Birth Control Method ....I Need Help!

Updated on January 20, 2012
N.I. asks from Deltona, FL
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Hi ladies,
I just went to see a new OB yesterday for the annual papsmear, and he seemed very nice. He asked me which birth control method i'm using...well I'm not using anything at all...well condoms at times thats it. He suggested me to use a pill named "generess Fe". Now thats where my concern is, I have never taken pills, mainly because I forget easily, so never tried them. I have used many methods: the 3 month injection, implanon, patches, mirena, nuvaring, etc...all for some reason or other I stopped. Keep in mind I started using them 6 years ago after my 1st pregnancy. Most of them were causing my non stop bleeding and Mirena was causing ovarian cysts (if it wasn't for that I would have keep it I loved it!)....the patches I stopped because thats when in the news they were advicing not to used them and my doctor agreed....the nuvaring it was nice, but my insurance wasn't covering it so I couldn't buy it anymore and for some reason after a year more or less it was getting difficult to to keep in at times only. Anyways that brings me to know...I know one doctor told me beg of last year that maybe the copper T...which I asked this new OB and he said no he didn't recommend it...to try at least that pill, that supposly the cost was not much and would help me. As I check reviews online they are the same thing as any other pill if you research it....bad and good side effects...so I'm confused. I spoke to my mom she said don't do it...she doesn't believe in "the pill"...my husband is not sure and i'm confused. my doctor said the 1st day of my period to start them....i was suppose to start my period again next week but my period is crazy and guess what it started today....so I need to make a decision today and I need all of your suggestions so I can make a decision.
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J.S.

answers from Chicago on

Honey, no one can tell you what birth control to use. Nothing is worse than thinking you're pregnant because you skipped a pill.

If you're happy with condoms, then stick with that.

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☆.A.

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There's an old saying: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

If YOU are happy with what you're currently using and you can live with the effectiveness of condoms, WHY do you need another method? Just because your OB says HE thinks you should?

Now, if you absolutely do not want more kids--look at a permanent solution--vasectomy being the simplest, cheapest and least invasive option, IMO.

What concerns me a bit is your trial-and-error with SO many methods...is that because you're sure you're done having kids? If so--go permanent. OR be open to the fact that you may have O. or more additional kids.

Either way--your personal choice.
Good luck!

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M.M.

answers from Philadelphia on

I love NFP. It is largely misunderstood, but worth checking out. It is almost 100% effective and all natural. My body cannot take foreigners such as chemicals and devices. My marriage has benefitted tremendously. Apprarently, in an informal survey, the divorce rate for couples who practice this method is 1%.

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C.P.

answers from Columbia on

If you're completely done having kids...ask the hubby to get a vasectomy.

It is the least invasive and safest proceedure for you both. No hormones, no wires or plastic in your body, no side effects.

If you're not done having kids...I've heard GREAT things about the Copper T IUD. I also have major problems with hormonal birth control messing up my cycles, but the love of my life has had a vasectomy. If he hadn't, I'd get the Copper T because there are no hormones and they last a long time with no side effects. If your doctor is trying to sell you on a specific hormonal birth control after you've told him you don't want hormones...find a new doctor.

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D.B.

answers from Dallas on

You absolutely do not have to make a decision today! If you are not sure if this BC method is right for you, you can take another month to make the decision. Keep using condoms for one more month. And if you don't like this OB's pushy ways, then go see a different OB for another opinion. Something to consider is that you do seem to be sensitive to BC hormones, so you'll probably have similar side effects as the other methods you've tried. Bottom line though, don't feel pressured to make a decision today. That's an artificial deadline that doesn't make any sense.

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C.J.

answers from Dallas on

I second your decision. I just don't do well with any kind of chemical in my system and go the condom route. It is easy, safe and in a few months my hubby is having the big V anyways. . .
WHICH if you are finished - i'd talk to him about taking care of your birth control moving forward:)

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M.M.

answers from Chicago on

Are you done having kids?
If you are, consider Essure or Adiana.

I just had Essure done on Monday. It's permanent, and not reversible. It was a piece of cake! I'll go back to get tested to make sure my tubes are blocked in 3 months, and once I have the confirmation, I'm good.
No more birth control anything needed, ever.
No hormones, no IUDs, no condoms...nothing.

For what it's worth, I've been on the pill for almost 15 yrs (except for my 2 kids) and it's mostly been fine. No accidents. But I'm tired of the hormone fluctuations. Seem to be getting worse with age (I'm 34), and I've had to switch pills a couple of times due to migraines.

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✤.J.

answers from Dover on

Pretty much all medications will have the possibility of side effects, you just have to go into it with as much information as you can gather to make an informed decision.

I'm confused by what you mean when you say your mother "doesn't believe in the pill"....? I mean, it's a real thing. It works great for a lot of women out there. The side effects are generally no more or less than some of the other types of birth control you've tried in the past.

If it was me, I'd give it a shot, at least for a few months. Put the pill case somewhere you'll see it at the same time every day to remind you to take it, like right on your nightstand. Or, if that doesn't work, set an alarm on your cell phone to remind you to take it at the same time every day.

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H.G.

answers from Dallas on

I have the copper IUD and I love it. Its as effective as a tubal and lasts over 10 years. What's not to love?? Yes at first my periods were heavier but I adjusted and I've never had non stop bleeding. Everyone is different but but I've had good luck with it once I adjusted to it. Insertion was very painful for me but after a day or two I was fine. Research it too. I can't take anything with hormones so its been great! Good luck!

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G.B.

answers from Oklahoma City on

If you are adamant that you don't want to take a chance on pregnancy then do something that does it for you like the Nuva ring or some other kind of longer term method. I would say that the Nuva Ring is the best option since it is not internal.

Talk with the doc about that option and the issues you were having with it. They may have had some that were misshapen or something.

The other option is to set your cell phone to do a daily alarm at...say 10am. Every day for eternity. It is "take you birth control pill time" is what you name it. Once you develop the habit of stopping what you are doing and going right then to take it you will have that habit and it will become less of an issue. I set mine for the right time and then another one a little bit later in case I am distracted and forget to go do it on time. This is necessary when you are trying to develop new habits.

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A.G.

answers from Orlando on

I also never wanted to take anything with hormones and opted for a copper IUD. It is different than Mirena because no hormones which is probably what was causing the cysts to grow.

Good luck!
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T.S.

answers from Washington DC on

In terms of side effects, you'll probably notice they are the same as what you experienced on the NuvaRing. It's the same medication just a different delivery method.

I have Mirena and love it, but if it CAUSED your cysts, it's obviously off the table.

If your only worry about the pill is forgetting it, I think you could probably find a way to remember. Take it at the same time every day, along with something you never forget... (for me, that would mean putting the case on top of the coffee pot!) It'll be tough to remember for the first month, but once you're in the habit you'll be fine.

I.W.

answers from Portland on

I am on the pill & to keep myself from forgetting, I put my toothbrush on top of the case so its right there in front of me & I can't miss it. I take it at night & that helped with nausea, which was the only side effect I had. That only lasted a week.

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T.O.

answers from Jacksonville on

Condemn can fail or easily get holes in them if not properly stored, no in wallet. For the pill i suggest taking it right before bed. It was easier on my stomach and i FORGOT alot less. I liked the Yaz birth control but it is made for severe PMS and heavy bleeding. Its also, helps the major bloating. The major side effect it can have is raising your potassum levels. I couldnt eat bananas or other things like that everyday but occasionally or I would feel sick.

Forget the patch, not as great as the pill and it made me breakout in the spot where the patch was.

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