Baby Shower

I had a baby shower for my second and my kids aren't even 2 years apart. but my first was a girl and my second was a boy. Either way, I think that it's fine to have a baby shower for each child you have (I always think that when they get older if you don't have one for the others they will feel like they didn't mean as much or something).

I had a baby shower with my second one. My oldest is three. I kept most of her things so it was mostly a "diaper" shower.

K.,

Have a Sprinkle baby shower. It is a much smaller scale shower where those attending give you the basics: Diapers, wipes, bottles, or breastfeeding items, small items etc. Its not tacky especially if you had your last child 4 years ago! Tell your mom you are in need and see what she can put together for you. Congratulations!

Molly

Hello Kimberely, I had a baby shower for my second baby, it is not tacky at all to celebrate your baby with people you love. Even if there is only 3 of you! Good luck, I hope you get all you need.

Every child is a celebration whether it is your 1st, 2nd or even 4th! I had a 2nd "baby shower" and both were boys and only 2 years apart. I had given a lot of baby clothes away and sometimes you just need certain baby items..... Don't worry about what everyone else thinks (and if they are true friends and family- it will not be a big deal).... celebrate that you are going to have a little one again... because as you well know, they grow up so fast. Congratulations! :)

I don't think it's tacky at all. I'm currently PG with #2 and my kids are going to be 2 years apart. My sister is insistent that she throw me a shower - not just to have things for the baby but to celebrate the baby's upcoming arrival. Maybe you can ask your mom what she thinks?

call me tacky but I had two showers for my first born and three for my second child! I got so many usefull things and it was so much fun being able to catch up with friends and family... So I feel a shower for any baby... Weather it's your first or your fifth should get a celebration.

Myself, I don't mind attending a shower for a second child, especially when they are spaced far apart, but the fact is that if you have a second shower *someone*, at least one person, will be grumbling behind your back! And I'm no "Miss Manners", but really it's not *exactly* proper to throw a shower for yourself, because it can create the appearance of inviting friends over for the purpose of giving you gifts.

You might follow the previous parent's advice and look on Freecycle or Craigslist for free or low cost baby items. Just think- you probably gave your baby things away for nothing or almost nothing, and other people are doing the same thing. Many items will be barely used or at least fantastic bargains- just yesterday I saw a Pottery Barn crib listed on Craigslist for $20. That's pretty unusual-and you're short on time!- but if you look around you can find good things that are relatively inexpensive. Check your local resale shops. You may even have friends or relatives you can borrow things from.

That being said, it's nice to celebrate the arrival of a new baby. Maybe you could host a little party at home or at a favorite restaurant, and ask guest to write a welcome to the new baby in a baby book. And if someone asks you what you need you can thank them for asking and list a couple modest items. Your family will surely be generous. Plus, as a second time mother, you probably noticed the first time around that most of the things you think you are going to need you don't end up needing. A crib, some jammmies, and a car seat are just about all you need in the beginning.

I'll bet that if you're honest with your Mother In Law that she will offer to throw you a shower. I don't mean to be critical, but if you are concerned about doing something that appears to be not exactly right, you're answering your own question to a certain extent. That's what I'm getting from your post.

I really do hope that you get the things you need one way or another! Good luck and congratulations to you on your baby!

Maybe someone can throw a guy shower for your husband at work?? Yes, different but sure it would be fun.

Dear Kim,
A baby shower is about so much more then gifts it is a time to celebrate you and your soon to be little one. I have 3 girls and had showers for all three, friends and family want to share in your joy, and everyone always needs new things. So have your shower and enjoy life and all that you've been blessed!

Celebrating a baby and being pregnant couldn't possibly be bad! I threw my sis-n-law a shower luncheon and we actually mae it a surprise for her...she never saw it coming. SHe had an amazing time and a few of us pitched in to get her one larger gift (double stroller). A shower is to celbrate a new life and there are many things you still need to purchase and lots of fun new things too....doesn't have to be a gala event but a celebration can come in many forms...simple or extravagant. Let your mom do it and enjoy the party with your friends and family!
M.
PS- My hubby is a DS too and our daughter is almost 2 and if we get prego again...I'd love another party in whatever capacity it happened. ;0)

My mom's group just had this same discussion and the majority of the mom's thought that every baby should be celebrated and had no problem with a 2nd, 3rd etc baby shower. One of the mom's gave this idea, a baby sprinkles party. For those that still had baby things but now needed a double stroller, 2nd car seat and people could bring different sizes of diapers. I know you said you need quite a few things since you got rid of alot of stuff so that wouldn't work for you but it's an idea you could pass on. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a second baby shower. I say go for it! And congratulations!

Go to Freecycle. People list things they no longer need or can use. Much of what is on there is kid-related. I regularly see baby clothes, small and large baby items, and sometimes even diapers that didn't get used or were potty-trained out of. You can look for these "offers" and you can also post "Wanted". Everything listed on this site is FREE.

www.freecycle.org

Good Luck!
Kimberly B

Yes A baby shower would be perfectly fine to celebrate and welcome your second little baby. And especially since the need is there. You are getting so close ,do it soon. I recently had my 4th baby and it was back to back girls so I really didn't need anything. Instead I asked for meals which were so wonderful and nurturing. My family had almost six weeks of dinners coming 3 + times a week. I felt a shower would be wasting everyones money and who has that to waste. So this was best for our family. I hope you have a special baby shower to honor your sweet new baby and you as mommy of 2 . Congradulations

I would not worry about it. I would have another one. Mention it to your mom and see if she will throw one for your with your help.

It is definitely not tacky to have a shower for your second child! It would be tacky to throw it for yourself, but if mom wants to step in, go for it.

I feel every baby deserves to be celebrated. If you have a group of friends where you live now, Id invite them and let them share in the fun of welcoming this new baby into the world. I have a friend who has 3 daughters. Each daughter has 3 childern now and I went to a shower for each and every baby and enjoyed every one of them. One of them is expecting again and I look forward to picking out another cute outfit or making something special for this baby too. Ask your M. or any other good friend if theyd be willing to host a shower for you and be ready to help with the cost or set up if possible. Enjoy the special treatment and have a happy healthy baby!! (o:

I dont think it is tacky at all. I didnt have a baby shower with my daughter, but my sister had one with both of her babies.....

Some people of the older generation beleive it is tacky to have a shower for your second child. However, it is generally accepted nowadays to have a shower for a second child, especially if the time between children is more than a couple of years. People just don't have attics or store stuff forever like my grandmother's generation did.

Also, since most of the people you would be inviting did not attend the shower for your first child, it will should not be a problem. I am betting that many of them really want to celebrateg the birth of your second child with you.

However, if you are still wary about it, list where you are registered inside the invitation instead of overwhelming invitees with all the registration cards in the invitation and print in bold letters, "gifts optional". Make it known that it is a celebration of new life rather than a shower if you are still concerned.

Congratulations on your new baby and enjoy whatever kind of celebration you have!

There isn't a thing wrong in having a baby shower with a second child...there is 4 years between the children and most people wouldn't still have baby items left after that amount of time.
Talk to your mom about having a shower you will need some starter stuff...my husband is a deputy sheriff sgt and I know what their salary is (not enough). A baby shower with a second child is NOT tacky and your 4 year old daughter would love it!!
Good luck with the new baby!!

Go to freecycle.org and sign up for your area - I have gotten lots of great free stuff for my friend who is having thier unexpeceted 2nd child. Good Luck

A.

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Hey Kimberly,

I have two daughters also, but they are close together. I moved from my friends that threw my first baby shower when I was pregnant with my second daughter and really didn't know many people besides I had all of my first daughter's things she used. It was fairly easy, but I know where you are coming from. I am throwing my best friend her second baby shower if she wants one, she is still undecided. She wants to wait until she figures out if she will have a girl or boy. Anyway...I think that if you need new things it is a great way to get the things you need. You can even register at a store or online and people can just get stuff that you need instead of just buying what they think that you need. Well good luck and hope you have a good baby shower.

Absolutely not! Those who would attend know your situation. Also, friends and I did have a second shower because of similar changes and age gaps, and we called it a "Baby Sprinkle". We registered for the necessary things and of course have a raffle for bringing diapers.