Breasfeeding New Baby

I'm all for breastfeeding. It's healthier for you and baby. I'd give it a try. I found it's easier and cheaper to breastfeed. It's always more difficult in the beginning but if you keep on trying, it'll become easier with time. Good luck and congratulations!

Ummmmmmmmm, can someone tell me why it's your husband's decision? They're your breasts.

I say try again. Every experience breastfeeding is different. this time might go much easier. If you do try again nurse then try pumping after the baby is done. this way you build up your supply and have some milk stored in the freezer for when you go back. Don't give up right away if at first it doesn't come easy. Sometimes it takes the baby a few day and after your milk comes in good then things get easier. Just try to be calm and know that everything takes time. im sure last time was very different and it doesnt sound like time would have helped but remember this time is not like last time. So dont get discouraged right away if the first few days are a little hard. Good for you by the way for wanting to try again after not having a good run last time. if you do have problems this time though please dont feel bad about it. Sometimes this just happens and it has nothing to do with you at all. Stay strong and ask your husband to please support you because this is very important to you. Good luck I wish you all the best.

He is probably very anxious about your breastfeeding because of all the difficulties that you had in the past. I would tell him that you are going to leave your options open but will try breastfeeding first and if it doesn't go well you will switch to formula/bottle when feeding your baby. You might even try making bottles from your breast milk so that he can feed the baby and bond with him/her like he did with your other child. It could be that he is wanting that as much as you want to breastfeed. Compromise is the big word here. Also if you are going back to work your child will need to learn to eat from both the breast and the bottle unless you plan on running home to your child everytime she/he needs fed, which I don't believe your work is going to allow. Which means the sooner your start giving her both the bottle and breast the easier the transition will be for both of you. I couldn't breast feed my second child because of medical issues and he turned out healthy and fine and has only had 3 colds his entire life so while breast milk is the absolute best you can do, don't feel guilty if you have to switch to formula. First and foremost the health of your child must becomes your priority.

remind him that breast milk is better for babies and you never know unless you try again.
Also ( and this works with my husband) remind him how much cheaper and convenient it it, No mixing, no running out and having to run to the store in the middle of the night, just pull up your shirt and up or down and vola dinner is served.

This is the one part of parenting he gets ZERO opinion in! It is best for baby and best for you.

Get with a lactation consultant, private or through la leche league, prior to your baby's birth to get educated about breastfeeding and have help available from minute one. Hospitals have lactation consultants, but they may be off on the day you deliver or show up 12 hours later which is too late.

10 weeks is a good amount of time to get nursing established. Get a good pump and start pumping as soon as you can in anticipation of going back to work and getting a good stash built up.

I can't imagine why your husband would say that....have him go with you to meet the lactation consultant.

Here is my favorite link about the wonders of breastfeeding. Some you will have heard, some will be new to you!

Good luck mama! Do what's best for you and your new babe!

http://www.bestforbabes.com/your-mom-made-wonder-food/

Please get your answers from a lactation consultant. I wonder how hubs would feel if you were telling him how to handle his prostate trouble! This is not his decision and he needs to give you 100% support regardless of your decision. I found that breastfeeding was ALWAYS tons easier than bottle. I always had a ready supply of clean, fresh milk. Latching, slow milk supply, etc., are all issues to be addressed by a knowledgeable lactation consultant.

You may not have the same issues and it is definitely worth a try! Breastfeeding both my kids is one of the best decisions I made for them. I didn't have to worry as much if there was a bug going around because I knew my milk would offer them protection, I didn't have to sterilize bottles, didn't have to buy all that formula, I knew I was in control of what their tiny little bodies got and the wonderful bonding aspect just can't be replaced.

Martha Sears has a great breastfeeding book that is go to resource book for basic info. Take the breastfeeding class at a birthing center, see if there is a breastfeeding support group in your area. Those are a great resource to see and hear all the "been there done that" info you'll need to be confident in your ability to feed your baby!

Since you are going back to work, invest in a good double electric breast pump like the Medela Pump In Style. I lost mine in Katrina and bought a less expensive medela model and it wasn't even close. Spend the money!

And nurse baby on demand! Sometimes that may seem like all the time but if you follow baby's lead you will do well with nursing!

Best to you and your (hopefully) breastfed new little one on the way :)

I have to agree with the other mamas who say give it a chance again. It could turn out very different this time. I successfully breastfed all 3 of my babies and pumped at work. It was quite a bother to have to pump, but it was worth it. And I agree that the Medela Pump in Style is a good one to use. Remind your partner that he'll get to feed the baby the expressed milk, so he'll be included in the feeding process. Don't let him talk you out of trying. If you don't have success again this time, at least you will know that you tried, and you can switch to formula with no guilt and no regrets. Good luck to you!!

I agree with the other responses but wanted to add that I find breastfeeding easy. I had a difficult time at the beginning but stuck with it & it has been completely worth it. No bottles to mess with. If you go somewhere your babys food is always with you without preparation.

I would also recommend the book The Womanly Art if Breastfeeding. Find a great support in a friend or lactation consultant.

My husband was suportive of me BF but also thought it would be just fine to formula feed. After lots of issues with my daughters health he has been convinced with how great BF is.

what you should do right now is to go to www.llli.org. find a group near you, or in your town. you might have to take a look at a map or something, or just keep looking at the list until you find a group that is close to you. attend a meeting, with your husband if possible. talk about your concerns; you might find someone in the group had the same issues. (that is the norm!) - if not, you will find the group will have a huge amount of resources so that you will be able to figure it all out.

just because you had problems the first time doesnt mean you will have any this time! some babies take to the breast easier (or harder). some babies are born pros and others arent. its not going to be the same experience, i guarantee it. it might still be hard, but its worth it isnt it??

it doesnt really sound like your husband doesnt want you to breastfeed, it sounds like he doesnt want you to go through the pain and frustration you went through the first time. formula is NOT easier than breastmilk, especially once the breastfeeding relationship is established. take as much time off from work as you can possibly get (if you work). get help with your older child so you can focus. DO NOT stress or get frustrated, just let it develop. dont suppliment if you are afraid baby isnt getting enough; just count wet diapers. anything 6+ a day is plenty. usually breastfed babies have 3 stools a day as well, but not always.

anyway, just have patience. be confident that this is what you want to do, let your husband know that even if its difficult you are determined to do it this time, and its ok. let him know that you know it was hard last time, on both of you, and you still want to give it a try because if you can make it work its so worth it.

and chances are, the la leche league will also be able to help you to figure out your problems! i just recently heard that most lactation consultants through clinics and hospitols are just nurses that have had a couple hours of breastfeeding training. they might never have even breastfed their own children (if they have any). so dont always rely on them (though some are good!)
the la leche league is good reliable information because the leaders themselves are required to have breastfed for at least a year, and most nurse longer. :) :) they will have real, hands on experience under their belt, as well as information from other moms they have known in the past..

anyway. good luck and im glad you are choosing to breastfeed this time ! !: )

I am so happy you have a man that cares so much about your well being. I had horrible issues with breastfeeding, and my husband says there is no way he wants me to go though that again. It makes me so happy that he cares about me. I am sure that this is the way your man is showing that he cares for you. Also he might want to take a more active roll in feeding the baby and he can not if you are the only one that can feed the baby. If it is really important to you to do then you should try it, but there is nothing wrong with formula, many people will try to guilt you into thinking you are a bad parent if you use formula, but you are not.

Good for you for wanting to try again! I breastfed for 16 months (went back to work FT at 3 months and pumped every 3 hours), but simply could NOT have done it without the 100% support of my hubby. My advice is to somehow get him to realize the benefits for the baby. Does your local hospital or clinic offer a breastfeeding class you could go to together? We took one of these and by the time we were done, my hubby bent over backwards to make it easier for me to successfully breastfeed, bringing me water and whatever else i needed. Maybe tell him, this isn't about what's easiest for you... this is about what's best for your child. P.S. if you end up pumping at work, i recommend investing in a high quality Medela pump. And the book "The Milk Memos" by Cate Colburn-Smith, Andrea Serrette... it's a fun true story of some working (pumping) moms.

Good luck to you!

share this with him
http://www.promom.org/101/
or this
http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/breastfeeding/a/breastfe...
and tell him that formula/bottles are not necessarily easier at all, they can be a real pain, plus very expensive, plus its great to always have a breast ready to calm a miserable baby.
from his perspective, ill tell you that my husband was my biggest supporter when i told him i was planning to bf. however, i had a lot of trouble with my first baby, my first month or 2 was miserable, i was crying and bleeding all the time, plus hormonal insanity, etc. after a while of this, he was begging me to give up. men feel like they need to fix things, he felt very bad for me and very helpless and frustrated, i cant blame him. by the way, i stuck and went on to bf forever. also, although i had an awful time getting started with my son, my 2nd child was a dream. she actually latched on 10 min after delivery! then she was in the nicu for a week and they wouldnt let me bf, i pumped the whole time, it was awful. all signs pointed to failure. then, when they let me bf her, she latched right on and we never looked back, she was the best. my third baby gave me a hard time in the beginning, awful latch, losing weight for weeks, etc, till i found a video of the assymetric hold (dr jack newman) and everything just clicked, we got through that too. my point is that all babies are different, just because you had a hard time the first time means nothing for this time, especially since you had corrective procedures. and you have the attitude that will get you through. hubby prob just doesnt want to see you suffer again, tell him that you will keep an open mind but you want to give it your best try. and if he doesnt get on board, find someone who supports you, its important. then give it your best try. get help if you need it, but i bet it will go great and you will have no regrets, and wont resent him for talking you out of it. best of luck

Try. Do not loose the opportunity to experience a great bondage between you and your future baby. Although, your husband is right, the easy things are not necessarily the most rewarding ones. Being this said, get some literature, attend a breastfeeding class 101:how to latch your baby properly and so forth and get as much information you can get to try the second time around. If the time comes and it is still hard, look for a lactation consultant that can guide you through your breastfeeding steps. These are some of the things I did with my first son. My second one was very much easier. Additionally, you will save some money in formula and will strength your baby immune system, among the most important things

Breastfeeding is better for the baby. It's your decision. He is worried about you, which is very sweet. The best thing you can do is find a lactation consultant that you can work with as soon as you have the baby. Breastfeeding is "natural" but not necessarily easy.

I had shingles 3 days after giving birth and because of fear of the medication and/or the shingles being transferred to the baby, he had formula - the bottle feeding completely screwed up my nursing, his suck, my supply, etc. With the help of a lactation consultant, I was able to breastfeed with no problem in a few months, and did it till my son was 2.5 years old.

You may be going back to work, but that doesn't mean you can't pump during the day and breastfeedin in the evening. Try it for as long as you can and then take it from there. Good luck!

Yes. Don't listen to your partner. Breastfeeding is always the best way to go. If you really can't do it, then go to formula. It is always hard, but if you can get past the first few weeks, you won't regret it. Tell him to do some research on breastfeeding benefits. It's so important for your child. You can do it.