J.V. asks from Clearwater, FL on December 08, 2008
All of a Sudden Fighting Sleep????
I need some advice from some experienced mommy's. My son just turned 5 months old and it seems like the last couple of weeks getting him to bed is been totally not like him and kind of frustrating. Before all this change my fiance and I would start getting him ready for a bed around six (bath, bottle,rubbing his head,sshhhhing him) and he would fall right to sleep in is crib. Now all of a sudden he will not have it, we have tried rocking him keeping him up a little longer maybe hes not tired (till 8)letting him cry a little and nothing works. The only thing that does is walking him around the house for like an hour until his little eyes finally close, which in the mean time hes very upset and my fiance and I feel so bad having him cry every night to go to sleep. I really hope there is a solution, the walking around works its just very (NOT EASY) so if you have any advice I would be more than grateful.
So What Happened?™
Thank you Thank you Thank you for all the responses. It feels so great to have all of you to turn to when doctors don't understand and you have no one else to turn to. So we tried using the swing again and who knew it worked like a charm. So now we are still doing what we use to just putting him down in his swing when we know he is tired and he falls right asleep. So thanks again to all who helped me. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!
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R.W. answers from Tampa on December 09, 2008
Walking him was the worst thing you could have done. Once you start it it is very hard to stop. He may be not getting enough to eat. You don't say if he acts normal the rest of the time. But there could also be a medical reason that he is not sleeping. It is hard to give anyone advice without knowing if his behavior is normal the rest of the time. Babies do change sleeping habits as they grow. It just may be that he doesn't need the required sleep he once needed. I always put my youngest down around 10:00 or 11:00 at night and she would sleep all through the night. Six seems really early. Try a later bed time. Oh, and stop walking him unless you want to walk him every night until he is three......
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L.M. answers from Fort Myers on December 09, 2008
Could it be that he is still hungry? Both my kids did the same thing, but it ended when I started to feed them solids right before bed.
R.L. answers from Naples on December 09, 2008
He might be teething. There's a homeopathic teething liquid made by Gentle Naturals (the kind with the disney characters on the bottles) and it has chammomile in it, so it helps stop the pain AND calm the little one down. I've found it to be a lifesaver. The only place i can find it, though is Sweetbay and online. It's about $10/a bottle, but lasts a long time and is worth it! Some other things that worked for us are music, and checking on him on increasing increments of time, for example: 3 minutes, then 6 minutes, then 12 minutes. You can gradually increase the time. It hurts your heart to hear him cry, but you'll appreciate it later if you can nip this now. :) Hang in there, guys....you're doing a great job!!!!
H.B. answers from Tampa on December 13, 2008
There is absolutely nothing wrong with walking him, holding him,rocking him or any other snugglu means of showing him you love him and care about him. Keep up the good work at being a warm, loving parent! Parenting isn't all about rules and schedules.... It's nice to just go with their flow and give them whatever they need at their different stages. You will raise an affectionate, loving and secure child from the way you care for them and respond to them now. You are right to not let him cry for you. Nothing could be more stressful and traumatic to be a young baby that has parents that refuse to respond or hold them when they cry...
These sleep patterns sound totally normal. Just when they develop one routine, they will grow, develop and change again! Hang in there, keep giving all the love and support you can and enjoy every moment.... Even when it's frustrating or your tired. These days will pass in a flash and you will only have memories of walking your little one until they sleep! Best wishes!
A.G. answers from Punta Gorda on December 09, 2008
I would try giving him a little more to eat, maybe even try cereal. Also if you have a baby swing, that might be a god send. Good Luck and do not worry, this is only a phase, and in no time he will be on to the next phase.
J.S. answers from Tampa on December 09, 2008
HI J.,
It can be really hard sometimes being a mom, let alone a new one. My daughter is almost 5 months and she too has begun to change her habbits. With my first child I spoiled him by nursing him to sleep with me in bed and he did not find his bed till about 5. Now with Nina I do have somewhat of a shedule and it seems to work. The older they get the more they change. Try starting your routine an hour later tonight. or maybe prolonging his nap in the afternoon. Routine is the best thing for baby. Kids need structure and need to know what is happening next. He may be teething and need that extra comfort. which is fine but walking him around to sleeep will become an old habbit fast. Try a swing and reading to him. Let me know how you make out. Best wishes.
jen
T.S. answers from Tampa on December 09, 2008
That's normal. They're just becoming more alert to their surroundings and it's almost like if they go to sleep they will miss something so they fight it and stay up. Unfortunately, you will have to spend more time with your baby when you're normally used to him going to sleep early. Mine started staying up a lot later and we would just sit her in a bouncer seat that vibrates and keep her around us so she could watch what we were doing. A swing does wonders and soon he'll be able to start learning how to sit in an actual jumperoo. That keeps them occupied and tires them out some.
R.W. answers from Tampa on December 09, 2008
Walking him was the worst thing you could have done. Once you start it it is very hard to stop. He may be not getting enough to eat. You don't say if he acts normal the rest of the time. But there could also be a medical reason that he is not sleeping. It is hard to give anyone advice without knowing if his behavior is normal the rest of the time. Babies do change sleeping habits as they grow. It just may be that he doesn't need the required sleep he once needed. I always put my youngest down around 10:00 or 11:00 at night and she would sleep all through the night. Six seems really early. Try a later bed time. Oh, and stop walking him unless you want to walk him every night until he is three......
K.B. answers from Tampa on December 09, 2008
There is a great book - Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child. It explains the sleep cyles of newborns and it will probably have an answer for you. Is your child napping? At 5 months he should be taking 3 naps - one around 9am one around 1pm and one around 4pm. At about 8 months the last nap drops out so you will have to put him to bed earlier otherwise he will be overtired and fight falling asleep. My daughter was asleep by 5:30 when she was 7 months old. Start the wind down earlier - keeping him up later is not the answer because it sounds like he is overtired and can't settle down.
Good Luck!
K.
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