved up to a B, almost C cup after two pregnancies. So to me, a B cup is NOT small. My hubby was THRILLED to see my "new" B cups!

I had mine done 4 years ago & couldn't be happier. I did lots of research & knew 5 women who went to this one dr in particular. So, I ended up going to him. He is wonderful! He goes thru the belly button, so you have VERY little down time & no scars. I was up 2 days after cooking Christmas dinner! Take a look at his web site. His name is Dr. Gerald Johnso
n. He is located over in the Galleria area. http://www.certified-plastic-surg.com/
Good luck! If you have ANY questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to contact me! I would LOVE to help you calm your fears.
T.

L.,
I had breast implants after having my children. I did it because after nursing my girls, I ended up lop-sided (bigger on one side than the other). I was like you...about a B cup naturally...but after nursing I felt very uncomfortable in the nude...very self-conscious. So, against my "then" husband's wishes I chose to have the surgery. It made the world of difference! If you go in with an open mind knowing ahead of time what to expect, what exercises are needed to be done, etc. Knowing that you'll be tender and sore for a few days or in some cases a week or so...then, you're ready for the experience. If you think it's a piece of cake with little to no pain...you're not ready. If you want to talk more about my experience call me any evening ###-###-#### or ###-###-####. My surgeon is here in San Antonio...I had it done 10 years ago by Dr. Robert Young. I highly recommend him. My twin sister had it done by him as well two years after I did. No problems! Great Staff!
M.

Go for it if it will make you feel better. Go to a very good doctor though. I have hade mine since 1995 and still think it's the best thing I have ever done for myself.

M.

L., I had breast augmentation 15+ years ago and have never had any regrets. I also had breast cancer 5 years ago and the implants did not cause any problems for me. Mine are under the muscle which I believe helps. I was also "lop-sided" only much worse than you (AA vs. B). If this is something that you want, then go for it! It made a HUGE difference in how I felt about myself and like I said before, did not interfere with the detection or treatment of my breast cancer. Good luck.