Another Baby!?!?

Updated on December 13, 2006
C.A. asks from Windham, NH
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I have two wonderful boys and a great step son. After my last pregnancy I suffered severe post partem depression, and just recently am starting to feel normal again (after 16 months). My sister is getting married in Oct 07, I'm the maid of honor. My husband is planning on starting up his own buisness in 3-6 months. He has made it perfectly clear that he doesn't want any more children. So you see the timing couldn't possibly be worse that I currently find myself pregnant. I haven't told anyone yet. I don't know how to. I need some advice on how to tell my family that a new baby is on the way.

I didn't mention that my husband is very supportive of me and helps me out tremendously with everything, from laundry, to kids. He's just looking at things from a totally financial situation.

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So What Happened?

Well, I told my husband. He took it just like I suspected he would. He got very upset, not with me but the situation. He's doing better every day, and hoping for another boy. I told my mom and dad today. They were thrilled. I haven't told my sister yet. I'm sure she's going to be happy, (but I have a nephew and three boys of my own. She wants to have the first girl). So keep your fingers crossed that every thing goes safely. Thanks for your responses.
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L.S.

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Congratulations on your new bundle of joy. Your husband may have said he didn't want any more kids, but that was before you told him you were pregnant. He sounds like he's a pretty understanding husband by what you've said with all the support he gives you. Once you tell him I bet you'll see him worry a bit yes (whose not going to with an unplanned pregnancy?), but the good and exciting part in there is a brand new life and who can't be totally excited about that?! Once you tell him and the initial shock is over I bet you look back wondering what you were affraid of. Just remember you are with him because you love him, and I bet he'll want to be there through every aspect with you. I say find a really creative way to tell him and your family. If it were me I'd tell him first and then suprise your family. Have some fun with this! Good Luck!

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T.M.

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Ellen gave excellent advice. she pretty much said exactly what i would of said. take a deep breath, all will work out, if you have faith and pray now is your time, you were given this baby because you can handle it, be patient with yourself. congratualtions.

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B.J.

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hi C.,
just let me start off saying I know how you feel. I myself found myself in the same situation as you about a year and a half ago. My husband was done for the same reasons yours is and my extended family was going to be h*** o* me when they found out I was having a 4th child. I didn't want to tell anyone... and sad to say I didn't till I was just reaching my 3month and I got rushed to the hosptial finding out I had and atopic preg. I lost the child I told no one about. When they did find out they said to me that they would have understood and loved the baby as they love my others. DON'T WAIT!!!!! Find some supportive friend and or memeber of your family you can share it with have them help you share the great news with your husband. Each child is a blessing and god wants you to have another child. I wish you all the luck in the world. You will have your hands full but your life will be full too. As for postp depression make sure you let your Dr know your concerns so he or she can help you make the transition of your new blessing easier....have a great holiday and god bless you and your family B. Mom of three

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T.M.

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So the timing isn't perfect but there is a baby on the way and that is wonderful news. Your husband may have said that he didn't want any more children but if he was really sure about that then he should have gone for the big snip snip. Once he gets over the shock I'm sure he will be fine. Everything will work out, now go tell your family that you have an extra present for the holidays. :)

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E.J.

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First off I am glad your feeling better. You need to see a pregnancy counselor ASAP. Planned parenthood is a good resource for this. I know the baby didn't get there by itself so he will have to accept half the responsibility for your condition. You will have to tell him. Your sister is not getting married until October so you have time for fittings and such no need to worry about that. Your husband can still start his own business your being pregnant wont hinder that. There is Masshealth if your concerned about the medical coverage. Relax take a deep breath go see a counselor at planned parenthood or another organization then tell your husband and family.

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J.K.

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Well my dear, there are a few options. Being a maternity nurse, I'm sure you seen (or at least heard of) people putting their babies up for adoption. What you shouldn't do is hold off telling your husband. He's going to eventually figure it out when he realizes you haven't had your period for a while.
My husband and I have 4 children, and our last baby was a total surprise. It does put tremendous stress on a house to welcome an unplanned pregnancy, but there are ways to ensure that doesn't happen. I had to explain that to my husband.
After my youngest was born, I did what I needed to do (against my religion) and had my tubes tied.
I would have 100 children if I knew I could support them all. We were not supposed to have anymore after our daughter was born, and was very sick for a long time. I've had 2 miscarriages, and did not want to continue worrying about having any more sick kids. That was something I had to talk to with my husband, and I think you should do the same.
The whole time I was freaking out when I found out I was pregnant again, but my husband knew (even though financially it would be tough), that everything would be okay. You may be surprised at how supportive your husband may be.
If he is still adamant about not wanting to have any more kids, then he needs to take care of things before getting into bed! <wink, wink>.

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P.D.

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Sweetie put it in Gods hands and he will provide all the right things for you to do no worries...

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T.M.

answers from Portland on

Right on with the last few responses. I would say the same. If it was me I would just come right out and tell my husband better now then later.
Congratulations and good luck

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