Bedwetting - Deltona,FL

Hi K. my 9 year old also wets. I did the alarm program and it worked for a while but went back to wetting recently. They say it's a sleep disorder, since she is such a deep sleeper, she doesn't wake up to go bathroom. In my case, on my mom's side of the family, she was a bed wetter and so were my siblings, for some reason I wasn't, my mom stopped at 15, my sister at 14, by brother at 12 I think and my other sis at 9, {she's more of a night owl} You may want to ask your family if it is just hederitary. I'm going to try the nose spray also for her, I've heard it works.
N.

I have a daughter that had a problem wetting the bed and the doctors did test. It came back that the tube from her bladder was no big enough so they did outpatiet to fix it for now. I had the same problem as a child. Did they try putting her on Phenazopyridine(Pyridium)? They tried mine on that first and she stopped wetting the bed so they did the surgery. I would get a second doctor to check her. Something is going on somewhere.

Hey K.-I do not want to alarm you either, but, my 9 yo son is a bed wetter and we never understood why. He would say I do not feel that I am going to the bathroom until it is too late (he would wake up after he wet and want to get changed. We did the no fluids two hours before bed and of course it lessened, but, it really did not ever solve the problem. Well, this week he was diagnosed with epilepsy it seems as though the seizures come more when he is sleeping. When you are seizuring you lose control of yourself and often wet, so, we are thinking this may explain his bedwetting and him not knowing. Again, this info is not to alarm you, but, let you know that you may want to speak to a nuerologist as well. We are seeing Dr. Cimino at Omni in Melbourne. I hope all goes well.

Perhaps another doctor for 2nd opinion? My mom-in-law wet the bed her entire life until after her 3rd child, my husband, was born. Apparantly he did something while he was in there to fix her. No Dr explanation. But apparantly it runs in families because my hubby did until he went in the Army. All of his children had this problem. My 6yo girl still does. She has to wear Good Nites. She sleeps very soundly. Maybe a therapist could at least help with the self esteem issues if it is definitely not physical, but many times it is. I would definitley go for the 2nd even 3rd-4th opinion. I have a friend who had a serious bladder problem involving pain. She was 12 before they found a Dr who knew what he was doing. She had surgery and it was corrected.

I used to work for a urologist,and I was wondering if you checked to see if she had a undersized bladder? Ironically my son is 7 and has the same problem, he has never had a dry night...and I am getting ready to make an appt. to rule that out!!

My son wet the bed up into his teens. The urologist said he was fine but prescribed him a nose spray to slow down the bladder at night. It helped him so much. He could stay over at his friends' house without fear of embarrassment. As he got older, he quit using it and found that he didn't wet any more.

Hello K. F!
I am now 31 and wet the bed most of my life (constantly until age 18...and then occasionally until 2 years ago)...
Turns out I have "incomplete bladder emptying" or urinary retention and diminished sensation- so I seriously don't feel that there is anything there...The doc put me on one of the meds for this problem (before doing anything invasive to check the structure of my urinary system) and after 6 months on it I have been off of it for a full year and haven't had another problem...There are lots of options...
My folks pulled their hair out trying everything when I was younger- the alarm, fluid restriction, waking me every hour, even tofranil (an "old school" antidepressant) and nothing helped...Now we know the problem is physiological/biological...My problem also got worse for about 6 months before I was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes (at 17)- but is not related to my diabetes.
Also- alot of times bedwetting can be genetic...My birthmom and most of my biological siblings were bedwetters...
You should take her to see a urologist as soon as possible.
I like Florida Urology- they have a few locations(cape, bonita, lehigh acres, ft. myers) but their general number is ###-###-####. When you talk to the appointment person you can ask to see a doc that specializes in this sort of thing or someone who a teenage girl will be comfortable with...I've gone to them, my mom has gone to them, and I've even taken my son (when he was 2 and having circumcision scarring issues) to them- we all see Dr. Harrison and love him (he's a guy, which can be an issue with a girl, but his nurse is a sweetheart and always present)...
Being a bedwetter sucks, and totally screws with a person's self-esteem. Knowing that it's not her fault is really important in restoring her self-worth.
Please don't shame her or make her feel guilty...The best way (IN ADDITION TO A UROLOGY APPT!!!) is to let her take responsibility for her accidents- show her how to work the laundry and let her be responsible for washing her sheets/pjs etc (also -plastic sheets on the bed suck- might want to buy a couple of mattress covers that are padded and waterproof or those flannel covered "lap pads" that they have for cribs...even adult incontinence products can come in handy...may even allow sleepovers as many are effective and discreet...) and don't "notice" when she goes to do them - at least not in a "so you had another accident..." way...better to say (occasionally)- "you are doing a good job"...This stuff won't fix/cure the problem but can make it more manageable, but you need to call her pediatrician for a referral to a urologist or call the urology folks immediately.
Bedwetting put a huge strain on my relationship with my parents (and on their relationship) ...I would hate to see that happen to someone else's family!
Until then
Hope this helps!
Good luck!

I have a brother who wet his bed as long as I remember. As far as I know he still does. My mom used the alarm pad, it didn't work. She tried getting him up early and he would pee in bed after being woke up. She also tried repeated wakeups wich worked but my mom eventually decided he needed to get up on his own. That didn't work. Mostly we think he is a hard sleeper and too lazy to getup. I don't know if that's a good assessment. I don't think most bedwetters are lazy, I think it's more likely some other underlying problem.

I stopped wetting the bed when I was about 7. It was very embarrassing, and my mom was pretty mean about it (which could contribute to my brother still wetting.) She would ask me why I kept peeing and I would tell her that I couldn't feel it. She never believed me, insisted I was just lazy, but I really couldn't feel it. I did out grow it. Probably more out of fear then anything. I remember having a couple accidents even after I was 7 and I would get up as soon as it happened and put the bedding in the wash and change sheets before anyone got up. I didn't want my mom to find out. It really is emabarrassing to have a weting problem.

Like many others said I would have her take some counseling. Try to find out if anything is causing it, or if it's something else. Just don't be mean about it, it's emabarrassing enough just having a wetting problem.

heya K. ~ we had this problem w/ our 8 yr old boy ~ we took him to the chiropractor ~ she did some adjustments on him & set him up on a "diet" ~ to help his body rid itself of toxins & it worked wonders!! ~ no more bed wetting :c) ~ good luck ~

Hi K.!

I have a 10 year old son that has a bedwetting problem and has had this for years. we also did the alarm thing didn't work for us either. We took him to a urologist and they put him on Oxybutin, but the key is to go every 2 hours so by the time bedtime comes around his bladder is empty. No drinking 2 hours before bedtime which for Kyle is always a problem, we have had a 80% sucess rate with this, still in the "goodnights"for my own sanity, hopefully one day he will be out of this stage. I can sympathize with you on this.

H.

have you gotten a few opinions medically?
how about a child psychologist (if anything this will help at least with the self-esteem issues, if not any underlying issues)?

At age 13, I would recommend you take her to a psychiatrist to try to find out if the cause is psychological, since medical reasons have not been found for the problem.

The obvious solution in the short-term would be for her to avoid drinking fluids 2 hrs before bedtime and also to set an alarm clock to get up on a schedule during the night and go to the bathroom whether she feels like she needs to or not, (like every 2 or 3 hours.)

Hi K., my sister had a similar problem ahowever it was due to extreme reasons. Please don't get alarmed and I am not insinuating anything. my sister would constantly ask my niece why she would wet the bed but she wouldn't say anything. My niece was afraid to tell her that her boyfriend her stepfather was the reason. She didn't want to get up and bump into him in the middle of the night becaus ehe would walk around or lay in the living room naked...on top of it he would say nasty things to her. She wanted to avoid him so bad that she would end up urinating on herself becaus eshe couldn't hold it anymore. When my niece told me this I immediately threw him out of my sisters house myself. After that problem solved. My question to you is...is she scared of something that she does not want to get up and see? Is there enough lighting in the house? Talk to her and if she won't speak ask someone close to her to talk to her. Good Luck sweetie.

Hi K.,
I am a child and family therapist and I have had many cases like this before. I would suggest if you have ruled out medical problems, then take her to see a child psychologist for an evaluation.
Good luck!
Diva

I do not have a child who is a bedwetter but I was one and I think that you need to look into it not only from the physical aspect but the psychological aspect. Is your relationship ok with your child? Has they child suffer any traumas? I do not want to alarm you but just consider everything out there. At the age of 13 it might even be something to do with peer pressure, acceptance, self esteem.............Good Luck

Im so glad someone has brought up this issue. My son is 13. He still has accidents every now and then. It is getting better. I was told that in his case, it is probably hereditary, as I had the same problem. As did two of his uncles. Our doctor had mentioned a pill that he could take. It would prevent him from wetting but not cure the problem. I dont want to cover up the problem but find a way to prevent it on our own. He does sleep over friends houses now and again. He brings his own sleeping bag. They dont sleep a whole lot at sleep overs at this age either. He doesnt fit into the good-nights anymore which was a big part of his routine for a while. We dont make a big deal about it as I know what he is going through and it is not his fault. We had also tried the no drinks a few hours before bed. It is hard to tell my child he cant have a drink if he is thirsty, but he also knows there could be a consequence if he does take that drink. I know it will stop. There is nothing medically wrong with him. Thats the first thing to be checked. With me, all of a sudden it just stopped. I am hoping it will be the same with my son. And your daughter as well. good luck

I would explore natural solutions and homeopathic remedies if they are out there (if you have ruled out psychological). Does she take vitamins, exercise regularly?

pam

Speaking with experience, one of my children responded to being woke up in the middle of the night. We tried once every night, still woke up wet. Then we tried twice a night,that worked great, until he was in the routine and started getting up on his own. The other child still did not respond. We just had to ignore it. I would have alot of laundry, but I would just get him up earlier than the others and get him in the shower. I bought a plastic cover for the mattress and three cotton absorbing tpye sheet and his bladder finally grew to fit his body and he just snapped out of it. My siblings and I had this problem as well and my mom would send us to school smelling like pee and that was so mean. The other kids could smell it.I the oldest took it upon myself to get an alarm clock and would get myself up every night, and would get up early every morning put my brother and sister in the bath before I would start breakfast.She would get them clean while I did breakfast.This to did end. As we got older it just stopped.I truely understand the hurt and frustration, but just ignoring it and adding it to your routine like brushing your teeth really did help.Sleep overs. Sending there own sleeping bag and a pair of the bed wetters underwear will do wonders.God Bless you and your daughter. Patience, patience, and more patience.

Hi K.
I am having the same problem with my son who justed turned 8 y/o 2 days ago. He has always been like that. I have 2 older boys and I never had this problem. The same thing, they don't find anything medically wrong with him. I have tried to get him up in the middle of the night to no avail. He is a very heavy sleeper & he won't get up. I have gotten him up myself & i have walked him to the toilet but he is still sleeping & doesn't do anything. My husband died in a car accident 2 years ago & I have been taken my kids to a psychiatrist & are under medication for ADDHD which I have found has helped them alot. They concentrate more in school & there accademic grades have gotten 90% better. But he does not urinate as much as before. He still has accidents here & there. I would really suggest you take your child for therapy & see what the therapist says. I wish you the best of luck. I know its a pain because we have to wash sheets, comforter, pillows & their clothes. I understand you my friend. Let me know the outcome & good luck.
R.