My very gorgeous, young, glamorous co worker and friend is having a huge, elegant, formal wedding. The whole office is abuzz about what to wear. I was thinking of buying a very nice crisp spring dress with colors that pop. I was justifying the purchase by thinking I could get double duty out of it and wear for Easter and maybe even a highschool graduation thats coming up. However, the wedding is at 5pm and the reception will be a party that goes on into the night. Most of the girls at work are wearing after 5 party dresses - most of them shortish and black. Is it ok to wear black to a wedding? Isn't that sort of an insult? Or am I just old fashioned? Maybe if it's an after 5 glam event it's ok? But wont the older women still wag thier tongues about how innapropriate it is? What would you wear?
The 'formal evening' is what makes it okay. A nice alternative would be a deep navy or mauve. You could even do a nice pants seperates outfit.
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I would def go with darker more elegant dress. Black would be acceptable. Think elegant, not cute and springy.
Black is most certainly ok for an evening wedding these days...times have changed! That being said, if most of your co-workers are wearing black, you might want to stick with your original idea of wearing a bright color, as long as it's dressy enough. That way, you will stand out from the sea of black :) My nephew is getting married at an evening wedding in July in Manhattan, so I have the same dilemma coming up soon - good luck!
Black is completely fine, but I would add a pop of color with shoes or necklace or a handbag. :)
Nope- evening formal weddings black cocktail dress is perfectly fine, acceptable, and proper. You can still wear what you want to wear but these women are perfectly fine with what they want to wear. I have and would continue to wear black or navy blue cocktail dresses to evening formal weddings.
Black at weddings is fine - that old "rule" is long gone.
One gal wore a STARK WHITE strapless dress to my wedding and I still remember it. Did I care? Absolutely not. My husband pointed it out to me (yep, that's how bad it was - that he noticed) and we laughed about it. But in the end, no one but you and your husband, (if he even does!), should care what you have on! Go and have fun!
And who cares what the old(er) women say!
Black is fine for evening formal. My mom even wore black to my wedding - and I was totally fine with it.
I just attended a fairly formal evening wedding and lots of women were in black. It's definitely ok these days but the irony is that means so many women wear it that it's kind of boring! I try to wear another color to be a bit different but I agree with some posters that you have to make sure it's not too loud and daytime-y.
Black is fine...black sequined tube tops would not be. Lol. Someone was wearing that at a recent wedding I attended and she turned quite a few heads.
Black would be fine and if you didn't want to purchase one you can always rent one. I heard about this website on Shedding for the Wedding. LOL It is called renttherunway.com. I checked it out and they have some awesome dresses for great prices.
Black at weddings is perfectly acceptable.
And quite frankly, it wouldn't matter to me what color my guests wore anyway. If I care enough about you to invite you to my wedding, I want you there whether you're wearing cutoffs and a cami, a pantsuit, a miniskirt and fishnets, a dress identical to mine, or nothing at all.
You can wear black to ANYTHING. One nice black dress that fits you perfectly can be anything from cool casual (silver hoop earrings, black boots, jeans jacket over it) to quite elegant and formal (diamond earrings and bracelet, stiletto heals, silk wrap). Your spring dress would also be quite lovely, so really either way would work. Have fun dress shopping!
An evening wedding... I would not wear black b/c I'm not a fan of black, but I would wear a dark color cocktail dress. Unless the invite says "black tie" or something along those lines, then "after 5 party dresses" are the appropriate attire. Brightly colored spring dresses would not be appropriate for an evening event. At someone's wedding, only the bride should "pop"- everyone else should really be understated and "blend".
It is okay to wear black to a wedding, but not okay to wear white! When we got married one guest's date showed up in a strapless ivory dress. Very tacky and yes, there were many "tongues wagging" about how inappropriate that was!
A lot of people wear black for weddings. It's not my choice but it's fine. I agree with the moms who said dress it up with a belt, heels, purse in a color.
Just a thought, I did read recently that color was the thing for spring this year. But you need to be careful with color too. You don't want to be remember as the woman who wore a bright color dress to a wedding. The old adage was that no one should out shine the bride --it's her day. So no bright yellows, oranges, reds.
You could also go with a soft black skirt, floor or tea length and a colored top, with accessories to match the top.
I've worn black to wedding several times, especially back in my single girl days. With it being an evening event, and you mentioned it was elegant and formal, I would think it's appropriate to wear something a little dressier. That doesn't mean that the style you are thinking about would be inappropriate either. These days, you need to do "double duty" as you say, because who has the money to buy a new outfit for every occasion? But, if you are still unsure if you should wear a spring color dress, just ask the bride what she thinks, or if you know any of the bridesmaids ask them.
We're going to a wedding this weekend and I'll be wearing the same head to toe black outfit I wore last month to a funeral. Black is my color and until the last 25 pounds of baby weight is gone it will remain "my color."
I think wearing black is fine...unless you are the bridge or grooms mother! :)
I wore a black/blue dress to my BIL's wedding. Then again, I was the only one wearing a dress... Everyone else showed up looking pretty casual. This is what happens when you depend on your man to provide information (Like, is this a casual wedding or a formal wedding?). Lol
Hi, T.!
My mother-in-law wore a formal full length black dress to my wedding to her son... It was an outdoor wedding in the afternoon on a beautiful spring day. Forget about whatever the rules may or may not be. Break them. The truth is you should buy what you like the best that you will be the most comfortable in. If I were you, I would go with your personal choice and not what the rest of your co-workers are choosing. Go with the nice crisp spring dress with colors that pop! Why not stand out with a beautiful dress that reflects your personality and get the bonus to wear it at two other special occasions? Your outfit should be bright and cheerful. After all, it is a celebration:) Best wishes!
I vote for a dress that can be also worn for Easter and the graduation. You can find lovely dresses that can be dressed up for evening events with shawls and jewelry, but still pull the double duty for day time events. Hmmm, maybe linen in a subtle hue?
Have fun shopping - you will look marvelous!!!!
I asked the same type of question not long ago - only it was my brothers wedding. I mostly didn't want to wear a black dress because I knew that I would be in family pictures etc.....
Turns out - you can wear black to a wedding, especially a formal wedding! There were tons of women at my brothers wedding in black dresses. They looked fabulous!
Hope you have a great time at the wedding!
The last two weddings I have gone to more than half the women in attendance were wearing black dresses...I think it has gone from a no no to socially acceptable.
I attended a wedding in Dec. where the bridesmaids and maid of honor were all wearing black! My husband's comment was that they all looked like a bunch of pallbearers. But these days it up to the individual. I also attended a funeral that the deceased had requested NOBODY wear black! She was buried in a red suit herself.
