Any Advice on How to Teach NO to an Active 14 Month Old ?

Hi E.

I think it might be time to teach your son time out. This is telling him you are serious about the word NO. Remember it's every minute for his age. So he would go in time out for a min. and a half. Right now he thinks it's a game,and you need to show him it's not. When you put him in time out with a stern voice so he knows you are serious you explain to him why he is put in time out. You may think he is too young. but just try it and see how it works. It's worth a try anyways. I like to watch Super Nanny and I really respect Jo's ideas. I get alot of advice from the show and it seems to work for the children she works with. This is something she has done with the younger children.

Good luck
C. :)

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Well, start with a very stern voice when they are out of line. Use this same voice anytime you are repremanding them and be consistent!! this is KEY! If it is something they cannot touch, then offer acceptable alternatives if possible. If that doesn't work, then a short time out. They can sit still for a minute. 1 minute for every year of age. We used the naughty spot way before there was a Super Nanny. A small $2 rug was in any room we were in. There has to be a consequence to actions that are in direct defiance. If it isn't taught early, it only becomes harder as they get older.

Best of luck.

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Hi, E.. Well, at least he is not throwing a tantrum when you tell him "No" (not yet). You might want to start by taking away the thing you don't want him to touch. If it's something that is not moveable, then move the child away from the object and place something else in his hand that is OK to touch. Kids his age do not have the self-control to simply stop touching things; they need to have alternatives to doing the wrong thing instead of trying to get them to just sit still.

You have to be firm in your tone of voice, too, but do not react too strongly. He seems to be enjoying making you exasperated, so you need to change the situation so that he doesn't get that kind of reward for disobeying you, and you do not get frustrated. Move him away from stuff you don't want him to touch, and be patient, because 14 months is still very, very young, and he isn't understanding as much as you'd like him to.

Seriously, distract him from doing the things you don't want him to do, literally change his mind and his focus, and you will have fewer power struggles.

I hope this is helpful.

Peace,
Syl

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it's hard!
they don't have impulse control like you would want them to/expect them to.
It takes a lot of getting up and physically removing them from one place to another. exhausting!!!
but I do NOT believe in time-outs or anything at this age. you have to be STERN/SERIOUS but not ANGRY. I make a face and use my pointer finger and circle my face as I say "look at me. I am SERIOUS!!!" yes my son might laugh, but eventually he will figure it all out.

take a look all around this site:
http://goybparenting.com/?page_id=54

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