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Any Advice for a Busy Mom Trying to Loose a Lot of Weight, for Health Reasons

I've been to my doctor cause I have a pinched nerve in my back and its causing pain in other areas of my body. They can't do anything about it or give medication due to my age they don't suggest I do surgery as it would get worse and don't recommend pain pills because they are addictive. So the only option is to loose weight. Granted I have gained a lot of weight over the years after I had my daughter whom is now 10 years old turning 11 years old next month on July 1st. For my height and age I would be considered obese and over my BMI. So just wondering if any of you have any ideas on things I could do to cut back, to help me drop some pounds. I barely have time to exercise but I'm thinking of tweaking my schedule just a bit so that I can do this and have my daughter do it with me as well cause she too has gained some unneeded extra pounds over the last year and a half. I've gotten advice from family and friends and all they've told me is the following. If you want to loose enroll in a gym, get a personal trainer(I would've went this route, but being a single mom, that really isn't in my budget gyms and especially personal trainers are expensive), they also said stop drinking soda, caffeine and leave alone all the white bread and bake your foods, also cut your portions in half, and the last suggestions were get the Billy Blanks bootcamp dvds and work, buy one of those dance video games and use that and take some fat burner pills like Hydroxycut.
What do you all suggest...I've never been the size I am now and I do want to seriously loose some of this weight for health reasons, but what can I do? Any and all suggestions appreciated.

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I recently decided to try to lose the 50 extra pounds I'm carrying around as well. In 7 weeks, I've gone from 204 to 188 and lost over 20 3/4 inches from my body. I've gone from size 18 pants to 14. You can do it too. It will require a complete lifestyle change, and its easier if you get your daughter in on it. Here's what I've been doing.

1. Stop buying anything with sugar, -ose, corn syrup, etc... in the 1st 4 ingrediants. This is very hard, so once you find something you like, make sure you jot it down. Hardest things to find: cereal and bread. I think bread is the only thing I buy that breaks this rule.

2. Don't buy bread with any type of enriched flour; only whole grain.

3. Snack. When you are hungry, snack!
3 100 calorie snacks
300 calorie breakfast
400 calorie lunch
500 calorie dinner
I don't count calories, but just look at the label to see if you are sticking to approximately that.

4. Don't drink anything but water and milk! Why drink your calories when you can eat them?!

5. If you want raisins on your cereal, add them yourself because raisin cereals are covered in sugar.

6. Keep artifical sweetners to a low. They make your body think you are hungry.

7. Try all natural peanut butter. Its high in protein and has no added oils or sugars. Store it in your refrigerator.

8, Dinner usually looks like this:
1 serving of meat, veggies (no butter), potato/rice/couscous/some kind of grain

9. If you go out to eat, only eat 1/2 of the food that they bring you. Ask for it to not be cooked in butter. If they have a salad bar, load up on salad. If not, ask for the dressing on the side. Dip your fork into the dressing and then the salad. You'll use less dressing that way.

10. Swap ice cream for 1/2 cup of frozen yogurt.

11. 1/2 cantoloupe = 1 banana = 10 M&M's = 1/3 a doughnut = 1/3 a bagel (with nothing on it) = 1/2 cup frozen yogurt = 100 calories

12. Try sugar free popsicles

13. One day a week, eat something decadent, that you've really been craving, but not too much

14. Park at the back of the parking lot

15. Walk to the store

16. Get your friends to do it with you!

17. Make plain oatmeal for breakfast. If you want it flavored, add cinnamon and No Sugar Added Applesauce or smashed bananas or another fruit.


As far as exercising goes, don't join a gym. Its the biggest waste of money, at least that has been my experience. They say if you're going to workout, do it in the morning because you'll have less likelihood to skip your workout. I bought a set of workout videos (and light weights) called the Firm. They are GREAT! There are 4 different videos so that you don't get too bored and 3 of them come with an express video for days when you don't have a lot of time.
Another suggestion, since you want your daughter to do it as well, buy a Wii and a Wii fit. We are going to get one, but haven't gotten to the store yet. Its a video game that will track your progress.
And, don't forget, just because you start working out and miss a few days or a week, don't stop. Just jump right back on that horse.


Good luck!

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I completely understand. I have been overweight most of my life and I've tried SOOOO Many diets. What I finally found is this: Weight is based on a simple formula. (The amount of calories taken into the body - the amount of calories going out of the body = body weight fluctuation) Therefore if a person wants to lose weight they need to either take in less calories, burn more calories or a combination of both. Plus, we need to remember our bodies are mostly water so that needs to be replenished constantly.

Each person finds their own ways of finding the balance and doing what works best in their individual lifestyles. Some things I have done that help me:
1. Drink a full glass of water before each meal, then drink another glass of water before taking seconds. I find I get full faster and I know my body needs the water more than food.
2. Brush your teeth often. I don't like to eat right after brushing my teeth.
3. Find a way to burn calories that is more fun than work. For me it is dancing, walking with friends, and swimming.
4. Eat some from all the food groups in various colors, and lean toward the lean meats and whole grains. (This can be costly so try to find workable foods for your budget)
5. Set a goal beyond what weight you want to reach, but something to work for (ie. a new clothing item, or a specific activity you enjoy, etc.)

I have also found that many health clubs offer scholarships if that interests you.

Obstacles I am having to overcome include:
1. the taste of water. My body had to adjust to the taste but after a week or two, I didn't mind and my body started craving the refreshing taste.
2. sweating. I had to choose to sweat and look forward to showering afterwards. Plus, swimming was nice cause I didn't feel sweaty afterwards.
3. people comments and what I thought they meant: a lot of people tried to "encourage" me and ended up hurting me and discouraging me. I am still working at listening to what they intend rather than what is truly said.
4. instant rewards: I still struggle with congratulating myself for a job well done with a food treat rather than some other reward. It has been a struggle because if I exercise for an hour and then eat a candy bar, I'm defeating the purpose of the exercise, but it tastes good.
5. eating without thinking: I have a habit of eating while I cook, eating while I watch TV, and eating while playing board games, etc. If I thought about my goal and the big picture, I wouldn't eat without purpose, but it is a habit that is hard to break.

I am still working on reaching my goal weight, but I haven't given up and I will get there in time. I know you can reach your goals and be healthier for you and your family. You can do it!!

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i just lost 15 lbs and 1 pants size since the wednesday after mermorial day on the South Beach diet. you have to like lean meat, cheese and veges to get through it though. it's true what the diet says about the cravings of the sugar and white bread. but it really doesn't feel like a diet all that much because i don't track like i used to on weight watchers. if i did track i'd probably loose a heck of alot more eating these whole foods. i still have about 25 lb's to loose (then i won't be considered obese buti felt a lot better on the 4th of july than i did on memorial day weekend... that's for sure. i haven't started a workout plan yet but i try to do a few little things a day. maybe 5 minutes of different toning exercises here and there through out the day or take a walk when i know i'll be out of my normal routine.

good luck,

I understand how you feel. First off, love yourself no matter what anyone thinks of you. Stop drinking soda, switch to diet if you have to it will get rid of that extra sugar. Drink lots and lots of water all day every day. Start with maybe walking early in the morning? Even an extra half hour earlier will do you wonders. They way we eat is common sense. Stay away from fast food and most fried food. Don't deprive yourself of sweets it only makes you want them more, but do it in healthy portions. Dance around with your daughter and rent videos from the library on fitness. Billy Blanks is an insane wack job but my gosh are his videos awesome and you will feel the burn! I used to do tae-bo and it really did make a difference! It is hard in the world today with the image that tv and magazines portray. Don't try to be thin as thin is over rated but try to be healthy for you and your daughter. I joined Curves and they have very early hours so you can try that. It is not that expensive and it does work. But if money is tight, like I said, start walking and dancing with your daughter!
Good luck

You are 27 years old. You are young I do not understand why this doctor can't do anything for you, medicine or surgery. Get a second opinion from another doctor. Just because one doctor says it can't be done doesn't mean it can't happen. I have learned that diagnoses vary from one doctor to another. Losing weight may help but that isn't the cure or the problem.

I have had pinched nerves in my neck. Seek a massage therapist and see if they can help relieve some of the inflamed muscles surrouding the nerve. Some insurance plans will pay for it. Chiropractic care may help too. I had a pinched nerve and I always had numb arms and both of the above helped. Keep in mind you may have to go several times before you feel any relief. I too am overweight but that had absolutley nothing to do with it. It was caused from the repetive motions I did at work for years.

Sorry to be so long winded but another suggestion is to use ice to help the inflamed muscles become less swollen. Believe it or not more muscles are involved in a pinched nerve than you cna imagine. everything surrounding the area is usually hot and swollen. One more thing. Did he offer any anti inflamatory medication at all? If not see if you can at least try some.

Best of luck

Hi Q.,
Well, you made the first step by establishing a goal. I can imagine how busy you are but the plus is that you have your mom & sister there for an hour of keeping aneye on your daughter here and there.
I don't think you need to spend a lot of money to do this. I myself have gained weight since my son was born. Can you start just by adding some exercise every day? I like to take a long walk when my son is in bed (dad's home--so it's OK!)
What does your daughter like to do? Spend time with her (two birds, one stone) doing stuff you both enjoy (walking, dancing, skating, swimmimg, tennis, etc.) And then ramp up your own activity by adding a nightly walk as well.

I would not take any of the OTC "weight loss" pills. Better to invest your money in a yoga class, Curves, or a swim club membership--after all, if the pills really worked, would you be seeing overweight people at all? LOL
Also--a word of advice--avoid ALL FAST FOOD and PROCESSED food like the plague! Try to eat "low on the food chain." Eat food in the form that it was made by God. Pack yourself a healthy lunch for work every day. Fresh fruits and veggies, salads, grilled/baked chicken/fish etc. Avoid pre-made, prepared foods that are fast & easy. Always look for trans-fat content on the labels and avoid as much trans fat as you can. If you are basically inactive right now, I think you will see a big difference just by adding more activities and cutting out fast food/junk food. I am a night time eater and am right now really trying to get out of that habit. I think it's from boredom mostly. Good luck! I wish you SUCCESS!!!

Afterthought--I would recommend chiropractic care as well. If you have health insurance,
find a reputable chiropractor who accepts your insurance. Losing weight would surely benefit you but see if a chiropractor can give you some relief in the meantime as well!

I give you a lot of credit for being a single Mom, I was as well and I know how tough it can be to find time for everything, especially yourself.

I would highly recommend the Weight Watchers Online Flex Plan. I have lost 20 lbs on this twice in the past (with no exercise) and LOVE it. It teaches you how to change your lifestyle and eating habits by showing how high in points certain foods are as you go along. Every tool you need is online so you can log your food daily, your weight weekly, read the message boards, recipes, etc. The message boards are a great support system of others on the program. You can post questions or just read different topics.

I just re-signed up and it ends up being $16.95/month and I don't attend meetings, there just isn't time. Right now there isn't a fee to join, maybe you could get the same deal.

If you want more info, email me at ____@____.com care and good luck!

Hi Q.,

I highly recommend Weight Watchers. I did it successfully before kids and then did it again after kids. The program really works and is a lifestyle change not a diet. Therefore you can help your daughter eat healthier too without sending the wrong message of dieting.

If possible I would recommend you attend a meeting rather than doing it online. That way you have a support group of people that you can journey with and share your successes and challenges with. The group I attend has at least two people that have lost more than 85 pounds and I couldn't be happier for them.

You can buy a monthly pass that will cut down on the cost of the program and it also provides you access to the online etools. I don't use etools so I can attest that they are not necessary for success. They are an added resource.

As for exercise,starting out I would recommend Leslie Sansone's Walk Away the Pounds. There are numerous video/dvd's in this series. My favorites are in the "Express" series. They call it the 'No Excuse Walk' and it is because you don't need to worry about the weather, just pop in the tape. There are no aerobic moves to learn, just 4 basic steps (side to side, knee lifts, kicks, and walking) They would be easy enough for you to do with your daughter. Plus they come in different mile increments 1-2-3-4 so you can build endurance. The library system has them available to borrow along with many others. Find something you enjoy doing and it won't feel like a chore.

Good luck to you!

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