Baby's Name

Hi. My husband and I had 2 miscarriages before finally conceiving our second child. We believe that the spirit of the baby is truly coming into your life and that sometimes along the way the time is not right and the pregnancy is terminated. What if that same little spirit has returned at a more appropriate time and it is the name he wants to be given? I wouldn't get too caught up in superstitious feelings that this baby won't be healthy or something because he has the same name. You like the name and want it to be. It has not "been" yet.....so if you both agree I would go for it!

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Hi, and congrats on your pregnancy, I read in a "new agey" book, after I miscarried 2 years ago that helped me heal from the loss, that there is a circle of souls around you that are waiting to be born and so quite possibly the soul that you are carrying now could be the same soul that was your first pregnancy hence you would naming him his original name- so I know it is a little out there but it is an idea that seems cool and maybe is true, so I don't think it is bad at all to name your baby Andrew, and if it is not true than his little brother will be honored to be named the name you were considerering for his brother
take care

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This isn't exactly the same situation, but it's close. I'm an adoptive parent of 3 children. Before my middle child came into our family, we had a newborn baby stay with us for a month before his birth mother changed her mind and took him back. Needless to say, I was devastated. Six months later, a new situation presented itself, and the new birth mother wanted to be involved in choosing the name. The name she chose was the same name I had given the baby who was taken back, but with a different middle name. Ultimately I felt like it was a good solution - the new child had a perfect name agreed on by everyone, and I somehow felt that the child I lost was being remembered as well. Just follow your heart and everything will work out. The baby you lost will always have a special place in your heart, no matter what you decide.

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K.,
Blessings on your milestone pregnancy! It would be an honor to your first unborn child to choose the same name - boldly step into this choice. My best friend lost her first baby at full term, a boy. She went on, thankfully, to birth 3 more (all were IVF after several years of fertility issues). Once the twins were a year old, she got pregnant naturally! They chose to name this miracle baby the same name as the first baby, and what a great choice! It feels like the first baby is deeply honored.

best of luck to you on this amazing journey!

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I think it's a wonderful idea to honor and remember the baby you lost. Congrats on your current pregnancy. I named my now 4 year old Andrew, it's a great name!

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hi, K.,
I am sorry for your miscarriage, but also, congrats on the latest pregnancy! I had a similar thing happen. I lost my first pregnancy while we were debating names. I wanted to name our child Vladimir if it was a boy ( I lost the pregnancy too early to tell if it was a girl or a boy). My husband was not sold on the name yet, but when I miscarried, I was very sad and one of the ways he comforted me was to tell me that we would get pregnant again and we would have the Vladimir that I wanted. so when I got pregnant a second time and found out it was a boy, the name was already chosen! What is REALLY weird is that two months after I miscarried, I had a vision about the baby. It was not really like a dream, it was too oddly vivid for that. I dreamt that I went somewhere and saw the baby in something like an oven with a caretaker inside. There was also a nurse or someone like this overseeing the "oven". I went to talk to the baby and the baby asked me, "hey, are you my mom?" I introduced myself and pointed out my husband further away. The nurse came over and said that the baby wasn't ready yet, so I had to wait and I should leave now, because the baby needed to rest and get ready. It was really bizarre. And I had a slight feeling that the baby was a boy, even though it was not clear in the dream. my personal feeeling is that the spirit of the baby was the same as the first baby. his body was just not ready, which was why I miscarried. I hope you have a great pregnancy and good luck!

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