A.C. asks from Novato, CA on February 19, 2009
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N.C. answers from Sacramento on February 20, 2009
Good for you for not letting her cry it out, it is so sad when mom's do this no matter how much they swear by it. Their pitiful cries make my heart break. I tried it once and her cry got so, not upset, but almost like she was giving up. How old is your baby? Depending on the age depends on how to approach it. Are you doing a routine so she has her sleep cues and you know them? If you are not in a routine I suggest trying that first. Babies thrive on routine's and if she isn't on one now is the time to start. Good luck. Sorry I couldn't help more, but without your babies age the advice is kind of hard to give.
N.A. answers from San Francisco on February 20, 2009
Hi A.,
The reasons why our babies have problems sleeping is because they are either not getting enough nutrition during the day or their little bodies are trying to regulate their body temperature and having problems doing it.
I put my granddaughter on a sleepsytem when she was 2 day old and she never had problems sleeping through the night.
If you would like more info let me know.
Have a great weekend.
N. Marie
M.S. answers from Sacramento on February 20, 2009
I don't who you are referring to, but I know that "The Sleep Lady.com" is supposed to be great. I used some of her advice when she was on tv a long time ago, and it worked terrificly. What I have found is the training is for the parents more than for the kids, although that is the end result.
Good luck and keep it up. YOu will get through this.
S.H. answers from San Francisco on February 20, 2009
Hi, If I were you I would use a local sleep consultant so you could actually meet with them in person. We used Meg Zweibeck in Oakland and it was expensive but life and sanity saving. It was the best money we ever spent. We also felt strongly that the cry it out method wasn't suited for us or our baby and wanted to figure out how to do it a different way. Meg gathered info from us about our daughter's temperament and sleep habits and what we as parents felt comfortable doing and then she helped us to help our daughter sleep through the night. She is now a fabulous sleeper. Feel free to also send me a message privately if you have any more questions.
Good luck - it's tough but I don't regret for a moment resisting the advice to cry it out.
J.H. answers from San Francisco on February 20, 2009
I know that this is not what you want to hear, but let her cry.
She needs to learn to put herself to sleep. I waited until my husband was sleeping on the couch and the whole house was not sleeping well before I let my son cry because I thought it would be so bad and hard on him. He only cried 12 min! Now we are all happy and rested again. Don't wait. It is only hard on you when they cry, she will not cry blood tiers, as they say.
Read the books "Happiest baby on the block" and "sleep seance"
Good luck!
ps Now my son loves to go to sleep! He points to the book case (because I read him two books before bed) and says niiiightttt?
J.S. answers from San Francisco on February 19, 2009
I have never used the baby sleep coach, but I didn't let my son cry it out either. Do you have her sleep in her own room with the door shut? Seems to do miracles for my son. Also, I add lavendar and magnesium sulfate (epsom salts) to his bathwater. Seems to work for my son after 11 months of being up every hour on the hour... now we both get long stretches of sleep and he even sleeps through the night at times.
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