how much time before the party do you send the invitations to school?
what do you think of parties on weekdays after school at organized places?
is it ok to have a party a month after the birthday?
dd1 birthday is 2 weeks before im due to have another baby. im worried about when the baby comes. dd2 birthday is 2 weeks before dd1(but she is too young for a kid party). cousin is 1 week before dd1 birthday. with all the birthdays, holidays, and me being on the last leg of the pregnancy, i just couldnt figure out when to do it, now i kinda of waited to long. i think that having the party after the baby is here will at least guarantee both mom and dad can be there. i just dont know, what do you think. the place does everything so at least i wont really have to do much and can tend to the baby, but all those people running around the baby is a little scary.
thanks so much for the responses. i just booked it for 2 weeks after the baby is due. at an absolute minimum, the baby will be a week old, but i have a feeling she may come early. i did decide to not do it during the week, i just dont think it would work, esp because its a little drive. and yes, we are inviting the whole class. i think ill send the invites 4 weeks ahead because it does make sense that the longer notice the better for people with other kids.
the only reason not to have it before the baby is because im afraid i might be in he hospital having the baby at the time of her party!!!! ith everyone elses bday, the only weekends free seemed to close to my due date to risk it. thanks for making me feel better about being a month later. i was a little nervous if anyone would think that was strange. thanks for making me feel better.
If this was me in the situation I would skip the big party this year. I would ask my dd who her 1 or 2 best friends are and go out to her favorite place for dinner or games or whatever. She may actually appreciate something being so much about her (not a party or everyone else who needs impressing) right before the baby arrives. Just my two cents.
I like to give at least 3 weeks before the party for invitations.
If we were invited to a party after school, we may not come, unless it included dinner and was perhaps no more than a 2 hour party. We have too much to do on a school night.
If the place takes care of everything, why not be there and be pregnant? Your husband can take care of delivery the cake and picking up the gifts.
I think its ok to have a bday party a month after the bday. I normally send invites out 3 weeks in advance. Sometimes having parties on a weekday makes it difficult for people to be there so you may have a small amount of guest if its during the week.
Usually 2 weeks before the party is good for the invitations. Only send them into school if you are inviting the whole class (or all kids of your child's gender in their class), otherwise, mail them to the children's homes.
No reason you can't have a party a month after the birthday, and I loved having parties out someplace that wasn't my home, it was great to pay someone to set up and clean up
After school? No. I wouldn't do it. I would not assume that most kids have a stay at home parent - many kids go to a babysitter or after school care program. Even parents who are home when the kids get home from school are busy getting their various kids to their afterschool activities and need time for everyone to do their homework. If this is your only child, this afterschool time may seem very manageable, but if you have 3 kids who are school aged, you really don't have time to take your child to an afterschool birthday party when your 10 year old needs to be at hockey practice and your 14 year old needs a ride to their high school required community service job. I'd hold the party on a weekend.
We sent invitations 2 weeks prior to leave time for RSVP. If invitations were sent to school, ALL kids in class were invited.
Parties including my son's classmates were always held a couple of weeks early because his birthday is after school is out for summer vacation. It was too hard to arrange with everyone's vacation plans, etc.
Weekday parties can be really difficult because of parents work schedules and other obligations. Organized places are always fine.
You have so much on your plate right now with other parties and a baby on the way. The important thing is to make your daughter's birthday as special as possible. You can invite immediate family and maybe just one of her best friends to a pizza parlor for cake and ice cream. Or take her and a little friend to a matinee after school and then out for ice cream sundaes. Something to make her day special will be fine. Then you can have a "party" any time for her.
The weather will be better later on, people will have recovered from the hectic holidays, you'll be less stressed.
Get someone to watch your little one and have a special day with your "big" girl. It won't take much to make her feel really special.
Best wishes.
Parties after school on weekdays, I don't see why not.
To answer your question about invites, I usually send them out 3-4 weeks before hand and I insist on RSVP's. I then follow up the week before the party just to see if they can still make it, etc. You could probably do it 2 weeks before though, too. Just keep in mind that some parents may have already made plans and wished that they'd known about the party sooner.
As for sending them to school, I wouldn't do that. Unless she's inviting the whole class it causes too many hurt feelings and mis-understandings. Either help your daughter hand deliver the invites to the guests homes, or send out invites by email. I always design my own invites on my computer and then email some to those that liver further away (such as family members that can't make it but want to be remembered) and then print & hand deliver to those that lived closer. My children's school actually has a policy that no bday party invites are to be handed out at school unless the whole class is invited.
As for having the party after the fact, you certainly can. And with you having a big arrival coming up, you shouldn't exert yourself over a bday party. I would have a small party just for family on the big day. A nice cake and maybe a gift or two. Then, a month or so later, have the big party with all the friends and stuff. I've had to do that a couple of times and as long as I made a big deal of it on their big day, my kids didn't mind. I have two children with bdays within a week of each other (4 years apart) and last year at that same time we were moving. They each had a cake on their day but we wound up not having a party until 2 months later. We had a big thing at the park and wound up celebrating not only their birthdays but my husbands bday (this wound up being ON his big day LOL) and when my brother came down with his little guy we added him too because we wouldn't see him the next month for his bday. :D Also my youngest son was born the day after Thanksgiving. There is no way I'm giving him a big party with Christmas so close etc. We're planning a trip to the arcade later this month for him and some buddies. There is a friend of mine that has two boys and they were both born in December. She didn't feel like doing X-mas & two parties so she does something similar. On their day, they each get a cake but no gifts. In June she throws a huge party for the two of them and they get their gifts then.
So relax. Stop worrying about all of this and focus on taking care of the little one. Making your daughter feel special on her big day is what's important. Not throwing a huge party and just stressing yourself out in the process.
