Bouncing Baby Too Hard?

If your son is not sick he should be learning how to put himself to sleep. A good bedtime routine can be a life saver.

I learned this caring for kids who had no bedtime routine or horrid routines. Imagine 3 kids under two who will not go to sleep without at least 30 minutes of undivided attention. Or a child who CANNOT go to sleep without that one special blanket or toy. Heaven forbid if you forgot it. Or the two year old who will only go to sleep if you lay next to them and let them stroke your hair. Or the two year old who only went to sleep while stroking his older brothers ear. I have some horror stories.

When my son was little we would dance (or sometimes rock) to some active music then to slower music. I would cradle him in my arms and dance. He loved it. I would then put him down with some snuggles and pats and I would promise to be back in 5 minutes to check on him. He was usually asleep by the second time I checked.

When he was a little older I would put him in the wagon and take a short walk before storytime, snuggles and bed time. I would still go back and check every 5 minute or so.

He became a great sleeper. He would nap anywhere if he had a place to lay down.

At two years of age, I would bring his nap pad to the river where his cousins were swimming and playing. I put the pad in the shade,snuggled him, covered him with a light blanket and he would go to sleep.

When we went camping, I would set the tent up so he could see me by the fire with my siblings, give him a small flashlight to play with ane he would drift off to sleep. After about 15 minutes or so I would go turn off the flashlight. (I always put him to bed before it got dark.)

Good sleeping habits can and should be learned early.

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I say listen to your gut. If you think he is bouncing too hard then make him stop. My understanding is that it is the force of the shake, not just the head moving that does the damage. Trust me, there are other ways to get your son to sleep. Babies cry. I know as a first time parent that is hard to take, but you have to build up a resistance to always trying to make him stop crying. Just cuddle him and love him and he will stop crying eventually. A lot of babies react to movement so instead of jumping up and down, try walking around the room, walking up and down stairs, putting him in a stroller and taking him for a walk outside. My son was the same way and I just had to keep moving, but never did I do anything that could harm him like jumping up and down. Babies are fragile. Remind your husband that he can hurt him even when he thinks he's is not doing anything to hurt him.

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When our kids were newborns, they both seemed to respond well to a couple rougher jounces while walking and trying to soothe a crying jag. I didn't jump with them though. It seems like that activity could result in a whiplash type brain injury. You've already received some responses as it pertains to the jumping, so I offer a different perspective. 6 1/2 months old, and you are still soothing him to sleep... Your evenings might be less stressful, if you start teaching your son some self-soothing techniques. Once learned, your son will be able to soothe himself back to sleep when he wakes in the night. Different things worked with both of our sons. We had the most success with a Glow Worm when the kids were young, because they could give it a little squeeze and it would light up and play music quietly. As they got older, we had luck with crib attachments, where they could push a button, and it would play music and light up for a few minutes. We have that attached to our 2 1/2 year old's bed, and he still turns that on in the middle of the night occasionally.

I also share that it is never too early to establish a bedtime routine. Routines make it easier to transition over to big boy beds or to have overnight visits in new places. Our routine is an evening bath, 30 min couch snuggle, brush teeth, take flouride pill and then it is off to bed with a couple of stories. My boys love books with rythm. A couple of favorites are Goodnight Moon and Where the Wild Things Are. Good luck!

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The only way my husband could get our son to sleep for the first year was with what we termed "vigorous bouncing." He didn't jump, just fast deep leg squats, he got very fit--Anyway maybe try to keep him from jumping, but I have to say some nights the only one who could get him to sleep was dad doing "vigorous bouncing." The only problem was that I did not have the physical stamina to keep up with him!

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Go to the library and borrow "The Best Baby on the Block". I don't know the author, but my sister-in-law borrowed it for me when my son was a newborn. Together with swaddling, the techniques for bouncing and jiggling him to sleep or to calm him were great.

I don't know if I would have stood still for my husband jumping with him because there's still a bit of a jar when he hits the ground.

I didn't want my husband doing anything I wouldn't or couldn't do because I was the one at home with him all day. We would have both been miserable if I couldn't have comforted him myself.

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Get one of those exercise bouncy balls, and have your husband (or yourself) sit on it while your son is bounced to sleep. The ball should prevent your hubby from getting too carried away with things. Bouncing is great for some babies, but when a baby is crying...and mom/dad are overtired and cranky and just want baby to sleep...sometimes things can get out of hand. Vigorous bouncing CAN do damage to a baby's brain. Your concerns are valid...try to compromise with the bouncing and have him sit on a ball. I don't think you can get too out of control with those things.

Hang in there. Things should start to get better when your son starts walking....at least that's when we started getting better sleep at our house. The rapid brain development associated with that milestone finally made our son get some sleep....without having to do any acrobatics to make it happen.

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Jumping might not be the best idea, but we had GREAT luck with bouncing on our exercise ball. It is more comfortable and relaxing for my husband and I, but still gets the bouncing effect that is soothing to baby. It also limits how high your husband can bounce if you're really worried.

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I second the one on Exercise/yoga ball- that you blow up. My son loved it and I still use it when he is really fussy/teethy or sick. Your hubby can still bounce him but not as rough...it is very soothing for some babies to be bounced. Another way to really gauge if your husband is being too forceful would be to have him do it in front of your Pedi or another mommy.
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My nephew was just like that since he was just three months old - you had to bounce him to get him to relax and sleep, the livelier the better! He is now one and a half and still loves to be jostled, he's very active and happy, so I think you have nothing to worry about as long as the head and neck are protected.

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M.,

Instead of bouncing/jumping with your son try the five S's.

Sucking (binky)
Swaddling
Shhh-ing (white noise, it also reminds baby of the womb)
Swaying
Side

I've seen this work on Dr. Phil, in the news, and on Oprah (I think). The expert will take a fussy baby, swaddle them snugly, stick a binky in the mouth, lay them on their side on his/her arm, start swaying and shhhh-ing in the baby's ear and the fussy baby is asleep in 5-10 minutes or so.

My kids hated being swaddled, but the other four S's worked well for us. Many a night I remember swaying/twisting with either my son (now 5) or my daughter (now 2) in my arms right at their cribside.

Hope this helps,
M.

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You should google "shaken baby syndrome" and show it to your husband. There is alot of damage to be done by jumping up and down with a baby.

I had to bounce my colicky son on a yoga ball for endless hours it seemed. The harder I bounced the more it soothed him. The 5 S's did not work at all for him, made him more mad to be swaddled and wouldn't take to a pacifier either. Swaying him while on the ball gave my body a bit of a break from the up and down motion.. but bouncing was definitely the thing that worked. I did hold him securely next to me being careful of his neck, never used devices like swings and such because I was attachment parenting. One caveat of using the yoga ball and bouncing is the core stabalization that is required on your part.... I tell you my abs and back got right back into pre-pregnancy shape with that routine! LOL!

Invest in a swing, it's safer. Jumping up and down by an adult is nothing in compared to the jumping that's going on inside your baby's body. Holding their head will minimize the chances of whiplash but not the bruising of the brain or organs inside their bodies. If he's crying at 6.5 mo old, then he's either hungry, wet or just wants to be snuggled. Do one of the three. His body clock is changing as he gets older. Babies like the movement, so a swing will work, I've had some friends who sat their baby seat on the washer during a spin cycle. There are motors that you can attach to your crib that will gently rock/shake the mattress. Sweet dreams!

If you are at all concerned it might be a good idea to give your pediatrician a quick call. Protecting the neck is good but I think their little brains are small and can bounce around in their head. You want to make sure regular, normal bouncing isn't going to do anything that could potentially damage the growing brain.

I have to agree with the THERESA's post. 6.5 months is most definitely old enough to start "sleep training". There are many approaches to sleep training [no-cry sleep solution, Cry it Out (Ferber method), etc.] and that would be research you need to do to find what works for your family. My husband and I were advised by our pediatrician that 4 months is old enough to start sleep training.

I'd be concerned with the jarring impact jumping up and down with a little one causes on the neck/spine/base of skull, especially if it's part of the "routine".

I would be concerned about Shaken Baby Syndrome for sure

http://www.dontshake.org/sbs.php?topNavID=3&subNavID=23

Even though he is not "shaking" the baby, it could still have serious consequences.

I second what Hamsa said!!!!!! I first thought it was too much....but it wasn't.