Baby Blues While Still Pregnant???........

Updated on October 05, 2011
E.Q. asks from Biloxi, MS
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Ok so i know this sounds kinda wierd but it seems the past month or so in my pregnancy i have been sort of down in the dumps! I know that my hormone levels are a factor in mood swings and that i can basically cry for no reason and blame it on them but it a bit worse than that im having really bad doubts that i can raise both of my children and be a good mom! I worry all the time that i Just wont be able to do it! Ive also been having strange thoughts about my husband cheating on me and have been having doubts that he loves me or even wants to have this baby with me! I know this sounds like a small thing to some people but if you knew me Im not like this at all! Practicaly my whole life ive wanted a whole bunch of kids never doubting that i would be a good mother, and my husband has done nothing to make me doubt his love for me, in fact just the opposite these days hes been extra loving and caring! So basically what im asking is has anyone every delt with stuff likethis while you were pregnant and what did you do to fix it,I know you can get depressed after the baby comes but how about while your pregnant? Please help im very desperate!

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E.T.

answers from Florence on

Hi there. I am counselor in North Alabama. I want to reassure you that what you are going through is absolutely normal. SO many women go through this. You just don't hear about it because it's taboo to talk about. My friend cried over and over throughout her third pregnancy becaue it was stressful, but she lived. We all worry about being good moms, and that's alright. I suggest you find a counselor in your area that can help you through this. Your stress may affect the baby...there are a few studies on that. Wellbutrin is safe to take when you are pregnant. Otherwise, just know that this happens to many women and that you are not alone.

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A.M.

answers from Santa Barbara on

Well...Well... um I myself have been the same exzact way and my husband is always trying to reassure me and love on me but I end up pushing him away at times its really wierd I know and frusturarting I feel like a dr. Jekel and Mrs. Hyde for reals. I think it is normal and as my husband says Its because Im pregnant and so they understand us even when we dont understand ourselves at time and that honey is the power of teamwork and love in the pergancy and marriage.

A.

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L.

answers from Chattanooga on

I talked to my doc about this too and he gave me Wellbutrin. It has helped tremendously.

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N.A.

answers from Montgomery on

I suggest you mention all of this to your doctor. If you don't already have an appointment, make one. This could definitely be depression. It doesn't have to be post-partum to make it pregnancy-related.

Yes, everyone has doubts about feeling unattractive, and maybe have a fleeting thought that your husband couldn't possibly be attracted to someone with a huge belly who is tired all of the time, but that feeling shouldn't be lasting so long.

It is very possible that you are also suffering a delayed reaction post-partum depression from the birth of your 21 month old.

Please get some help now, maybe you need a break. Ask someone to take care of your little girl at least one day a week, and get yourself out doing something you love, or, if it's rest you need, take a long nap.

Either way, please see your doctor to discuss all of the possibilities. It is nothing to be embarrassed about, it's a hormonal thing, and believe me, the doctor has heard it all before!

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L.W.

answers from Biloxi on

It doesn't sound like baby blues to me. It sounds like you need to have your ob/gyn doc run a thyroid test on you. The numbers of women who develope a low thyroid problem during the prenancy or shortly after delivery have skyrocketed in recent years.
Call your doc and get tested asap! Good luck, and congratulations!!

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M.H.

answers from Minneapolis on

i feel exactly the same way!!! i am feeling everything you have said to thinking your husband is cheating to thinking i wont be a good mom. I'm actually going to talk to my doctor about it today. i just thought it would help you to know your not alone or crazy! because thats how i feel.

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A.R.

answers from Nashville on

You should definately go see your doctor and discuss your feelings that you are having. It took almost two years for me to be diagnosed with PPD. I was put on meds for 6 months and now I am fine no more drugs. But, it is hard to deal with. I hope everything works out and Congrats on the baby.

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J.J.

answers from Jackson on

E.~ I definitely think that you can get the blues while pregnant. I was thinking those exact things when pregnant with my second baby, and I was blowing up over nothing (and I mean absolutely nothing). My second trimester was the worst. I was wondering everyday if I was going to be able to be a good mother. Then, I began to realize that He gives you nothing you can't handle. I suffered from post-partum depression, as well, and I was then put on meds. Do not be ashamed of your feelings. Having two children is hard. It takes a while to get used to having two instead of one. Especially for the sibling. Have you spoken with your doctor about your feelings? I would bring up your feelings at your next appt. or make an appt. to discuss it. My doc put me at ease. I am sure you do just fine.

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J.B.

answers from Nashville on

It's normal. I went through the same thing - before AND after my son was born. I became depressed not long after having my son (I was a total wreck at the hospital). Just have a talk with your doctor about it. Don't keep it inside - it makes things worse. Talking with your doctor should put you at ease about things. If you're not involved in an activity or in a mom's group, get in one! It helps in more ways than one.

Love,
Jess B

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A.W.

answers from Baton Rouge on

you definatly need to talk to your doctor and tell them that you're feeling depressed, you can get pre post partium depression, basicly depression while pregnant. its not something to be taken lightly though b/c from what i've read if you're feeling depressed while pregnant then there is a good chance that you will get post partium depression and if you talk to you doctor now then you can hopefully get it treated and possibly keep from getting PPD or at least be prepared to get help as soon as you deliver. bottom line is you need to tell you doctor and make sure that your doctor actually listens and if your doctor acts likes its no big deal then you need to talk to another doctor or go to a physciatrist

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M.H.

answers from Jackson on

E.Q., i have to tell you...it's the hormones. I experienced that same thing with two of my children, when i was pregnant. I never had post-pardom depression, i just got it beforehand. I doubted how good of a mom i was going to be, and i lost all energy levels, i thought it was me against the world. i remeber talking to my doctor about it, and honestly, i can't remember all that he recommended, but i suggest that you talk to your doctor about it. it's quite common i think. good luck, and remember, as soon as this one arrives, you will realize that the love you have for your first born will have noting to do with the love of the new baby. both will be completely different and if your still having depression problems, don't wait on getting help. that's what the professionals are there for. i had a friend who had PPD, and she was severely depressed for a long time, and didnt get help because she was raised that 'you don't tell your problems to anyone' and now her son is what they call, emotionally dispondant, because she didnt hold him or spend time with him as a newborn. so please realize lots of women are in the same boat as you, and things will be better ok? you and your family are in my prayers.
M.

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