M.S.
Hi S.,
All kids go through this to a point, pushing their limits.. but it should end at some point. It sounds like this has been continual for a while.
My first line of defense is to see if there is any outside stimuli that is causing the behavior. Not all behavior comes from within...some is inflicted. My youngest daughter that was diagnosed with ADHD was very aggressive. A family member convinced me to remove all the synthetic chemicals from the house and from her completely (even soap, shampoo, etc) and when I did I got a beautifully behaved, sweet little girl. I detoxed my entire house. It was almost instantaneous....about eight weeks in, I didn't even recognize her. Turns out, just like a junkie, the chemicals, just like pharmaceuticals, contraindicate and cause aggressive behavior.
My husband is prone to migraines and we have tried everything..from pharmaceuticals to natural remedies to heat and finally landed on a blend of both. One component of the only thing that will help his migraines is benadryl. Most people think this is a benign, over the counter drug, but my husband gets demanding, unreasonable and just plain cranky the day after he has taken it. Any kind of synthetic chemical can create this behavior and I can now explain my daughter's hormonal swings to him because he now understands how behavior and thoughts are created and controlled by chemicals, be it natural or not. Eventhe laundry detergent absorbed through the skin when clothes are worn can be a trigger.
Like I said, my first line of defense is to remove the chemicals. This is a simple and cheap thing to try. If it doesn't help with his behavior, it will definitely help with everyone's health in the home. Let me know if you'd like me to walk you through what I did.
God bless,
M.