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Am I Am Aunt?

This question will probably seem so stupid, but I really want to know! My sister in law is having a baby this May. I am wanting to know if that makes me an official aunt, even though it is by marriage? My sis could never have kids and I did not grow up around any extended family, so I don't want to overstep my bounds. But as far as I know, our kids are first cousins right? I mean my husband is her brother, so I am thinking I am all good. I just am so excited at the prospect of having a niece, but want to be sure I am correct, thanks!

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Yeah, I am so excited! I am throwing her a ladybug baby shower in a couple weeks:) I really liked the idea about the onsies that say best aunt in the world etc.... Plus I only have boys so far so this is a great opportunity to get my pink fix!!! Thanks everyone:)

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Yes you are!

You know, it's funny, because the English language is so imprecise, but in many other languages there are very specific terms to describe different kinds of aunts and uncles -- whether it's the mother's sibling or the father's, and by marriage or blood on either side.

But in English, an Aunt is an Aunt is an Aunt...is YOU.

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Yes, you are an aunt! My brother doesn't have any kids either, but my sister in law does have a daughter and she is my niece. Enjoy, Aunt J.!

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Yes, you are and Auntie!

Being an Auntie (that is what they call me) is the coolest thing I have ever been/done in my life! You get to love them, spoil them, spend lots of time with them...then give them back, HA! *It has made me come to grips with the fact that being a grandma some day wont be that bad either:)

Congrats!

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Congratulations, you're an aunt. But never underestimate the power of "pseudo-aunties" my kids have a few and they are every bit as good as the real thing! Have fun with your new neice or nephew!

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You are definitely an aunt and feel free to tell them how excited you are about becoming an aunt. My SIL shows minimal interest in our kids, despite me constantly showing an interest in my niece (her daughter). It's annoying and hurtful. I would be thrilled if she was excited about being our kids' aunt! You don't have to be blood relatives for it to be meaningful.

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Yes you are an Aunt! Even after my Aunt and Uncle divorced my Aunt was always there , so it doesnt matter that your not blood related! :) Congradulations!!

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Yes, you are an aunt! My brother doesn't have any kids either, but my sister in law does have a daughter and she is my niece. Enjoy, Aunt J.!

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CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
You are an official Aunt!!!!!
Blessings

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Yes you are!

You know, it's funny, because the English language is so imprecise, but in many other languages there are very specific terms to describe different kinds of aunts and uncles -- whether it's the mother's sibling or the father's, and by marriage or blood on either side.

But in English, an Aunt is an Aunt is an Aunt...is YOU.

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Congrats on becoming an aunt!
It is so interesting, in my culture/language we have different names for different aunts (mom's sister, dad's sister, and in-law aunts all have different names). So you wouldn't be asking this question at all :-))
Maybe it's better in English, in that there is no distinction between blood and in-law aunts.

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LOL......of course it makes you an aunt!!!!! Enjoy!!! =0)

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Absolutely!!! My son has tons of "aunties" that aren't even related by blood or marriage. I have him call all my close girlfriends Auntie so-and-so, and their kids do the same. I've also had an Auntie by marriage (not related to me by blood) who divorced the family member and I still call her Auntie to this day. I actually prefer her over the imbecile she divorced LOL. Your SIL should be thrilled to have you so excited about the birth of her child. There is no such thing as a baby getting too much love from too many people.

Have a great time and enjoy every minute of it.

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Yes, you are and Auntie!

Being an Auntie (that is what they call me) is the coolest thing I have ever been/done in my life! You get to love them, spoil them, spend lots of time with them...then give them back, HA! *It has made me come to grips with the fact that being a grandma some day wont be that bad either:)

Congrats!

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Congratulations on becoming an Aunt. It is alot of fun; spoil and send her/him back. And Aunts are cooler than parents.
I have a Sister and we met as Teachers 19 yrs ago. Long story short we are both from the midwest and got along so well her parents thought we were really Sisters. It stuck, and when my kids came along she was, and still is their Aunt. They didn't even get that it was not a "blood" relative until they were 11. So YES you are officially an Aunt!! Have Fun!

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Absolutely!! Congrats Aunt J.!!

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Yes, enjoy it! My husband has two nephews and they are just as much my nephews as my sister's child. Also, my favorite aunt is my dad's brother's wife. She is someone I admire more than my mom's sisters.

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Unless she has a boy, then you'll be an uncle.

Seriously, yes, you will be an aunt and congratulations!

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CONGRATULATIONS on being an aunt!!! Have fun with your new neice and go crazy!

congrats your an aunt! and yes your kids are first cousins. btw there are tons of onesies that say best aunt or i love my aunt. have fun!

Of course it does! If you weren't related by marriage, say for instance you were just dating a family member then it may be a different situation but yes, I'd definitly say you would be!

Your all good Auntie!!

I call my husband's brothers' kids my nieces and nephews. I even call my ex boyfriend (who I have a son with) - I call his nieces and nephews my nieces and nephews and they call me their aunt still and we haven't been together in almost 10 years! You are an aunt!!! :) Congratulations!

Yes you are so let the spoiling begin!!!

All of my nieces and nephews are the same to me.It doesn't matter to me if they are through me or my Husband!I do not call them "his niece" or "his nephew"Each one of them are different and I love them in different ways.In fact I have a much closer bond to a couple of them that are "actually" his neice or nephew than I do my own blood related nephew!It's great that you are super excited and I am sure she will be happy to have you as the baby's "aunt!"

You are correct. If it's your husband's sister that is having the baby, you are the baby's aunt and your children and hers, will be first cousins.

yep- you are an aunt! Have fun!

You are an Aunt. As long as you are married to your husband when his niece/nephew is born, you are an Aunt. Enjoy it. I've enjoyed being an awesome Aunt to all my neices and nephews, even the ones that belong because of marriage.

Yes, I truly think that you are even though it's by marriage!

Absolutely!

Enjoy every moment of it - I love being an Aunt. Much different than being a mom, but just as rewarding.

I think you're an aunt! :) Congratulations.!

I consider my brother in law to be my son's uncle, and my husband calls their kid his nephew. So I say yes.

Really it all comes down to personal relationships though. My favorite "aunt" isn't a relative at all, but was my mom's best friend her whole life. There is no good title for that relationship so I call her my aunt. How is your relationship with your in-laws? You can be as much of a doting aunt as you want to, and hopefully they will love and appreciate you for it. I think the more people a child (or an adult) has that they can call "family", the better.

Absolutely, Auntie J.!

yes u are an aunt. congratz

ABSOLUTELY, your an aunt even though its by marriage. You can even be the aunt even if your divorced. That all depends on how you and the ex sister-in-law feels. My sister and her husband divorced recently and her ex husband is still my daughters uncle no matter what. I owuld not have it any other way. They spend time together on a regular basis especially since my daughter plays softball. So its all about how you feel and the parents.

So enjoy being an aunt.... Its wonderful!!!!!

You are definitely an AUNT! I love the fact that my son has 2 Aunties (my sisters) from my side and 3 Aunties from his fathers side. Two of which are married to his brothers and one his sister. :-) ENJOY being an Auntie!!!

you are totally an aunt :) congratulations!!!

Yes, you are an Aunt. Spoil away :)

Of course you're an aunt! I am an aunt to my sister-in-law's 2 daughters and I just love that role!! She even surprised me by asking me to be the godmother to her second daughter! I treat them as my own kids! Have fun with it! It's great to spoil them and send them back to the parents! Of course, inturn, they do the same thing to my daughter! :)

Congrats!!!

Yes, you are an aunt. CONGRATULATIONS.

I think you are definitely an aunt!! Go crazy!! Congrats!! Ok well not crazy, but first buy some gifts and sign the card Aunt J.. and wait. If nothing is said, then when you hold the baby refer to yourself as Aunt J., if still nothing is said, then I think it is safe to say you are in the clear! Go Nuts!!

You are definitely an aunt & your kids & hers are 1st cousins. Often the aunt on any side is the one who remembers occasions, picks out gifts, cards, is concerned about their welfare, etc., & her kids may actually come to think of you as the "real" aunt.

Congrats!!! It's a neice or nephew.

YES!!! You are an aunt!! Congratulations!! =)

I have not read any of the other posts, so I appologize for repeating anything someone else has already said.

'Legal' answer (my husband does the family tree research in our families):

Yes! Celebrate! You are officially an aunt! Any children born to your husband's sisters or brothers are your nieces and nephews. If you have any one researching genealogy (study/research of family trees) and they print out a list of how each person is related to this new baby, then you will be listed as Aunt and your children and her children will be listed as first cousins. Your sister will not be listed as Aunt to the children of your husband's sister nor you to the kids of your sister's husband's siblings, but y'all can enjoy it "unofficially" if that's the way y'all do it. My brother-in-law's sister's kids (my sister's sister-in-law's kids) are not my kids' official cousins but we all call them that whenever we are together: her kids call me "aunt" and my kids call her "aunt".

Enjoy! Have fun! Love them all!

You are definitely an aunt! Enjoy all the benefits!

Well of course you are!! My favorite aunt is my Dad's sister..which made her my mom's sister in law!! Get it!! So by all means you get in there and aunt away!! The fact that you have presented this questions proves that you are not one to be selfish and over step any parental boundaries~~ In the long run, trust me, they will be happy to have you as a loving and caring Auntie for there little one~~

ABSOLUTELY!!! My kids think there is nothing better than time with their cousins.

Congrats, Auntie J.!

You are TOTALLY an aunt, congrats!

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