Thank you for being honest with your frustrations regarding your situation. Identifying and recognizing the problem is the first step towards ending the cycle and starting a healthier life.
I had my last baby at 41+years of age. Seemed normal at the time, but now I know was a rather advanced maternal age. I gained lots of weight, moved numerous times, was beyond stressed, then was seriously injured in a terrible accident. I've had adrenal fatigue, kidney/liver damage, muscle/ligament injuriess, fibromyalgia, and no energy to get out of bed some days. I am not yet a 100%, but am getting there day by day.
The most important thing to remember is that there is no one on this planet who is better designed and able to raise your precious children than you. They are counting on you.
Here are my simple steps to staying healthy:
Simple, gentle exercise and stretching, like walking with the kids, the dog, alone...start with 15-20 minutes, work up to 30. Where good supportive shoes and stretch your calves when your done. Today I gardened, sometimes I swim. Cleaning windows, mopping, sweeping - all of this counts towards building stamina.
Eat lots of fresh fruits. Every morning I cut up fresh fruit for the family for breakfast, refrigerate the leftovers, then enjoy throughout the day. Eat whole grain breads, like Ezekial for breakfast.
Same with veggies, lean meats, fish, nuts, yogurts. Take a good pre-natal multi-vitamin. Plan dinner after breakfast is done. Make it early and eat it early.
Play outside with the children. Lay on a blanket on the grass. You'll get natural Vit D & K from the sunshine.
After western medicine did all they could for me, I started seeing an accupuncurist/herbalist. This really kick started my immune system and I was extremely impressed with the immediate and lasting results. They also did a Chinese type of auridology, which is placing herbal seeds on points on the ears. I had so many seeds on my ears due to all my problems, that people would just stare at my ears in shock. I didn't care b/c for the first time I was feeling better, more energetic, I slept better, I was motivated to eat better, I was in less pain. LIfe was looking good again.
I also have tried and have been very happy with using EFT = Emotional Freedom Technique. The results for pain specifically have been quite remarkable. This is a totally FREE technique you can learn on youube. It is a self-tapping of your acccupressure points. Very impressive results I must say. Honestly, google it, learn it and give it a try. You will be impressed too.
IN a nutshell: Eat foods as natural as possible and cut way back on the junk/bad stuff. Don't have it around so it's not there when you're feeling low. Move more. Anyway you like. Dance with the kids, play hide and go seek with them, walk with them. SLEEP well. Make sure you get a good nights rest. Go to bed by 10pm every night. Brush your teeth, put on nice smelling lotion, and cuddle into bed for sweet dreams. Ask family/friends for assistance in getting your new life style started. And SIMPLIFY your life so that you have the time and energy to devote to your family and you.
I hope you feel well soon.