S.W. asks from Litchfield, MN on September 09, 2009
Bed Time for a 10 Year Old
I am just wondering what time you put your 10 year old to bed. She currently goes to be around 8:00 but she thinks she should be able to stay up later. I put my 8 year old to bed at the same time. We get up around 6:00 in the morning. Just wondering your thought on this.
K.R. answers from Minneapolis on September 11, 2009
My 9 year old goes to bed at 8:30 and gets up at 6:30 weekdays. My 11 year old goes to bed at 9 and gets up at 6:30. Hope this helps.
J.F. answers from Madison on September 11, 2009
K.P. answers from Fargo on September 10, 2009
Just curious, when does SHE think she needs to go to bed?
We have had similar issues (two girls - two years apart). What has worked well for us is a dialogue where we discussed:
- the total amount of sleep that is needed each night (we wound up with a different plan for weekends, Sunday, and nights before "important" tests)
- what time she thinks is right
- what time I think is right
We agreed that all opinions would be considered, and that what was decided would be re-evaluated after a few weeks, just to be sure it was working.
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J.H. answers from Minneapolis on September 10, 2009
I've struggled with this also, except I have a 12 year old, 10 year old and 15 month old.
What I've found out is that my kids NEED their sleep. The very few occassions where they stay up (whether on their own or because of poor choices) closer to 9 pm, they are total crabby bears within two days!
I know other moms will probably call me mean, but some days I send both of them to bed at 7:30. I know that they both are usually still awake until at least 8 anyway and this way I am assured that they are calming down for the night and should be asleep by 8:30 at the latest.
Kids need their sleep. I've had teachers comment when my 10 year old is choosing to stay up and not get to bed, much less the fighting I have to deal with the next day.
It also doesn't help that when they go to their mom's they don't go to bed until 10 or later either.
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C.O. answers from Minneapolis on September 09, 2009
I think that depends on a lot of factors:
Does she go to sleep quickly after bedtime?
Does she wake up happy and energetic, or is she slow and groggy?
How is her attitude in general?
Most kids her age (between 7- and 11-years old) need 10-11 hours of sleep. My almost-7-year-old needs more, and will usually sleep from 8pm-9am. Some kids can function perfectly on way less.
If your daughter is generally happy, falls asleep and wakes up easily, it probably couldn't hurt to bump her bed time back 15 minutes or a half hour. At that age, it's mostly about control anyway. They want to be able to make some decisions about things in their life. If it doesn't work, got back to the old time.
T.R. answers from Rochester on September 20, 2009
Wow I realized I send my 10 year old to bed way later and she should feel privileged. She has been going to bed between 9:00-9:30 since she was 5. We always tried to send her to bed earlier but she would never go to sleep. And right now she's not done with soccer practice until 7:00 and has homework plus lots of nights I don't get home from work until after 6 or 7. I think like others have said it depends on the kid. Because she goes to bed late on Fri & Sat but still wakes up on her own by 7:00 almost every morning. So obviously she doesn't need the 10 hours or more they say she should have.
B.H. answers from Minneapolis on September 09, 2009
My daughter's bedtime has always been 9pm not to say we always follow that through. We have alot to cram in after school and alot of the time we go past 9pm. But... her bus doesn't come til 9am so she does get to sleep in til 8:15 most mornings. It's been like this since kindergarten and she's now in 2nd grade.
A. answers from Minneapolis on September 10, 2009
My 9 year old goes to bed at 8:00 on school nights, she also has to be up at 6:00. Next year when she's in 5th grade, she won't have to get up until 7:00, that's when I'll push her bedtime back by an hour.
K.B. answers from Minneapolis on September 09, 2009
My kids always go to bed at 8pm on school nights. My oldest just started 6th grade (will be 12 next month) and she has to get up at 6am. My son just started Kindergarten (will be 6 next month) and also goes to bed at 8pm. My son may go to bed earlier depending on how crabby he is...
L.P. answers from Des Moines on September 10, 2009
My 9 year old goes to bed this year at 8:30, sometimes she will go to bed earlier on her own if she is tired. She gets up at 7. Last year she was in bed by 8 every night.