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Biracial Hair Care

I am white, my husband is black, and our daughter has hair with tight curls. We had been keeping it cut, because my husband likes her to wash her hair every day, but that makes her look boyish so now we're letting it grow. It's tough to comb out, but I don't want to do corn rows. She's 6, and will wear headbands for a while but then take them off. Any suggestions? Thanks!

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Thanks to everybody for answering my question about bi-racial hair care! I had several specific suggestions that I'll be following up on. Some of them were common sense (like "look for a little girl whose hair you like and ask her mother how she cares for it"), but it hadn't occurred to me!

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What ever you do. DO NOT PUT A RELAXER in her hair. My daughter is biracial. The biggest mistake i ever did was put one in her hair.

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Have you tried thinning it out. Pluse my Daughter uses a cream on her daughters hair which is the same way. Her Daughters are biracial & have the hair of the black race. When I was a beautician I never worked on hair except my granddaughters hair. First I would try thinning & perming. Not the perms with the curlers but you just put it on the hair & leave for a certain aount of time & wash out. If you need more I can call my Ganddaughter & have her send you an email of how she takes care of her hair.

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D., Infusion 23 has a leavin condition that is great and won't hurt to just put in a spray bottle and add a little water this way u can message into the scalp so the she don't have all of the breakage and dry scalp also u can put her hair up in little pig tales all over cause little girls like that kinda stuff and u can french braid as well hope this helps CindyB

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DO NOT WASH HER HAIR EVERY DAY! BIG MISTAKE, Your husband should know better. Her hair is prone to dryness due to natural scalp oil not being able to flow as easily around the bends and curves of her curls. You will need to buy a good brush, find a good leave-in moisturizer (meaning you don't rinse it out), and use a moisturing shampoo/conditioner that preferably has an oil like jojaba. If that's too hard to find, purchase the oil separately and add it to the shampoo, or just work a few drops into her hair after towel-drying. Coconut oil is a great softener and moisturizer for everyone. Blond people also tend to have dry hair, so you want to ask a blond girlfriend if she has any recommendations for you. Ask your curly-haired girlfriends for brush/comb, and conditioner recommendations. You may even want to consider products to reduce frizz. FIND A GOOD AFRICAN AMERICAN HAIRDRESSER that you can use for special occaisions and give you more personalized advice to care for your child's hair. Resist perming, aka "a relaxer" to chemically straighten hair until she is at least 10. I'm so glad that you asked for help because whenever I see a mixed race child (Black/White), I can always tell when the mother is white because the childs hair is unfortunately and usually unkempt. She's at a loss and clearly doesn't know what to do and no one will tell her. Look at black little girls' hair when you are out and about, and when you see a style you like ask the mother for advice.

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I use to be a Cosmetologist and I have biracial nieces in my family and I strongly suggest., Start using leave-in conditioners and oil her scalp weekly after washing it. She doesn't need her hair shampooed daily, like you said she is part black right?

Weekly shampooing is good with daily spray leave in conditioner and oiling the scalp. Comb it immediately after shampooing with a wide tooth comb and do big braids or blow dry out with a moisturizer. Do not brush after brushing this will leave split ends. Always comb from bottom up to roots.

In the long run, I would advise you to start investing in a regular visit to the beauty shop for care maintenance and PLEASE OH PLEASE, don't let anyone talk you into RELAXING, PERMING her hair until after she is pass 10 years old. Her hair texture is still changing until pubity.

I hope this helps.
Mz. J

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I also have a six year old daughter with curly biracial hair.
I wash her hair once a week and use a leave in conditioner.
Daily I use Johnson's no more tangles spray detangler and also Silken child silk moisturizing Creme(from sally's)
I brush with a bristle brush and then comb the curls with a wide comb!
I usually do pig-tails, or pony-tails to keep the hair from tangling and hold together with goody ouchless rubberbands and attached ribbons or bows.
Also the lotion smells really good!!

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What ever you do. DO NOT PUT A RELAXER in her hair. My daughter is biracial. The biggest mistake i ever did was put one in her hair.

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As for her hair, you can get some of the "no more tangles" and apply it to her hair each day. It is a hair lotion for kids that works very good. It will allow to to comb her and style it how you would like. There are other hair lotions that can be used in her hair and you will find it to be very helpful. Also there are leave-in conditioners that you can use for her hair. never let anyone perm her hair because that will damage it. I don't recommend no one using perms these days. Also be careful with some of the hair care products that you use in her hair. Keeping her hair healthy and managable is all you need to focus on right now.

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Hi D.,
I am also married to a black man, and we have 3 daughters. I can tell you that it is not healthy for their hair to be washed every day. Try every 2 days. I use olive oil in my girls hair, and it works very well. Have you tried to put your daughters hair in platts? Or even twist?? Im not sure where you live but there is a good hair place to take your daughter, it is called Ebony Hair, it is located off of Veterians Memorial and Antoine, in the parking lot of Food Town. if you have anymore questions please feel free to contact me @ ____@____.com
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I worked at a daycare for a long time and we had a little girl in your daughters sitution. Dad was black and a dad and had no idea what to do with her hair, and mom was white and had no idea how to work with it. they found that they make a detangler for that kind of hair. you may have to go to a store like sally's to get it but they make it. they also learned to wash her hair with like pantene dark and natural, i think its called, and extra condition it. her hair was always short, but once they started to let it grow they found out as it got longer, the kinks kinda relaxed some and she really had beautiful hair. i hope i helped. good luck!!

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I have tried all sorts of hair care products becausee of my (bi-racial) hair texture Whatever you do DO NOT wash your daughther's hair daily it will dry it out and look more frizzy. I would recommend a moisturizing shampoo, conditioner and a leave-in conditioner. A great product at Sally's Beauty Supply is called Silky elements leave-in conditioner. I use it, my children (who have Caucasian hair)use it and my nieces (who are bi-racial) use it and can be used daily if needed. Costs is $4.99 and lasts aprox 6months. Do not add any chemicals to her hair.

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D.,
I have a biracial daughter and I myself am white and her Dad has never been in the pic so I have been on my own with hair care for a long time she will be 12 this month. I've had a lot of trial and errors. It has been awhile but we used to do half braids on the top of her head it isn't as costly as doing micro braiding and very cute for special occasions.
She doesn't wash her hair daily nor do I. She got it really bad because I have naturally curly hair as well so she was out of luck. We condition our hair daily and wash our hair 2 to 3x a week depending what we do that could get are hair extra dirty.
This is are daily regiment for her hair.
Condition hair with Biolage Conditioning Balm in shower
We use Just for me 2 in 1 conditioning detangler (I can only find this at walmart) Then comb through hair and
Then we use Tresemme flawless curls mousse
Then we use Tresemme Bouncy curls gel
and then we put a small amount of silk drops by Regis for a little shine. All while her hair is still damp
I have had lots advice on her hair and products we should use but these are the products that have worked best for us for a couple of years now.
Occasionally I will take her to have her hair flat ironed. I've tried doing it myself but it becomes to stressful for her and I but it gives her a new look.
I read some negative feedback on relaxers but I have put them on my daughters hair for a long time like every six months not for long time just enough to loosen the curl so it easier to comb through. I use the Just for me no lye relaxer also from walmart.
Hope this helps.
Good Luck

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I have no suggestions for you but we are attempting to adopt a bi-racial little girl (5 yrs old). This is information that I need to know, in case. I look forward to all of the suggestions.

Hi I my self deal with this issue daily. I have bi-racial hair and there are a lot of products that I have found that are great. You really should not wash her hair every day it dries it out and can lead to breakage. If your husband still insists on washing her hair every day don’t shampoo it just use the conditioner her hair is still getting clean and rehydrated. Try using a wide tooth comb and a leave in conditioner for easier brushing. My favorite products for my hair and my daughter (who has the same problem) is Paul Michaels Super-skinny relaxing balm. You can get it at most salons. It is about $13.00 but a little goes a long way. My hair is down to the middle of my back and one 6.8oz container lasts me up to 3 months. On the days that you don’t wash her hair just spriz a little water on her hair and it will reactivate the product that’s in there. Another thing that really helps my hair is doing a deep conditioning every two weeks. It keeps my hair super soft and manageable. The longer it gets some of the kink should let up. I will also say stay away from any product that has any kind of alcohol base to it, it will dry out her hair and cause more breakage. Other then that play with products, there are so many out there now days. When I was a kid the only thing they had was pink and Pink smells to me. Good Luck

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