S.S. asks from Chicago, IL on March 12, 2010
Being Full Time Working Mom, How to Take Care of 2 Kids.
I have a 2 year old son and I am expecting my second child soon. I am a full time working mom and cannot leave my job too.
And if I send two kids to the day care, it will be very expensive. Can anybody recommend me what should I do in this case? Should I keep a nanny or is there any other less expensive option to take care of two kids.
B.P. answers from Boston on March 15, 2010
I agree with Chris G. I know many people have considered Au Pair programs because of flexible schedules, you can have more control over child care activities and they can even help with other household need. For the cost, I've researched and on average the weekly cost of having an Au Pair is less than other childcare options. Well, you can find more information at www.goaupair.com
Hope that helps!!
P.S. answers from Chicago on March 14, 2010
I was originally going to be supportive like most of the other people responding to your question but after seeing the question you posted one day earlier I just can’t be supportive. How can you ask others to give you advice about daycare for two young children and just one day before you asked about information on two very high priced minivans? Yes daycare is costly especially for young children and even more for a newborn. As I see this from the outside you seem to be a bit selfish the care of your children should be the most important question on your mind not on how to afford both daycare and a car note. Try keeping the vehicle that you have now even if it is a tight squeeze and use the money you will be saving on day care you need for your newborn. The best care for your children is of course yourself but if this is not possible try to minimize the daily and chaotic travel to and from your home and the daycare center by bringing someone into your home to care for them. You can always keep a watch on your kids through a video cam in your office, that way you can keep a close watch on the kids and the person taking care of your baby and still catch those special moments like the first time they say a word, walk, crawl, etc. Please forgive me if I sound a bit harsh but take it from me I chose to work after I had my first two kids and felt so guilty for it, even though it was their grandmas that took care of them. Ten years later when I had the third and later the fourth I chose to stay home with them because I realized that those precious moments you have with them will go by really, really fast and no amount of money or work experience can give them back to you. The older kids are now adults and they always say that I did the best thing for them when they were very young because they got to know their grandmas and create a special bond with both of them (they are now both gone) and when they really needed me in their teen years I was there for them so no matter what you choose just remember that your kids will be happy if you are happy so don’t over burden yourself by creating further debt. Hope this helps.
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R.R. answers from Chicago on March 13, 2010
Have you considered home day cares? They are more affordable with smaller ratios and can be flexible too. I know for me I take care of a couple of children out of my house and offer a competitive daily rate that is very flexible with my parent's schedules. Look around your area or ask on this website- I am sure someone knows of a good place.
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S.S. answers from Daytona Beach on March 12, 2010
i have 2 kids too. expenses aren't as much here as they are where you live and prob the pay isn't as good either. but my husband and i figured out that with daycare for 2 kids plus lunch, gas to work, plus lunch for me and other expenses for work clothes, etc. it was actually cheaper for me to stay home. there were some adjustments to eating out and buying ourselves things but it's worked out (my husband has good insurance). if you can't stay home bc your job is better maybe the father (if he's in the pic?) can stay home instead? if it's not possible than they do have agencies w/ background checks, etc. you can look into those. or go the ymca. they offer babysitting classes so maybe you can check there for people who are looking to babysit.
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A.M. answers from Dallas on March 12, 2010
Hi look into getting your kids into A. inhome daycare that is registered with the state. I couldn't afford the national chains and the inhome daycare I found turned out to be a gift from heaven. Not only were the number of kids much smaller reducing the amount of times my kids were sick, her home was in my neighborhood, she made homecooked meals to feed them everyday, and her price was 1/3 for both kids the price I was paying for 1 kid. I was very fortunate so I hope you have the same luck.
Here is the TX website.
Look for a registered child care provider.
Being registered with the state means that state inspectors visit their home at least twice a year to check to make sure they are operating within proper guidelines. And they have to take all the classes in child care and know cpr.
Enter just the city, county, and zip to get a full list of child care providers.
You should visit the home and interview each one you are thinking about sending your kids too. And ask the parents of the other children what they think of the daycare lady.
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P.F. answers from Peoria on March 13, 2010
Congratulations on having a second baby! The higher day care expenses will be for a short time until your children are school age but that doesn't help you right now. I don't know if your employer offers flexible spending for childcare which is a tax savings account set aside for daycare. It could help a little. Another thought is to look at other expenses that you have to see if you can reduce them like insurance by raising deductibles or changing insurance providers. I love Clark Howard's advice about money and you can check it out CNN or online. He has many ideas on saving money which could help with your childcare costs.
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A.S. answers from Chicago on March 12, 2010
I know probably not what you want to hear, but when I had my second I had to stay home. I would have been bringing home about $100 a week after daycare costs for two and with the commuting and all the expenses that working incurs, it just wasn't worth it. It has been tight, but we have made do, for the most part.
T.K. answers from Springfield on March 12, 2010
I am a grandma now, but I was in the same situation when my kids were young. I was able to find a sitter that would take both of them until both were able to get into a day care situation. Now, there are day cares that take babies. I would think a day care would be less expensive than a nanny. We actually had a couple of sitters in those three years (one was a daughter of a good friend who came to our home but it turned out to be a less desirable situation because she let my baby sleep all day--make it necessary for me to be up until 2:00 a.m. some nights--and she spent a lot of time doing her own laundry, etc. instead of taking appropriate care of my children). Just use good judgment in selecting your day care or sitter. You can do it; it just takes patience and hard work, which you need when you have kids anyway!
K.S. answers from Chicago on March 13, 2010
if you have the space, an au pair is more economical than a nanny