K.L. asks from Gresham, OR on January 29, 2007
Baby Shower & Registry..
Hello~ I am trying to register for my baby shower & figure out all of the necessary items we will be needing for our daughter. Money has been very tight lately, due to a family crisis, I haven't worked in over a year. I would like to know what are some of the items that you couldn't live without & the things you never used. I am trying to create a registry so my husband & I & our loved ones know what we need & where things stand. Any advice on baby products would be greatly appreciated. This is our first baby. Thanks so much!
So What Happened?™
I've gotten such great responses & truly appreciate them all. You are all so very helpful! A quick follow up question I have is about swaddling blankets & the Halo & other type sleepsacks. Did anyone find these to be a needed or very usefull item? Thanks so much again to you all!
Be Blessed!
K. =^..^=
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R.P. answers from Cincinnati on January 30, 2007
Well I sold my diaper changing table because I never used it. When my son would do his duty I would change him on the floor or closest table. I will tell you that there is a tub that I got and I think that is one of the best gifts I got. I didn't use my boppy too much but my girlfriend uses it all the time. I didn't use my pack and play that much either and those are expensive. However I got a swing and its great. Try to get one that is portable because then you could use that as a swing and also a seat. I had the fisher price vibrating bouncing seat and it helped. I would put my son in it while I soaked in the tub or while I did laundry etc. I would recommend going to consignment shops to see if they have things also. But never buy a used car seat. I learned that lesson from a girlfriend. I also didn't buy a diaper bag. You get free ones from the hospital or you can find a bag cheaper than an actually diaper bag that they sell in the baby sections of stores. I hope this helps if I think of more I will write more. Oh I just thought of something, that diaper warmer is a waste of money. It dries the wipes out. Also the diaper genie, I still could smell the diapers so I put them in a plastic bag (that I get free at grocery store) and set it outside by the trash.
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M.J. answers from Los Angeles on January 29, 2007
Are you ready for my huge list...okay.
1. Stroller: Graco Quattro stroller system was a great asset. The infant carseat snapped right into the stroller. The only thing you need to know about that is that you will need to buy a larger carseat when you baby grows out of the infant size. (convertible - meaning one that faces backwards and forwards) And don't buy the base. You don't need it. It cost $99 more but you can strap your baby's infant seat with just a seat belt through the strap things...sorry, I don't know what it's called but you'll see it. It goes across the baby and the seat.
2. I bought or recieved the bassinet, the sleep nest, the crib, the Papasan Swing and matching vibrating bouncer, Gerber
I used all of the above except the sleep nest and the fancy bouncer. My girlfriend borrowed it and loved it but my daughter didn't fancy it so much. When she slept with us, it was usually right up against me or right in the bassinet. You can use a portable play pen with a built in bassinet if you have one. I barely used the play pen too. We had our daughter sleeping in her room in her crib at 3 months with a monitor so the sleep we would get would be as uninterrupted as possible.
3. Monitors come in real handy. The Graco ones work best. I had more than one set.
4. Swing: I used the side to side Fisher Price Papasan swing all the time. ALL THE TIME! It was so nice. She would sleep in it and it was battery operated so it would go for a long time.
5. Formula: I kept all the formula samples and as it turned out, they came in very handy when breastfeeding could no longer continue....I got a concussion and was taking too much medication to continue. I had a great experience with Similac mostly.
6. Bottles: I swear by the Platex Nurser System with the wide silicone nipple and disposable liners. Never had a problem with gassiness. She had mild spit up problems but that's what babies do. When my M.I.L. would sneak behind my back and give my daughter some generic bottle, she would come home screaming from gas pains and spit up everywhere. Most of the time my daughter wouldn't even finish her bottle because of it. All babies are different so try several to see what works. Don't waste your money on Avent or the angled ones or the air vent ones. The don't work well. That's just my opinion.
7. I used the 3 separator formula canisters by Munchkin all the time.
8. I used Gerber bottles (the cheapy kind that are like $3 a pack) to gently heat the water in the microwave and then to shake and mix the formula. I would then pour it into the Playtex bottle...minus the bubbles to avoid gas. It worked well. Don't waste money on a bottle warmer. Anything quicker is better when that baby starts screaming
9. Pacifiers: I used Gerber silicone Nuk Pacifiers. Still do. They break down less and the don't taste as bad as latex. Bring on infant size pacifier to the hospital or the nurses will shove in a size 2. Yikes.
10. Wipes: My favorite wipes are the Lanolin wipes. I think it's 3-4 a pack but you they separate easy for one handed changes and they have a moisturizer in them that really seem to help prevent rashes. They are by the bottle, nipples, and breast feeding supplies because they are meant for breast fed babies. Loved them. Hate Pamper wipes....greasy. Huggies are good too especially for hand and face clean ups. Oh and wipes clean up spit up stains pretty good too.
11. Clothes: Plain white cotton onesies are the best. My favorite were Just One Year by Carters. Multi packs at Target. They hold up well to washing over and over. The buttons are easy. They are perfect for many changes and if they get all stained up, you don't feel so bad about tossing them. Plus you can bleach them.
12. Detergent: I used Dreft but hated the smell of it. I preferred All fragrance and dye free for sensitive skin. I started using that as soon as I ran out of Dreft but you'll probably get Dreft anyway as a gift so try and use it.
13. Bibs: Oh...the cheapy pack of bibs. It's like max pack at Walmart with the plastic back and the velcro. I wasted tons of money on cute cloth bibs that shrunk in the wash and stained too easy. Don't waste your money on tons. Buy a few for special occasions but use the cheap ones with plastic on the back. They work the best. Oh and do have lots of burp clothes. I actually prefered to use large receiving blankets as a burp cloth. Baby's can spit up alot and those little ones were finished in one spit up.
14. Don't waste you money on a diaper warmer. It's nice in theory but it dries out your diapers and you have to keep buying more. Warming them by hand works good too. Oh and Boudreaux's Buttpaste works good for bad rashes. Desitin seems to burn for bad rashes but it's easier to apply for minor irritations.
15. Don't waste money on tons of baby towels. They are so thin and so small. Buy one or two large fluffy white towels to really bundle your baby up for bath time. I used the tilted back tub. That was nice to have but you need counter space for that. I barely had room. Do have plenty of wash clothes for covering baby and get a few cloth bathing sponges. They are the easiest to clean the baby with. I loved Baby Magic hair and body soap too that you pump and it foams. It's hard to find but they have it still at the .99 cent store and a few places. It's so easy to use with one hand.
Trust your judgement. I wish I had been more confident than I was. There comes a point when you stop taking advice and you just do it. It's pretty cool. You'll know what you need and what you don't. If you have it and don't need it....sell it on Ebay.
Oh, when you go to the hospital bring...YOU and maybe music or some pictures for during labor, your favorite pillow, earplugs for the noisy nurses and cleaning crews, very comfy clothes for after, camera and or video camera (record the birth even if it's from shoulder view...my sister recorded the weighing in and the first bath since I couldn't see it...It's nice to have), a water proof folder or binder for all the official papers you will get...mine got wet, cell phone and chargers and that's pretty much it. Of course the carseat should be in the car. Dad should bring some cash for food and a blanket and pillow too in case he gets the chair bed...not comfy. Everything else is not needed unless you intent on walking around for natural childbirth which them you mind want a robe and slippers. I packed the world but didn't use any of it. I wish someone had told me.
If I think of anything else, I'll let you know.
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R.P. answers from Cincinnati on January 30, 2007
Well I sold my diaper changing table because I never used it. When my son would do his duty I would change him on the floor or closest table. I will tell you that there is a tub that I got and I think that is one of the best gifts I got. I didn't use my boppy too much but my girlfriend uses it all the time. I didn't use my pack and play that much either and those are expensive. However I got a swing and its great. Try to get one that is portable because then you could use that as a swing and also a seat. I had the fisher price vibrating bouncing seat and it helped. I would put my son in it while I soaked in the tub or while I did laundry etc. I would recommend going to consignment shops to see if they have things also. But never buy a used car seat. I learned that lesson from a girlfriend. I also didn't buy a diaper bag. You get free ones from the hospital or you can find a bag cheaper than an actually diaper bag that they sell in the baby sections of stores. I hope this helps if I think of more I will write more. Oh I just thought of something, that diaper warmer is a waste of money. It dries the wipes out. Also the diaper genie, I still could smell the diapers so I put them in a plastic bag (that I get free at grocery store) and set it outside by the trash.
W.C. answers from Las Vegas on January 30, 2007
You can go to Target to register, they have a baby registry and their prices aren't to bad either. Another thing you can try is seeing if any of your family or friends who have children have any things that they have left from when their babies were little. The things that I would ask for are diapers, blankets, and onsies are a must juring the summer. My kids lived in them.
My sister had a baby girl last August and now our youngest sister is pregnant with a girl and since my one sister got so many clothes and other little items that her baby never used she is sending them to my other sister
L.C. answers from Seattle on January 29, 2007
Don't spend a lot of money on clothes. Trust me, they don't even get to wear them all! Don't even put clothes on the registry other than onesies and socks-people will get cute clothes for her to wear outside anyway.
If you get a swing I'd suggest getting a portable one that you can take from room to room (my son liked to fall asleep in his while I took a shower).
If you breastfeed you don't need a boppy-just use a pillow. If you are not sure don't go buy a bunch of bottles. Maybe have one or two until you decide what bottle to use.
You really don't need activity type gyms or many toys until they are older.
Most stores have a suggested registry list. Good luck to you in this exciting yet scary time.
Do, Get ONE Baby Einsten DVD!
I agree Diaper Genie type things are a waste of money plus you have to buy special bags when you run out. Just take the trash out more often.
A.H. answers from Phoenix on January 31, 2007
Onsies and sleepers are a very big needs but request most of them In 3-6 months and 6-9 months you want to cover the first year if you can. also diapers. ask everyone in the invatations for diapers but request size 1 and 2 not new born becuase you might not get to use them at all. Also bottles but ask for one spacipic brnd and stick to that brand because babies don't like change in that way. I suggest anything with a big soft nipple becuase those are more like the breast if you are going to be breast feeding also. and formula. can't get anough of that stuff. also wipes. and changing pads to safe guard the couch. burp cloths for your clothes but they did'nt matter to me because I still got stuff on my shirt. you learn to deal with it belive me. and bibs. need those alot from the first month on because of drool when teething. lots of blankets. babies need lots of warmth. get a bouncer seat but when you pick it out get one that does not sage too much and looks way comfy and not too many things around it. if there is alot of stuff then make sure you can remove it. stoller and car seat. you can get those real cheap in a used store. I know of a GREAT used kids store on Sahara and Durango. It's called Kid To Kid and you can't miss it. it's on the right if you are going west on Sahara, just before durango in the plaza. they are the BEST in town. I love that store and they always have the biggest used selection with cheap stuff but good quality. i used to work there but the owner sold the place to another lady and this lady is so smart when it comes to this stuff. she always has a full store of things and you always want to check it out. they get new stuff every day. I really suggest you go there before you make your list.
now as for the things you'll never use. Highchair! I used the bouncer seat to feed until they were too big then when about 8 months used a high chair so wait on that. a changing table and crib. I only used by table a few times. the couch was eaisier. as for baby's crib. you can request a play pen and use that as a bassanett and a crib for later. Never used my crib at all. It ws a waste of $150 to me. And a mobile. if you get a crib then thats fine but my kids hated them.
never gonna use the wipe warmer. unless the baby has really sensative skin but you can buy that used somewhere later if that happens and real cheap too. no diaper pals just save your grocery bags and tye them up after the diaper is inside. your gonna need a bumper pad if you do dicede to get a crib but I think it's a waste of money. babies only sleep in it for a year and then they are in a toddler bed so i'd just ask for a play pen with the bassanet and use that.
S.B. answers from Grand Rapids on January 29, 2007
You can definitely live without the baby wipe warmer. And the boppy pillow, although I am sure other mothers will swear by it. You also don't need a lot of receiving blankets. I received 12 at my shower and could have gotten away with two or three. My daughter didn't really like the swing, but I know some kids love them, so maybe that is something you could pick up second hand, or after you know your daughter will use it. Ebay is a great place to get items, we have bought a ton of clothes from there and sold items also.
Good Luck!
S.
H.J. answers from Los Angeles on January 29, 2007
Congratulations first off. Thing I used, hmmm Burpe cloths, a car seat, diapers and cloths. Aside from that you will need a crib, sheets, water proof matress pad, a stroller and probably a boucy seat. Other then that you can really improvise the rest. I have two kids and I didn't have a swing, an exersaucer,a changing table, or even a dresser the cloths went into the closet.
If you can nurse that keeps things really cheap. But other wise you could even ask family for gift cards to baby places that sell diapers and formula, I bought my diapers at costo and they were pretty cheap.
Just remember kids need "you" not alot of other stuff to play with and when they are first born, they really don't need anything but clean pants, food and love.
Oh and a couple of nice snugglie blankets are always a plus!!!!
Hope this helps,
H.
L.W. answers from Portland on March 10, 2007
Hello K., congrats on your first baby.
I found the swaddle blanket to be a waste of money, we received one as a gift tried it once and didn't like it. A blanket works much better. The sleeps sacks were a must for us durine the winter once are daughter started turning and moving. Sleeping with a blanket is not safe, I love the sleep sacks and give them as a gift to all my prego friends.
L.
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